Meeting people on VK and other social networks has now become the norm. Moreover, in many cases, girls are active and ultimately receive rewards for their courage. If you look at it, there is nothing supernatural about a woman trying to start a conversation in the 21st century. Long gone are the days when representatives of the fair sex had to sit modestly in their “little room” and silently wait for the knight. Not everyone, we note, waited.
Now you can take the initiative into your own hands. The main thing is to do it correctly. The question of what to write to a guy when meeting him on VK comes to the forefront in importance. The phrase should not spoil the first impression and should contribute to a successful start to the correspondence. This article collects certain positive experiences on this topic.
Where to begin
The first thing you need to do is go to the dating group, look at its subscribers and decide on your favorite one. You can go the other way by finding a person using VK filters. After the prince on a white horse is found, the most difficult thing begins - the beginning of communication. Many people don’t know what questions to ask a guy when meeting on VK, what to talk about and what to tell about themselves. There is no need to start with radical messages; it is much better when the correspondence is pleasant and unobtrusive.
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In order to find common interests, you should carefully study the young man’s page, find out about his interests, musical preferences and hobbies. This information can be obtained by viewing the list of his groups and playlist, as well as by examining posts on the wall. You should start with a banal “Hello”, after which you should try to start a conversation on a topic that interests both of you.
It is important to respond to messages quickly; you don’t need to ignore them for 4 hours, as this will instantly push you away. The interlocutor will not be interested for long if he is not hooked.
Attracting attention (comments, likes)
If you don’t dare add him as a friend or write the first message to the guy you like, then you can simply like him, write a comment under his photo or post on the wall.
In this simple way, you can show interest and make it clear that you expect the young man to take the first serious step in his direction. Don’t overdo it with such intrigues so as not to seem like an intrusive girl, because they don’t like that. Drop a hint and let the guy decide on his own.
If you interest him, he will certainly reciprocate your feelings and take the initiative into his own hands.
How to recognize a man's interest?
Setting up your profile correctly
It’s very good if you managed to find out interesting information about a guy when analyzing his page. It’s just important to take into account that he will think the same way and the first thing he will want to do is look at the photographs, interests and hobbies of the new interlocutor. If the profile is empty, the chances of pleasant communication are reduced, because there will be no mutual interest. If a guy goes to the page and sees an attractive girl with similar interests, then the likelihood of meeting him and further communication increases significantly. To make everything go smoothly, it is better to unsubscribe from dubious public pages and fill your profile with colorful photographs.
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Important nuances of searching for a candidate
If everything is clear about how to start meeting a guy on VKontakte networks, then more difficulties may arise with finding a candidate. Perhaps this is the most crucial stage, because few people would like to have a negative experience instead of a love story. In order for everything to go smoothly in the future, it is not recommended to meet guys whose profiles are empty. This is too dangerous a lottery - you can start communicating with a person, and then find out that he does not correspond to the girl’s taste preferences. It will be very difficult to say this, because there is a risk of offending a person.
You shouldn’t get acquainted with those with whom the girl obviously has a different worldview. This can give rise to many conflicts even in the early stages of communication, will lead to an unpleasant aftertaste and will discourage the desire to make acquaintances with anyone online.
Start dating on VK
Sometimes a simple “Hello” is not enough, such a message can be ignored. It becomes unclear to some what to write to a guy on VKontakte in order to unobtrusively get to know him and get him to like him. It's better to write the truth. There is no need to come up with stupid reasons; honesty will always be held in high esteem. Many guys are positive about online dating. If a young man does not want to communicate, then it is better to find out about this at the beginning of the correspondence than after 2 weeks of communication.
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How to continue communication
If the guy doesn't mind dating, then it's best to talk about his interests. After this, it is recommended to propose a meeting in real life - this will dispel all illusions about the frivolity of such acquaintances. Live communication always helps to get closer; it will never be replaced by online correspondence.
When walking, it is important to remain yourself; you don’t need to pretend to be someone the girl really isn’t. After a little time, everyone will begin to behave the way they have behaved all their lives, so the myths about the ideal image of a girl will be dispelled. This can serve as the basis for the emergence of daily conflicts, because a person met one girl, but communicates with a completely different one.
General rules
The reason for meeting a young man online can be a like on a photo, a nice comment, or a smiley face. If the guy answered them, you can write the first message. But we need to build the dialogue correctly. Follow the recommendations of experienced pickup artists:
- Be sure to greet the man. Make it casual and original. “Salute!”, Hi, I’ve never seen fish like those in your photo from the “Travel” album. Tell me.”
