Just yesterday everything was wonderful: they smiled, looking into each other’s eyes, had a nice conversation, radiated pleasure from communication, and promises of mutual calls. The man actively begged for a phone number, and the woman flirted coyly and finally dictated the long-awaited numbers.
Ah, today there have been drastic changes. The cell phone is silent, the woman is nervous. He didn’t call in the morning, didn’t call at lunchtime, and didn’t call in the evening. What to do? Any individual of the fair sex will fall into panic from such events, especially if she has managed to fall head over heels in love with a new boyfriend. No matter what the girl does or says, her thoughts revolve around a small black object, which terribly angers with its silence. No calls, no news, as if last night never happened... Why doesn’t the man call? We will answer this question and others in our article at the link.
Don't turn into a maniac
If you also have his number, promise us:
do not call him first ( exception: you promised to call him yourself);
do not pretend that you have the wrong number ( exception: you really are wrong);
do not write to him on Telegram that he is handsome in the photo ( the advantage of most messengers: you can show the handsome guy to your girlfriend);
do not look for him on Facebook to determine where he goes most often and do not watch for him in this place ( exception: what are you doing! No exceptions. This is generally some kind of persecution).
Women's thoughts
A very popular situation is when a guy takes a phone number and does not call the girl back. An offensive moment. If a young lady has provided her gentleman with her own number, it means she is waiting for news from him and the continuation of the budding romance. But the man doesn’t call, and the female mind feverishly puts forward a lot of negative reasons for ignoring him:
- he is not interested in her;
- I took the number out of politeness, not wanting to continue the acquaintance;
- he is married and has many children;
- I didn’t save the number, lost it, accidentally deleted it;
- keeps the number just in case and is in no hurry to call;
- decided to laugh at the poor naive girl;
- as they say, “I screwed it up and threw it away”...;
- their meeting was a bitter mistake!
You shouldn’t immediately fall into despair if the young man is in no hurry to use the woman’s number. Perhaps he has quite good reasons for some absence.
Be honest with yourself
He may not call. It’s bad, of course, you don’t give out numbers to everyone, but honestly.
Do you remember how in “Promise does not mean marriage,” Drew Barrymore’s character was told: “If a man wants to call, he will call.” Well, we hope he wants to.
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Things come first2
It is impossible for a woman to understand the fact that work and study are valid reasons for a man’s “silence.” They pout offendedly: “Whoever wants to, will find time for a phone call!” Absolutely true, but not entirely. Men are completely different creatures than women. They focus on one thing, while women have the opportunity to think about several things at once.
While performing important tasks, or solving a problem at work, a guy can think about a woman, remember the time spent with delight, dream, wanting to call, but not have such an opportunity. First, he will settle current affairs, and then allow himself to relax. As the song says: “Planes come first, and then girls!”
The unloved one is waiting for a call from me...4
It is worth recognizing the fact that a guy may indeed not call back due to his own indifference. He may be married or single. The evening spent with the lovely lady gave him pleasant impressions, but he has no further opportunity or desire to continue communicating with her. I took the phone number out of politeness, or giving in to a momentary impulse. A new day has come, and the man realizes that a certain “Marina” in his contacts is one of those subscribers whom he will never dial. Or, someday. Boredom.
The girl goes on the attack6
What should a poor, anxious girl do, waiting for a phone call day and night? First of all, calm down and surrender to the will of Fate. A man's silence does not always mean his indifference. He may be busy, upset, out of tune, and generally overwhelmed with huge problems. You need to give him time, and for each guy it is individual: a day, a week, a month, and even six months...
Should a woman take the first step and call first? Controversial issue. Perhaps the guy lost the young lady’s number and got busy looking for some contacts of a beautiful stranger. In this case, her call will be very helpful. In modern times, active women have not surprised anyone for a long time, but it is still worth knowing. One phone call from a girl will help you continue communication with a guy or dot the i’s. But under no circumstances should you pursue a man:
- call several times a day;
- bombard with questions like: “Why didn’t you call?”
- look for meetings, keep watch near work and home;
- send intrusive SMS.
A friendly call from a woman with an unobtrusive and discreet desire to communicate is quite acceptable. But if at the other end of the line they do not want to continue dating, the girl needs to politely say goodbye and delete the contact.
If a man needs a woman, sooner or later he will find a reason, a reason and an opportunity to contact her.
What we protect: if a man doesn’t call after the first intimacy
It’s quite common for a man to simply disappear after you’ve spent a great night together. Girls tend to immediately start making plans, and almost start planning a wedding, and the chosen one simply disappears and never appears again. This, of course, is regrettable, but you should not rush headlong into the pool until you get to know each other well, otherwise such cases can literally haunt you.
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Unfortunately, not everyone who walks the streets of your city are real gentlemen and gallant, responsible and selfless knights on white horses. It may happen that he simply didn’t need anything from you except your bed, so there’s no point in calling him, especially since you shouldn’t ask him to come back, wait at the door of your office or home.
