How men experience breakups: psychological stages

Breaking up a relationship is a painful, unpleasant situation. Someone said that separation is a little death. When strong negative changes occur in a person’s love relationship, a painful, difficult period ensues. Women can’t even imagine how they feel about parting with their beloved man, and how difficult it is to make such a decision.

READ How to stop thinking about a man who doesn't need you

Both men and women experience discomfort, painful experiences, and doubts. Representatives of the fairer sex fall into a depressed state, they splash out emotions and offended feelings in sobs and emotional conversations. At the same time, they believe that the “culprit of the situation” continues to live happily ever after, remaining cold and indifferent. This opinion is wrong.

Types and features of separations

Each romance has its own history, personal subtext and reasons for the termination of the relationship. At first glance, it seems that the relationship ends due to a lack of love for each other: no feelings, no relationship. But more often than not, the couple ceases to exist together, maintaining mutual feelings deep in their souls.

There may be several reasons for separation:

Exhaustion of feelings. The first reason for which a break occurs. This is the very case when love dies. It doesn't matter how long a man and woman have been together. If warm feelings towards your partner have disappeared, passion and desire to be together have disappeared - the relationship has outlived its usefulness. There is no point in continuing to exist together. People get tired of each other and dream of breaking the union.
New love. The appearance of a third party is a good enough reason to split a love relationship. It doesn’t matter from which side the change occurred, the woman fell in love with another guy or the man dreams of another couple, they cannot be together. There is a place in the heart for another person and the presence of the “unloved” half causes a feeling of annoyance, guilt and discomfort.
Treason. The betrayal of a loved one deals a painful blow to the partner’s feelings and self-esteem. Betrayal is difficult to survive and forgive, and when a couple finds itself in a similar situation, the offended party seeks to break the union.
A novel without continuation. A girl or guy can break off a relationship if they don't see any progress. When one partner dreams of family life and children, and the other prefers to continue the “romantic euphoria,” the romance sooner or later comes to a dead end. In most cases, a partner eager for marriage decides to break off the union and go looking for a worthy life partner, even if warm and tender feelings remain in his soul for this partner.
Disagreements and quarrels. Some couples consist of a stormy mixture of temperaments, strong and negative emotions, claims, jealousy and a constant atmosphere of struggle. Partners constantly sort things out, trying to establish personal leadership and prove their point of view. There are many reasons for a quarrel: lack of attention, jealousy, unsettled home life. Partners live in a state of “love-hate”. They quarrel violently, passionately make up, but sooner or later this pattern of behavior begins to oppress and leads to the idea of changing the relationship or partner.
Third wheel. Secret relationships in which, in addition to the wife and husband, there is a mistress, sooner or later lead to a break: they leave the mistress or divorce the wife.
Manipulative attack. In this case, the breakup is provoked by the ulterior motives of the partner, who is trying to achieve his goal by ending the relationship. Most often, actions are supported by a long wait for some kind of decision on the part of the partner: the issue of marriage, children or any other situations. Feeling disappointed and irritated by the inaction of the other half, a man or woman rudely abandons his partner in order to teach him a lesson and encourage him to make an important decision.

READ Why a man stopped communicating without explanation and what to do in such a situation

A man’s emotional state after a breakup: what does it depend on?

Each of us had the opportunity to observe the behavior of men who separated, divorced, ran away from their girlfriends, etc. And so, some guys are heartbroken after such an incident, while others happily dance in clubs or relax and sip strong drinks while watching the next football match . Why do representatives of the stronger sex have such different perceptions of the situation? The emotional state of a man at the time of a breakup depends on the following circumstances:

