Greetings, dears! Many women, when they find out my husband and I’s story, ask to tell me what my secret is. How did I manage to inspire a man to become a businessman from a simple factory worker? To avoid telling the same thing over and over again, I wrote this article for you. In it you will learn how to inspire a man to succeed, to make money, to take action, to take care of himself and other feats.
Let me make a reservation right away: unfortunately, I don’t have a universal recipe. There is only an experiment that was accidentally “carried out” on my own husband, and it gave an excellent result! Just yesterday I was a turner at a factory, today my husband founded his own contextual advertising agency and became a successful businessman. Want to know how? Then read!
My history
I married an ordinary factory worker from Perm. There was something about this guy that spoke of the scale and powerful potential for success hidden within him, which clearly did not correspond to the level of the plant. It was the feeling that he deserved more that prompted me to leave Moscow and go to Perm, where I had nothing and no one except my factory worker.
I can’t say that right here, right at some certain stage, the work of “inspiring” a man began and that I, such an ideal wife and muse, decided that I could inspire a man to do everything in the world. Not at all. Only two years later, from a turner, my husband became a freelancer, and then the founder of his own contextual advertising agency. Everything I did was on a whim, there were no rules or magical passes with my hands, and there were also plenty of mistakes. But after analyzing where we started and where we are now, I was able to identify 5 important points that helped my husband become the best version of himself.
Motivation levels
Motivation is the desire to act in an organized, purposeful manner and get results, which manifests itself at different levels of the psychological structure.
As a result of the formalization of motivation, goal settings (goal settings) arise, which determine the direction and result of actions.
Cognitive, thinking
Almost every man understands the need for change, gaining new knowledge or additional profit. Everyone is capable of creating the greatest plans and projects that remain forever within the brain without being implemented in practice.
This is due to the fact that we perceive mental results as part of our achievements, which in reality may not work out, so it is better to calmly dream about how to get rich by delivering matches than to actually try to do it.
Therefore, a woman’s participation consists in discussing possible solutions at all stages of logical reasoning: collecting information - identifying contradictions - posing a problem - ways to overcome it - making a management decision.
In life, it often happens completely differently: a woman stops an undesirable decision for no apparent reason. For example, a man thinks for a long time and prepares to take a course as a massage therapist; he has obvious abilities for this.
And the woman categorically declares: I don’t agree with anything in the world, because her friends said that in this profession the husband will start “walking left and right.” Trust and the ability to productively discuss and plan the situation are lost; in the future, the man will simply stop sharing plans and generally lose his reserve of ambition.
Emotive, sensual
This is a completely female area, which is necessary for a man to feel psychological comfort, to be able to relax and purposefully use creative energy.
If he feels restless, uneasy, is forced to make excuses or worry about small everyday moments, he will never “grow up” and will not be able to overcome family troubles. Or, on the contrary, he will be completely immersed in the work process, ignoring family responsibilities.
So the woman is responsible for the balance of the relationship, for the readiness for change, but she must understand that this is a long, labor-intensive process.
For an ordinary manager to become a branch director, years must pass filled with various problems and stress. And all this time the woman helps, supports, consoles, inspires, and does not scold or reproach on every occasion.
Behavioral, volitional
The most difficult level, which requires mutual trust and coordinated actions. If you are ready to discuss difficult situations, overcome conflicts together and sympathize with each other, then you can easily begin more complex projects.
For example, to create your own business, because you are sure that in case of failure you will not shift responsibility onto each other or run away with a common cash register to the Canadian border.
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A great way to make a general decision is to use the Cartesian square. Take a sheet of paper and draw it into 4 “windows”, in each of which write: What will happen if we do this? What happens if we don't do this? What won't happen if we do this? What won't happen if we don't do it?
This way you will get a clear picture of the results and be able to compare possible pros and cons.
We recommend reading: How to make your man the happiest.
A woman inspires a man: secret No. 1
My first and main secret is faith in your chosen one. Without any discounts on circumstances, without condescension. This is how a woman inspires her man. I simply believed that my husband, and with him I, deserved more.
Modern preachers of Vedic psychology, Dr. Torsunov and Satya Das, confirm this idea: “whatever mantra you repeat, it comes true,” they say. And if you do not forgive your man’s mistakes, mistakes, and simply complain to your girlfriends about his shortcomings, then expecting success from him is at least stupid.
At first, my husband was sure that success would come to him through professional bodybuilding. I knew that success would simply come to him, so I accepted his idea of competition. I saw how confident he was in his choice, that he really wanted to try. And we began to walk together towards my husband’s ideal body. Three containers for work, a chicken breast, portions of proteins and carbohydrates adjusted by weight, a dozen eggs a day and cottage cheese at night, a container of food on a schedule even in the movies - to be honest, as soon as I remember, I’ll shudder