- Please wait for an answer. Let an hour or a day pass. If a man drags his feet with letters, also take a long pause.
- Ask what he does in life, what his interests are. Keep quiet about yourself for now, create intrigue. The guy will probably study your profile himself.
- Do not use complex, ornate syllables in your letters. Choose simple, easy vocabulary.
- Don't track your boyfriend's visits to the site. He may be in “Invisible” status and log into the messenger not only to communicate with you, but also with other users. Resentment due to silence at the initial stage of communication is inappropriate.
- Do not comment on all his posts, photos, videos. Assertive behavior will push a man away and he will feel an invasion of his personal space.
- Do not send pictures or videos in bulk. The male sex is annoyed by gifs and songs in personal messages. Although everyone has different tastes. If you feel that you can interest him in this way, use this method, just select photos and articles that will hook him.
- Think in advance about what to ask the guy in correspondence. Smart men ignore stupid questions. Study it, read the answers carefully, react to changes in tone and behavior.
- Act like a lady. Do not use slang, swear words, or vulgar jokes. Be careful with abbreviations and foreign words. “PZHL”, instead of please, computer, soap and so on make the speech rude, as if the dialogue is being conducted with a robot. Exude sensuality, emotion, tenderness.
Men love simplicity. They are attracted by easy communication, they feel that the woman wants to please. Keep it simple, don’t emphasize your superiority, then the guy will definitely want to continue communication at least at the level of friendship.
On a note! Before you interest a guy, get your profile in order. Upload a fresh photo, delete unnecessary friends, leave ambiguous groups dedicated to virtual, female pickup and others.
How to communicate to be liked
It’s always important to understand what you can ask a guy when meeting him on VK, and what it’s better to keep silent about. There is a list of universal themes that will suit absolutely everyone:
- Trips. All people love to travel, dream of visiting many countries and seeing fabulous places. You can try to build a fascinating dialogue on this.
- Sports is a topic that interests the vast majority of guys.
- A win-win option is conversations about films, TV series, music or bloggers. This is interesting to almost everyone; it is difficult to find a person who is isolated from the culture, especially among those who are on social networks.
- If the interlocutor is an intelligent person, you can discuss books with him. When meeting this type of guy, it is important to understand that the girl’s intellectual development should be at approximately the same level, otherwise the young man will not be interested.
The advice that it is important to remain yourself does not cease to apply even when conducting correspondence. To show that you have common interests, you can also subscribe to public pages with similar topics. Ideally, you can subscribe to the same groups, but it’s important not to overdo it—everything should look natural.
Vulgar attacks on a guy
29. I don’t know what you think about me, but I hope it’s something forbidden.
30. You're hotter than a sunburn.
31. Your lips wrinkled a little. Do you mind if I smooth them out?
32. I see a future in which you and I are together.
33. Do you mind if I kiss you right now?
34. I wanted to tell you that my lips won’t kiss themselves.
35. Sorry. But your shirt will have to come off. But you can stay.
36. This shirt looks really cool on you, just like me.
37. You make me melt like ice cream under the bright rays of the sun.
38. Your lips need a kiss. Let's not waste time.
39. Stop looking at me. I can get pregnant this way.
40. Do you want to become lucky? Come with me.
41. I love my bed, but I would like to be in yours.
42. Do you have room in your mouth for my tongue?
43. You were a bad boy. Quickly to my bedroom.
44. My hands are so cold. Can you put them in your pants to keep them warm?
45. Do you mind if I ask what your name is? I want to know whose name I'll be screaming tonight.
46. Your pants are so cool. Mind if I check the zipper?
47. Do you think we should check how our genes fit together?
48. I heard that the birth rate in the world is falling. Maybe we can fix this tonight?
49. I see your knees are free. Can I sit on them?
50. Maybe we should stop exchanging memes and get down to business.
51. Start posting notices about your disappearance. I'm going to lock you in my room for a long time.
52. You are like hot chocolate, and I am like marshmallows. You're hot and I want to be on top.
53. You got something on your face. Let me wipe it with my tongue.
Errors in correspondence
There is a lot of advice on how to meet the right guy on VK, but it is important to understand that not all topics are best raised in the early stages of communication. These include:
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- relationships with ex-girlfriends;
- family problems and conflicts;
- health problems;
- gray topics filled with negativity (religion, politics, etc.).