Reason for the breakup. Fate can bring us together not only with our soulmate, but also with that partner who can teach us some lesson. There are such unbearable ladies that after them men reconsider their view of relationships in general, become more patient and responsible (they are afraid of losing a kind and sympathetic girl). If a guy broke up with an unbearable “saw” that sucked all the juice out of him, then he is unlikely to suffer for a long time from such a destructive relationship. And, on the contrary, if everything was fine in the couple, mutual understanding reigned, but, for example, the lady found another gentleman or left for another country, then it would be a sin not to suffer. The higher the quality of the novel, the more intense the pain of loss. A girl who betrayed, shook her nerves, and was constantly dissatisfied with everything is unlikely to be the cause of long-term mental anguish.
Who initiated the breakup? Parting is much easier to endure morally if the man himself started this process. Then he realizes that he controls the situation, makes his own decisions and does not depend on anyone. When a woman initiates a breakup, her partner's self-esteem may plummet. He feels abandoned, his male pride is hurt. A representative of the stronger sex is looking for a problem within himself, although he verbally criticizes his ex in every possible way. Self-examination does not lead to anything good; a person withdraws into himself, is afraid to look for a new passion and has a hard time dealing with a breakup.
Duration of the relationship. Do you feel the difference: breaking up two weeks after meeting and after 10 years of marriage? The longer we know our partner, the more attached we are to him, even if he literally infuriates us. Having lived with my wife for many years, it is very difficult to separate. You will miss understanding, comfort, your favorite sandwich in the morning, prepared by your wife. Long-term informal relationships are also difficult to break, because the longer a couple is together, the more memories they have together and some customs. After parting, all this is missing, spiritual emptiness comes. A short-term romance is not characterized by anything like that, even if rivers of passion flowed through it. The image of a sultry beauty will quickly be erased from memory. It is certainly easier to survive a disagreement with a girl you don’t know well, with whom you’ve been hanging out for a couple of months.

See also:
How to tell your child about divorce without causing him psychological trauma?

Breaking up is not something supernatural. It is almost impossible to meet couples where both people were together from youth to old age. Most men had several affairs before meeting their real soulmate and, accordingly, separated or even divorced. Of course, running away is always unpleasant, but some representatives of the stronger sex drive themselves into depression when they are left alone. In fact, sooner or later the melancholy will go away, because the breakup of a relationship has its own stages, which we want to tell you about.

Types of gaps

Breakups are difficult or easy, depending on the situation and the people in the couple. Some relationships have a logical conclusion, others have a difficult ending, and sometimes cause life-long emotional trauma.

Women wonder if strong men get over breakups. It seems that behind the impenetrable male armor hides a stern, stony heart. Fortunately or unfortunately, this opinion is wrong. A man’s feelings and behavior often depend on the characteristics of the breakup.

There are several types of separation:

Peaceful break. When a couple experiences a fading of feelings and ceases to experience unity, the partners coexist together out of habit, coming to a mutual agreement that it is better for them to spend the next period in life separately. Most often, friendly relations remain between them. They part ways calmly, maintaining respect for each other in their souls and gratitude for all the good things that happened between them.
Time-out. A pause in the relationship or temporary separation is a reasonable decision for a couple who has mutual feelings but is experiencing some disagreements or difficulties in the relationship. After a forced pause, the partners come together again or finally put an end to the ending of the novel.
Tragic end. The most painful separation occurs when one of the couple categorically does not agree to end the love relationship.

A man's feelings during a breakup

Having ended a relationship with a loved one, women find no place in grief.
The world becomes gray, prickly, joyless. They become depressed and worry very much. For days on end, the girl sheds tears, reminiscing about the best moments she experienced with her boyfriend. Real grief comes into her life, which, it seems, cannot be consoled. At the same time, men look persistent and impenetrable. However, this does not mean at all that they are indifferent to the essence of what is happening. Women don't really know how men experience separation from their loved one.

READ How to forget a loved one after a breakup: advice from a psychologist

From childhood, the stronger sex is brought up differently from the weaker half of humanity. Boys are taught to hide their feelings, to be strong, not to express emotions. Sensual guys are called “whiners”, they are treated with contempt, and men gradually take root in the role of a “tough nut to crack”.

In appearance, he may look carefree and indifferent, while in his soul a storm develops, no less than female suffering. Friends and family also have no idea how some men experience a breakup with their beloved, but they try in every possible way to support him.

Features of male psychology

A man’s behavior after a breakup depends on his psychotype. Psychologists conventionally divide men into several psychotypes: “predator”, “vulnerable”, “mature”, “infantile”. Each of them experiences the stages of separation in their own way: if one man quickly forgets how good he was with the woman he loved, and is looking for a replacement for her with all his might; another abandoned man will regret the separation for many years and think how good it would be to return to the time when everything was fine with his wife and children in the family.