A man suddenly disappeared at the beginning of a relationship
You started a relationship, everything seemed to be fine, perhaps you even managed to become friends not only with your hearts, but also with your bodies. And then bam - you realize that it’s been washed away for a whole week. Or he gradually faded away, called less and less often, and the time between meetings lasted longer and longer, and eventually stopped showing signs of life. You feel crushed, and thoughts are swarming in circles in your head: “Why? What did I do wrong? How can I fix everything?”
Alas, not all men have the courage to at least write a text message saying that everything is over between you. Not to mention a personal meeting. And is this meeting necessary? There is no longer a relationship, and what difference does it make how he told you about it? What if he didn’t say anything and just disappeared without explanation?
In this case, women most often begin to blame themselves. And in vain.
If you disappear at the beginning of a relationship, the reasons may be different:
1. He died or something tragic happened to him. Again, it is possible. This is a very unlikely case, so I highly recommend not calling him, asking if everything is okay with him, and if he has breathed his last. Moreover, you shouldn’t wait at the door of his apartment to “just talk and dot the t’s.”
If you have been in a relationship for some time and are very worried about his life, ask mutual friends about him once. If they are not there and there is no one to find out about its existence, then you can still easily check it yourself. Wait for him near work or home. The main thing is to do it from afar and don’t catch the eye of either him or your mutual friends! Otherwise, he will think too much about himself, or worse, he will feel like a victim of an abnormal hunter and is unlikely to ever show up.
As a last resort, you can also write him a message: “Hi, how are you?” Delivered, but no response, and yet it regularly appears online? So, point number 2.
2. He just doesn't like you. Maybe you liked him initially, but didn’t like him, he saw that you and he had different interests, views on life and goals, and you weren’t on the same path. Or he started dating you out of boredom, without thinking about whether he likes you. Doesn’t it really happen to women that, out of boredom, they indulge a little in a relationship with someone who is not very interesting and with whom nothing long-term is initially planned? The boredom has passed, and the need for a relationship with you has disappeared. How can he explain this? That’s why he prefers to evaporate in silence.
Hunter and hunted: if a man doesn't call
Having several quite interesting meetings behind them, the girls wonder why the man suddenly stopped calling. It may not be as simple as a lost number, embarrassment, or being busy at work. It is quite possible that you actually fell into the clutches of a real manipulator. This often happens if, after futile attempts to get something from you, for example, sex, he receives a real rebuff. In this case, the manipulative guy may deliberately stop calling to express his dissatisfaction and present you with a kind of ultimatum.
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Such men can use the entire arsenal from the category “The less we love a woman,” and if after a long silence there is a call with a gracious permission to see you, immediately run away. You should never allow anyone to surreptitiously guide your actions or play on your feelings, because it won’t take long for you to fall into addiction, which will not be easy to get rid of.
Why no explanation?
It would seem, well, just say humanly that you don’t want to continue, and that’s the end of it. A woman will not suffer in the unknown. But no. And why is that?
The main reason for this is fear. Suddenly you start making trouble, sort things out, accuse him of all sins, cut off his phone, watch at the door, threaten, or even smash his car or face. And so it seems that he hid his head in the sand, and you see - everything will sort itself out, she will survive and calm down.
Although his hopes look stupid, it is still pointless to blame him for them. After all, women often do even worse than he could imagine in his worst nightmare. If all women calmly reacted to the proposal to leave, did not reproach him and did not cry, did not try to get a reason from him, did not persuade him to change his mind and stay where he does not want to stay, then it is quite possible that he would not disappear after all. English
That is, if women knew their worth and behaved with dignity. If he doesn’t want to, it means he doesn’t want to, this is his decision and choice, it is impossible to be suitable for everyone, and you are good enough to arrange your personal life happily without him. If all women had this much self-esteem and confidence, the world would be a completely different place, full of responsible men. I wrote in detail about the benefits of female dignity in family happiness in this article.
Also, the reason may be the feeling of being the navel of the Earth. He is sure that everyone around him thinks and feels the same as he does. In his head, he has built logical arguments why your relationship has no future, and he is absolutely sure that everything is just as clear to you, this is more than logical!
He doesn’t take into account that this is only logical for him, and you have your own feelings about the relationship with him, and about all other reasons too. Needless to say, women are guilty of this no less often. For example, when you are sure that it is logical - after six months of a relationship, buy the most expensive ring that you can afford, invite you to a restaurant, get down on one knee and, shedding tears of love and admiration, propose to the woman.
And he may have his own logic about when, to whom and how to make an offer. The woman gets offended and leaves him, and he doesn’t even understand why he was abandoned.
Or a woman thinks that it is logical and natural to help her when she is puffing and straining, dragging bags from the store, or washing dishes late at night, when everyone is already asleep. But this is not logical for a man - well, since she washes and drags, that means she wants to do it, she needs it, well, for her health, he has nothing to do with it.