There is no need to start communication with negative points, as this causes negative emotions and a lack of desire to continue acquaintance.
What messages are best to send before going to bed at night?
At any stage of a relationship, pleasant messages before bed play an important role. A caring girl can write a nice good night message to a guy to show her tenderness and care. Before going to bed, the chosen ones often dream and like to imagine their beloved, so the words should express love.
A few examples that are recommended to write to guys before bed:
- “I would climb into your dreams to make them more beautiful and pleasant”
- “I can’t sleep because of the moon and thoughts of my beloved”
In the morning you need to be cheerful and write to your chosen one in a good mood. To begin with, to write to a guy in the morning, a simple and good phrase “Good morning!” will do. It is recommended to add a guy's nickname or nickname that will be associated specifically with you.
Advice from psychologists
Considering all of the above, it becomes clear how best to get to know a guy on VK. Correspondence should be kind, unobtrusive, filled with positive and cheerful moments. The main advice from psychologists is to be yourself, not wear masks and have a dialogue about common hobbies or favorite musical groups. It is important not to cross the acceptable line and not start political or religious conflicts.
At further stages of communication, psychologists do not recommend showing jealousy. This will not tie a guy to a girl - it will have the opposite effect, he will want to break the taboos. Relationships based on mistrust cannot last long.
You shouldn't talk about gender stereotypes. Few people like to hear: “Why should a girl drive?”, “A woman should sit at home and cook.” It will be unpleasant for a guy to hear from a girlfriend: “A man must,” “He must,” etc.
Psychologists have a negative attitude towards starting acquaintances by talking about their problems. Yes, in this way the girl hints that she needs male support, but few people want to have additional problems, especially considering that the new acquaintance is still a stranger. It is much better to start the dialogue with a joke and set a positive mood.
To get acquainted on VKontakte, you don’t need to reinvent the wheel, it’s better to be yourself and treat people with respect. Kind and positive correspondence will help build similar relationships in the future. Any girl who decides to meet a new guy wants to achieve a similar result.
First, fill out your page correctly
On any dating site, you need to correctly fill out your personal page. Here you need to indicate not only age and other banal facts. The main thing is to interest the guy you like, so you can beautifully describe your hobbies or life positions.
On VKontakte
Today, one of the most popular social networks is VKontakte, so you can start looking for your prince right here. The main thing is to fill out the “About Me” section correctly. Here you should describe only your merits and best qualities. But don’t go too far, so as not to push the man away. Especially for you, we have selected several successful examples.
- Cute and fluffy. I love walks in the fresh air and films about love. I'm looking for a man in whose arms I can fall asleep every evening with a smile on my face.
- I am an ambitious girl who knows exactly what she wants from life. Brave and decisive, so if I like you, rest assured, I will write first. Okay, just kidding, I just want to wrap myself in a blanket and eat cookies.
- I work as a professional wedding photographer. During my career, I have seen many happy couples and I hope that sooner or later I will become a bride myself.
In fact, filling out the “About Me” section is not that difficult. The main thing is to sincerely write what you want and what you expect, so as not to waste time with men who are not suitable for you.
On Instagram
To meet a man, you can choose Instagram. But again, without a correctly filled out “About Me” field, the chances of success may be minimal. You must fill out this section in an original way. We'll tell you what to write.
- I love strong men and strong coffee. And when a strong man brings strong coffee in the morning, I love it even more.
- Kind and responsive. Always ready to help her friends. But unfortunately, no one ever helps me, so I’m also fragile. How you want to find a man behind whom you could feel like behind a stone wall.
- An athlete, a Komsomol member and simply a role model. Don’t use phrases for boring introductions, use your imagination.
Further communication will depend on how much your page can interest a man, so try to think through everything to the smallest detail.
On thematic forums
Here everything is a little more complicated, since there is no column that you can simply fill out and wait for your gentleman. Here you need to act according to a specific plan.
- You need to intervene in any conversations where you notice a handsome and smart man.
- Even if you don’t quite understand the question posed, you can improvise and answer sweetly and tenderly so that the man pays attention to you.
- If someone from whom you have been waiting for decisive action for a long time speaks to you, then you should not immediately describe how long you have been waiting for this. Let him know that you are interested in him, but he still needs to try to earn your sympathy.
Of course, everything will depend on what topic the forum relates to and what topic was touched upon, but you can get acquainted in any situation.