"Predator"

This psychotype prefers to be a leader in everything, including relationships. He has high self-esteem, he is confident in himself and his abilities, he knows what he wants, and most often he gets it. Parting with such a man often occurs precisely on his initiative; he is authoritarian and at times cruel, he cares little about the feelings of the woman he loves. If such a guy suffers after a breakup, it will only be about missed opportunities - nothing more.

"Vulnerable"

Men of this psychotype are soft, kind and sensitive in nature. In relationships, the initiator of separation is most often the woman, not the man, who is afraid to even think about taking the first step (even if he has been dreaming about it for a long time). His reaction to separation is severe; men of this psychotype are prone to prolonged depression and can drown their grief in alcohol. Without the support of loved ones, they will not be able to recover.

"Mature"

This psychotype knows how to build mature relationships with women. He believes that the main thing is trust and understanding, so he completely trusts his beloved. If a breakdown occurs in a trusting relationship, followed by a break, he takes it for granted, which he cannot do anything about. After breaking up, he develops vigorous activity and throws himself into work so as not to remember his ex.

"Infantile"

Men of this psychotype are like little children who need a nanny. Parting for them will be something akin to a mortal betrayal, and the more a woman cared for such a man, the more he will experience the parting. He cannot live alone, he is not independent, he needs to constantly hold on to a woman’s skirt, and if she disappears one day, he will be in trouble. This psychotype is extremely hysterical and prone to blackmail.

If the breakup is a mutual decision

With mutual agreement, former partners do not suffer so much. They no longer experience feelings of love, have made a firm decision to arrange a personal life with other partners, and more often than not, remain in warm friendly relations. In this case, the man is relieved that the situation has calmed down. If the ex-passion looks happy with the new boyfriend, he is not bothered by feelings of guilt and remorse, and the guy gradually tramples the road to his own happiness.

If the past relationship lasted a long time, the usual way of life will be echoed in the memory by a kind of sad but soft nostalgia, and occasionally pleasant memories will be overcome. But in general, a man will not suffer and strive for a new partner or new victories in the professional field.

It’s another matter if the memory of a lost beloved lives in your heart. In this case, men have a hard time parting with their beloved.

How do guys feel?

Women are not aware of how men who just recently whispered declarations of love, but are now so far apart, experience a breakup.

READ How to understand that you have stopped loving a guy: ways to check your feelings

If a guy abandoned or provoked a break with his girlfriend, the most difficult experiences settle in his soul. Men fall into depression just like women, but they skillfully hide the authenticity of feelings with appearance, words and actions.

The following emotions are intertwined in their souls:

Discomfort. Men love convenience and coziness. When their usual way of life is disrupted, they experience severe discomfort. No matter how much your heart, memory and pride tell you to throw out of your head the image of “that same lady” and the objects in the house: a nearby pillow, a towel - everything will remind you of the woman who recently touched these objects.
Fear. It is primarily born from a feeling of discomfort and emptiness. A man faces difficult experiences, feels defenseless and weak, and these new emotions unsettle him.

Yearning. If the couple was connected by love feelings, longing for the woman will firmly settle in his heart. He will greatly miss her image, voice, and the smell of her body. He will feel severe pain and an irresistible desire to either see his ex-lover or get her out of his head by any means.
Jealousy. The bitter understanding that now the former lover may belong to another man does not leave the guy even if he himself broke off the union. Men are owners by nature. They are disgusted by the very idea that someone else will appear in her life, whom she will take care of and with whom she will share a bed.

How to return love

Many men regret breaking up, but does this mean an opportunity to get everything back? In some cases, yes. But provided that the girl behaves tactfully and correctly, she will be able to overcome her emotional instability and the desire to reproach her for leaving. It is worth remembering that any attempts to beg to return everything back will have the opposite effect. Nobody likes victims. You need to act more cunningly, start with friendly conversations, short meetings without sexual overtones. It is important to give the man time to think everything over and not to set a vendetta upon his return from the very first days of separation.

You should also be careful with advice on preening and changing your image. You shouldn’t dress up for a friendly date like you would for a wedding. It is better to take a guideline for your image at the time of your first meeting, to be more friendly, sociable, and smiling. Guys are attracted by openness and ease of communication, and not by evening makeup and a miniskirt. Of course, you can improve your physical shape if when you look in the mirror you feel a loss of sexuality. A subscription to a fitness club will allow you to delay the time of active attempts at contact, and will also allow you to throw out negative emotions during an intense workout.