People with poor boundaries tend to judge by themselves. This is how two adult small children, who still have not realized where one person ends and another begins, ruin each other’s relationships and lives.
Another option could be a period of doubt. When a woman has gone a little too far with the approach, and he wants to move away to see if he will be pulled back. If she doesn’t get hysterical and just minds her own business, then most likely he will get bored and will be attracted to her again.
The man took the phone number and disappeared immediately after meeting
Variant of the story. He saw you on a bus passing by, ran after you for a whole block, got on the bus at a stop and, very embarrassed, asked for your phone number, because he really liked you and was generally the girl of his dreams. At the same time, he was sober and adequate.
You agreed that he would call in the evening, and... 2 weeks have passed since then, and not a call from him, not a tiny text message. Why the hell did you get the number, you ask? It's annoying!
Why couldn't he call:
- he just didn't feel like it anymore. It happens that the romantic mood passes, a man switches to his life and forgets about this little adventure. Perhaps he was just bored, waiting for something, whiled away a free evening and had a little fun getting to know you, without originally planning to call. Or maybe he is even too lazy to get involved in a new relationship, especially if there is at least some alternative;
- he made a mistake in writing the phone number, or the number was not saved. Or maybe the phone committed suicide right after we met, or it was stolen. Oops, bad luck this time. Quite an unlikely situation. And if he really liked you a lot, most likely he will find a way to meet you;
- he is married or in a committed relationship. He couldn’t contain his impulse and met you, but then he thought it over and decided not to get involved in a relationship on the side. Or I hid your number away so that I can call you when the opportunity arises and my wife goes somewhere. While I was waiting, I forgot what you looked like and called the one I could remember (and that’s for the best);
- he met you on a bet, as proof he had to show your phone number, or your number is a trophy in itself that you can show off to your friends;
How to get a guy to call after a fight?
External ways to get a guy to call
The easiest option is to “randomly” dial his number and hang up after a couple of rings.
There is a 90% chance that he will call you back, maybe not right away, but he will call you back. Firstly, he will be tormented by curiosity about what you wanted to tell him, and secondly, if he simply did not dare to call first, then now this problem has disappeared. When the guy gets through to you, you can do two things: honestly admit that it was you who “missed” him because you couldn’t stand the separation, or feign sincere surprise that he allegedly missed a call from you, you can say something like:
The second way is, again, supposedly “accidentally” bump into him somewhere on the street (in a store, in a cafe, near the gym, near his place of work, etc.) When you meet him, express sincere surprise and add that you are here supposedly “on business.” You don’t have to go through with the meeting, but simply walk past somewhere a little far away, but so that he notices you. Needless to say, at any of these moments you must be “fully armed.” A stylish outfit that emphasizes all the advantages of your figure, makeup, beautifully styled hair and, most importantly, a good mood.
Seeing you so “fragrant”, the guy will probably call you within the next couple of days. After all, firstly, his expectations will be completely destroyed, because he thought that you were quietly suffering and tormented by the fact that he was not around and were waiting for him, his beloved. Secondly, he may begin to fear that you have already found a replacement for him, since you look so happy, and thirdly, he will simply see how beautiful you are and he will understand what he is missing.
Mental ways to get a guy to call you
Stop thinking about him and “break” the energy threads. When people communicate for a long time, they become attached to each other on an energetic level
Then, if one person suddenly drops out of this connection (stops thinking about the partner, switches his attention, that is, temporarily breaks the connection), then the second will certainly feel it. That's why situations so often happen when exes suddenly show up for no reason at the very moment when you have already met a new love
Therefore, if you want a guy to remember you, then try to at least temporarily get him out of your head, let go of this whole situation and switch to something else. Do what you love, throw yourself into work, meet with friends, in general, forget about it. If he really loves you and is attached to you, then he will definitely feel these changes and will soon show up. The second method is more complicated and may not always work. We need to try to dream about him. To do this, before going to bed, when you are completely relaxed, imagine a guy in all his colors, as if in reality. Literally feel the warmth of his body, smell, feel the joy of meeting him, look into his eyes, touch. You can imagine as if he is in a large luminous cloud or ball and you seem to be entering there towards him. The more real the picture, the stronger the effect. This technique is called visualization. It is advisable to do all this at night, and it is better that the guy is already asleep at this time. This method is not harmful or dangerous, but we do not recommend using it too often and persistently. If even after a week of such exercises the guy has not called, then you should not forcibly influence his will and invade his personal mental space. Just let it go.
Here's how to get a guy to call. If none of the methods worked and the guy stubbornly does not contact you, then maybe it’s time to think about whether you need him at all or not. He's probably not interested in you and doesn't want to communicate, so maybe instead of wasting time, you should look around and find a more worthy candidate.