Breaking up with a girl

Unfortunately, loving couples do not always understand that they need to work on their love relationships. In addition to mutual feelings, you need to value and respect your partner.

A guy who loves and appreciates his girlfriend will break up with very extreme measures.

betrayal on one side or another;
jealousy;
no perspective;
a series of quarrels and disagreements;
manipulation method.

When a man ends his relationship with his girlfriend for any reason, no matter how much he hides the real essence of things, he suffers. But he will express his experiences differently than a woman. It is unusual for representatives of the stronger sex to shed tears among friends.

Feelings of melancholy and anxiety will find a way out in other manifestations:

Alcohol. The guy endlessly disappears in company with alcoholic beverages. He will get drunk and have fun, just so as not to indulge in sad thoughts about his ex-girlfriend.
Women's company. Most guys immediately start a new relationship with the “first young lady they come across,” pursuing two goals: to lose themselves in the arms of another and to rub their ex-girlfriend’s nose. He may look happy and content, but excessive display of the new girl indicates exactly the opposite: he feels bad, he worries and misses his former relationship. Promiscuous sex, flirting and sexual affairs support a guy’s self-esteem and distract him from sad feelings for a while.
Adrenalin. Trying to drown out mental pain, a man rushes to sports, car racing or street fights. Aggressive and unexpected antics help to cope with those painful feelings that tear his heart apart.

Breaking up a relationship with a girlfriend is a long and painful process, during which a man may be overcome by doubts about the correctness of the decision.

Breakup with mistress

A man in a love triangle sooner or later has to make a difficult choice between two women. Home comfort and an established relationship with his wife, especially if there are children, push him to end the affair on the side. Since a married man experiences a breakup with his mistress quite hard, it is important for him not to show his inner discomfort at home. Otherwise, he risks being left without his former passion and losing his family because of his wife’s guesses.

READ How to break up with a girl if you love her, but there is no future

In any case, such a turn of events will not pass easily for a man. He will worry, idealize her image and often indulge in painful memories. But perhaps the woman is the first to break the secret bonds, wanting to start her own family. In rare cases, they may remain friends. In general, men have a hard time dealing with a breakup with their mistress.

Separation on personal initiative

Many women believe that guys are indifferent to the end of a marriage or the end of a long relationship. Psychologists say the opposite - men also have a hard time, it’s just that, unlike the fairer sex, they cannot afford to demonstrate overwhelming emotions in public. Men keep everything to themselves and are in no hurry to share their experiences with family or friends.

How do men cope with separation when they themselves decide to leave their once beloved partner?

Most are in a hurry to start a new romance in order to prove to their ex-girlfriend that she is not the only woman in the world. However, most often this is necessary for the man himself - in this way he is trying to break the emotional connection with his ex.
When a relationship breaks down, guys may start to follow the girl, believing that they have rights to her, even when they are not together. They are infuriated if the young lady lives a full life, and the appearance of a new boyfriend on the horizon is especially critical.
Does a man who left a woman worry? If the feelings have exhausted themselves, then it will be easy for him to distract himself from the ended novel by starting a new one or throwing himself into work.

How a man experiences a divorce on his own initiative depends on his character. Having abandoned their wife or mistress, many individuals indulge in all sorts of bad things, rejoicing in the newfound freedom and lack of obligations. Others try to maintain a warm relationship with their ex-passion and do not stop communicating.

Breakup with wife

It is difficult for a man to separate from a woman who has been in a legal relationship with him for a long time. It is not easy to leave a family in which children are raised; special traditions and values have arisen. Even if a man’s unearthly passions are burning with his mistress, he will mentally return to his home environment, to his “native” wife and beloved children. After some time, feelings of guilt and spiritual emptiness push a man to revive his old relationship. A married man experiences a breakup with his mistress in order to maintain a relationship with his wife, to whom he is attached.

How do men's experiences of a breakup differ from women's?

The main difference is the discrepancy between feelings and the time of their experience. At first, women suffer, and men convince themselves and others that everything is fine. Then women's grief gradually weakens, and men's grief begins to intensify. And finally, after a few months, the situation makes a 180-degree turn: the man suffers, and the woman realizes the beauty of her newfound freedom.

Another difference between the sexes is the intensity of the desire to harm a former partner. In men, this desire is usually more intense.

In general, the range of feelings in all people is approximately the same, apart from rare exceptions. The breakup of a long-term relationship is perceived very painfully by representatives of both sexes.

A man’s first-hand view of a breakup in the video:

After betrayal

If it was the woman who initiated the separation, the man receives a colossal blow not only to his feelings, but also to his ambition.
His self-esteem is subjected to severe castigation and self-criticism. Only God knows how a man feels after a breakup! A man who respects himself and the choice of his former lover will go through a difficult time with pride and honor.

But often there is a different behavior from a guy who tries in every possible way to get the girl back. He can call a hundred times a day, keep watch on the street. Threaten every new suitor who hangs around her. The guy will descend to spreading dirty gossip about his ex, start talking nasty things about her and weaving intrigues. This behavior is typical of a man who does not want to accept the fact that they are no longer together. Behind aggression and base actions hides a great desire to return a former lover.

What does male silence mean?

Along with the strange behavior of a man who has survived a breakup, there is a male “Ignore”. Silence after a breakup can be a very significant reason for a girl to think about her future, because perhaps changes will await her very soon.

So silence can be a signal that the guy is very well versed in female psychology, and he has a serious plan to bring his beloved back. For a girl, 45-60 days, as a rule, is enough time for her to become desperately bored, and the fate of this couple may depend on how correct the guy’s actions are after this period.

But you shouldn’t calm down, because silence can also be another sign, for example, if a breakup and the accompanying events caused severe pain to a man’s heart, which neither extreme sports nor drunken parties in noisy friendly companies can help cope with. The main danger in this case is depression - the cause of many troubles and mistakes that might not have happened if the separation ritual had been carried out according to all the rules. Remember exactly how you broke up and draw your own conclusions.

Psychological types and characteristics of their behavior during a breakup

In general, representatives of the stronger sex have a hard time breaking up a love relationship. However, each man has an individual variation in behavior when breaking up with a woman, depending on the psychological type to which he belongs:

Leader. The type of man who has high self-esteem and a number of inflated demands. In most cases, he becomes the initiator of breakups. Such a man is very proud and unforgiving, and is characterized by increased cruelty. No matter how much he suffers, a sense of pride will not allow him to admit that he is wrong or agree to a truce.
Sensual. Parting with his beloved brings him great torment and anxiety. The guy has been in a depressed state for a long time, from which friends and family help him get out.
Infantile. A man in this category cannot hide his suffering. He needs love and care. He will disturb ex-girlfriends, call, come home, even if he himself broke off the relationship.
Serious. Such a guy will go through all stages of depression and anxiety with dignity. As a result, he will succumb to a deep analysis of whether the right decision was made. Most often, such men may attempt to get their ex-girlfriend back.

Understanding whether men regret the breakup, we can conclude that everything depends on the initial depth of feelings. The psychological type of a man will only affect his behavior.

Saying “no” to blues: advice for men who have recently experienced a breakup

Unfortunately, not all of us can cope with our emotions and pull ourselves together. Prolonged depression and lack of hope for the best are constant companions in the lives of some men facing a breakup. Boys are taught from childhood that showing their feelings is bad, because you need to be strong and never cry. This fact only aggravates the situation: the accumulated negativity literally poisons a man from the inside and prevents him from starting a new life after breaking up.

Some tricks available to every man will help you cope with anxiety, insomnia, irritability and your undying feelings for your irrevocably departed soulmate. To feel at ease, learn to see not only the disadvantages of the situation, but also the advantages, follow the following recommendations:

Get rid of things that remind you of her. There is her comb, there is a forgotten bottle of perfume, a photograph of you together hangs on the wall, and a napkin knitted by her is collecting dust under the TV. This is roughly what a typical man’s bachelor pad looks like after breaking up with a woman. Attention, question: how can you forget the lady of your heart if everything around reminds you of her? Collect everything related to the girl into a large box and take it out to the trash for the homeless to enjoy. Is Maslenitsa ahead? Build a scarecrow from the things of your ex-passion and burn it in honor of the holiday! Don’t bother your soul with all the trinkets of the woman who made you suffer.
Don't be shy to talk about your feelings with your loved ones. Those who love you will understand any emotion, even tears on unshaven male cheeks. What's the point of pretending to be a hero during the day if at night you howl with anguish? When there is a wound in the heart, the first thing you need to do is talk it out. Therefore, call an ambulance in the person of a couple of friends or an older brother to your home, sit them in front of you and open your soul. Such a psychotherapy session should happen after breaking up with a woman at least once. Believe me, it will become much easier for you.
Do you feel guilty? Apologize! If you were the one who initiated the separation or brought your dearest passion to despair with your behavior that she even had to run away from you, then you probably feel guilty. This is good, because you have a conscience, and its calls should not be ignored. If you feel a strong urge to apologize, don't resist it. Call or write a message, express your thoughts about your contribution to an unpleasant situation and enjoy the result. Your karma will be cleared, and the cats will stop scratching your soul.
Practice self-improvement. Breaking up is not a reason to let yourself go in every sense. After a breakup, many men stop taking care of themselves and their homes, do not develop, but stupidly eat dumplings, wash them down with beer, and click the TV remote control. Have you imagined such an intelligent handsome man? Now think, what lovely lady would fall for this gentleman? Don't forget that life goes on. And you should please not only yourself, but also the fair sex around you. Then new stormy romances will not keep you waiting.
Don't do anything to spite your ex. How funny it is when recently separated men start posting photos on social networks with a forced smile on their faces in the company of a crowd of girls. Or this picture: a guy calls his ex, invites her to remain friends and immediately begins to tell the girl how great his life is without her and how many affairs he started after their breakup. Believe me, all this looks ridiculous and puts you in an unfavorable light. There is no need to brag about imaginary and real successes in your personal life. If you really have found another woman, remember that happiness loves silence.

How does a man feel if he himself abandoned a woman?

Depression, binge drinking, sports and promiscuity are the result of how some men cope with breakups.
When the relationship breaks down and the girl finds a replacement, the ex-lover suffers and persistently tries to forget her. Similar experiences occur among those guys who leave their girlfriends. First of all, they are tormented by remorse and guilt. If a woman inexorably asks for a return to the relationship with tears in her eyes, the man, among other feelings, experiences irritation and annoyance. He may start screaming, behave rudely and tactlessly with her, and accuse the poor thing of all sins. Such aggression occurs in two cases:

Firstly, when he feels guilty. By blaming the woman, the man tries to shift the responsibility for the breakup onto her shoulders and calm down his remorse.
Secondly, this line of behavior is typical of men who have to leave the woman they love. Most often, this is what manipulators do, demanding some actions and important decisions from the girl.

Bargain

At stage 4 of accepting the breakup, the guy begins to bargain with himself and with his ex that if he gets another chance, he will do whatever she wants.

On the other hand, the ex may start bargaining with her to get her back, and then abandon her and leave, leaving her rejected and upset. That is, to recoup for all the storm of emotions that he experienced.

What stages does a person go through when breaking up?

The breakup of a long-term romantic relationship is an unpleasant, difficult process, and in order to survive it, a person has to go through several stages of the “illness.” In fact, men have a harder time with separation than the fairer sex. They skillfully hide strong experiences under the steel “armor” of indifference.

READ How to get your girlfriend back after a breakup: proven methods

First stage: denial

Women cannot understand how a man feels when breaking up. At first he doesn't want to believe what's happening. It seems to him that separation from the girl is a bad dream that should end soon. Tormented by thoughts about her, every day he expects some changes for the better, which do not happen.

Second stage: anger

When a man realizes that a breakup is inevitable, anger replaces despair. He can’t believe that they chose another guy over him, and they didn’t fight for a relationship with him. He gets angry, realizing that it is impossible to return and change anything. He tries not to think about his ex-girlfriend and gets angry at any mention of her name.

Third stage: bidding

At this stage, the man accepts the breakup and begins to analyze the situation. He tries to talk about whether he should return his ex-girlfriend or whether it’s time to look for a new girlfriend. His mood is changeable and alternately resembles the second and third stages.

Stage four: depression

When a man realizes that his former relationship cannot be returned, and that it is impossible to build a new relationship, sadness awaits him. A terrible depression that fetters his activity and fills his being with apathy. He begins to drink, grieve, and remember the best moments of his past romance. He does not want to communicate with anyone, remaining alone in the grip of sad experiences.

Fifth and final stage: new life

When the remaining stages pass with dignity, the guy gradually comes to understand that life goes on. Instead of aching melancholy, long-awaited relief comes. A man stops acutely perceiving facts that remind him of his ex-girlfriend and is ready to meet new love.

Depression

If a guy doesn’t want to get his ex back, at the next stage of separation after a long relationship, a feeling of depression and sadness appears.

The person thinks: “This is hopeless. There's no point in trying anymore. She's gone and I'll never get her back. I can quite accept this fact.”

He also feels sad that he has not yet gotten used to his new life alone. In addition, he asks other questions both about his environment and himself. For example:

What will other people think about him, such as friends, family, colleagues?

How to explain the situation to loved ones?
Now that he's on his own, will he ever find another?
Is he really destined to be lonely?

The psyche is trying to rebuild itself in a new way in such painful and inconvenient issues.

How different zodiac signs cope with a breakup

Every man is subject to personal emotions and feelings during a breakup. Basically, his line of behavior depends on the zodiac sign to which he belongs:

Aries are emotional and hot-tempered people. They have a hard time with the breakup, even if they initiated it. They descend to insults and stormy showdowns. Showcasing “new girlfriends.” In some cases, they beg women to return or forgive them on their knees.
Taurus take their choice of a partner very seriously and try to maintain the relationship. In the event of a breakup, they suffer greatly, they try to return and return all valuable gifts and retire in splendid isolation.
Geminis are flighty and frivolous guys. After the breakup, they will try to forget themselves in the arms of new girlfriends, without trying to win back their ex-girlfriend.
Cancers suffer for a long time, not wanting to admit the fact of separation. They will avoid new relationships, but when they meet new love, they completely forget past wounds.
Leos try to return the girl if she was very dear to them. If attempts are fruitless, they cross her out of their lives once and for all and withdraw into themselves for a while.
Virgos get very used to people, so they try to keep the relationship afloat. In the event of a breakup, they are tormented by questions about what mistakes they made. They may try to restore the relationship.
Libra cannot forget their former passion for a long time. If it doesn’t work out to return love, the Libra man will try to start a new relationship, because he is afraid of being left alone.
Scorpios are very vindictive partners. Even if a representative of this sign has abandoned a lady, he will still not leave her alone for a long time and will try to take revenge for emotional grievances.
Sagittarians will not sort things out, they will leave with dignity and will not renew old relationships.
Capricorns will experience enormous pain and hide it in every possible way. They will try to limit contacts with their ex-girlfriend, busy themselves with work and other things, just to save themselves from mental anguish.
Aquarians can leave the lady themselves if they realize that their feelings have cooled down, and after that seek reconciliation with her. In case of refusal, Aquarius will remain good friends with his former passion.
Pisces do not like partings; they prefer to leave an ellipsis instead of a period. If a girl leaves, the guy tries to accuse the lady of all mortal sins.

Negation

Once the initial shock wears off (this will take anywhere from a few minutes to a few days), the second stage of male breakup begins, in which the guy begins to resist what happened.

He thinks:

I refuse to accept that it's over between us.
She is my soulmate and I just can't lose her.

At this moment, he is ready to write to her, call or come to his ex’s home to see and try to solve all the problems.

Tips on how to get through a difficult period

Guys have a hard time breaking up with a girl. Apathy and melancholy painfully squeeze the heart of an abandoned lover, and in order to quickly get out of a difficult state, it is necessary to take some actions:

Grieve to your heart's content. Have a heart-to-heart talk with someone, cry, write down your experiences in a notebook.
Take care of yourself. Analyze your behavior in past relationships in order to avoid making similar mistakes in the future.
Don't isolate yourself. Communicate with people, do what you love. Attend interesting events.
It is useful to sign up for a swimming pool, gym, dance or sports club. Sports activities perfectly relieve stress and improve your mood.
Make new acquaintances, flirt, “go out.”

Breaking up is a difficult period, which is difficult, but possible to survive. If you can’t restore your past relationship, you should discard difficult thoughts and look to the future with confidence. Meeting new love is closer than it might seem.