What to do if you don’t want to do anything? Causes and treatment of apathy

• November 18, 2018
• Depressive states
• Evdokimova Irina

What to do if you don’t want to do anything? Many people experience a state when they are overcome by indifference to everything. Any actions and efforts seem pointless. At such moments, a person experiences extreme fatigue and loses interest in life. What is the reason for this condition? And how to deal with it? We will consider these questions in the article.

What it is

The state when you don’t want to do anything is called apathy in psychology. Every person has moments when it is very difficult to force himself to make any effort. This is a natural phenomenon and may be caused by temporary fatigue. But if it becomes difficult to wake up in the morning, carry out basic self-care and do usual activities, then this is no longer normal. Apathy can and should be fought.

This condition can occur in two forms:

1. Apathy with loss of desires. A person does not set any goals, he has no interest in life and dreams. Everything seems empty and meaningless. This is the most complex version of apathy, requiring the help of a psychologist.
2. Loss of will and motivation. In this case, a person is able to set various goals for himself. But it is very difficult for him to make any effort to carry out his plans. He feels tired and lacks physical and moral strength.

The answer to the question of what to do if you don’t want to do anything will depend on the circumstances that provoked the apathy. To understand them, you need to carefully analyze your lifestyle. In most cases, the lack of desires, will and motivation is due to psychological reasons. However, in some situations, medical attention may be required.

What to do if everything quickly gets boring

With the help of irritability, our body often calls us to action; it hints that we need to listen to ourselves. People are often forced to change jobs frequently, have various novels, move places of residence, and change hobbies five times a week. Sometimes a person enthusiastically takes on a new business, giving it the status of the most desirable, and immediately switches to something else, in a completely different direction. Such people say that they quickly get bored with everything, and they chase impressions and run away from everyday routine. Why does everything get boring so quickly, is it worth resisting? After all, many scientists say that by changing your job or place of residence, you can get rid of the feeling of irritability and still love life. But isn’t it a mistake to make such frequent changes in life?

Often everything gets boring for people who have lived an uncertain life since childhood. For example, a baby is sitting, playing, laying out blocks, and then they tell him that he needs to go get ready because he needs to go for a walk. When a child shows his creation (drawing, plasticine figurine, construction set) to his parents, he expects praise, but instead of deserved attention, not allowing the child to enjoy success, parents switch the child’s attention to the creativity of others. Or they often say that they need to try to do better next time. Imperceptibly, the baby gets used to situations where his achievement, in principle, has practically no meaning; say, if he has achieved something, he already needs to strive for another action. Growing up, all this worsens even more, and already in adulthood a person ceases to appreciate what he has. Under any conditions, he sees a catch, a flaw and begins to find fault with little things, this quickly gets boring and the person strives to start something bigger.

There are many examples of such behavior during the period of raising a child; often he simply does not know his daily routine, what his responsibilities are and what awaits him as a result of the task completed. From this time on, the subject develops the ability to do everything very quickly, grab everything on the fly and run, because he is aware in the depths of his soul that he can be interrupted at any moment. Instantly during this period, a huge amount of adrenaline enters the blood due to increased energy consumption. In the presence of adrenaline in the blood, the subject acts at an accelerated pace, over time there is a decrease, the previous balance in the body is restored and, accordingly, the person loses all interest and gets bored with everything. Since the individual’s body requires a new surge of adrenaline, he changes his actions and looks for something else to do.

Such people have problems with their personal lives. A person falls in love very quickly, builds a perspective for the future, and just as quickly becomes disappointed in his partner, as a result the couple quickly separates. According to the famous psychoanalyst Jean-David Nasio, a person does this unconsciously. This behavior is typical for individuals who were attached to one parent in childhood. When such an individual grows up, he unconsciously denies the feeling of love for a person who is able to take the place of his mother or father in his soul. Loneliness is the path of life to which such an individual condemns himself, without accepting an emotional attachment to the subject of his passion.

What to do if you're fed up and tired of everything? First, assess the current situation. Find out what exactly the problem is, if your friends, loved one, absolutely everything bother you, then maybe the root of the difficulties lies precisely in your actions. Determine the level of the problem, how much its consequences can be destructive or interfere with the lives of people around you. After this, you should decide whether you can cope on your own or whether you need to see a psychotherapist.

To solve the problem yourself, you need:

– learn to beware of anticipations and adventures;

– be able to, through awareness of the problem, continue to act contrary to one’s desires;

– whenever you want to start a new business, remember that it is human nature to idealize what you want; in fact, everything will end the same way;

– accustom yourself to set specific goals and not invest high hopes in them, realize from the beginning that the goals will be achieved, and you will need to create new tasks;

- noticing that everything around you is changing quickly, set an ultimatum, agree with yourself to stay at work for more than a year, finish the job you started and take on the next one, do not run away from a love relationship.

It is useless to be angry at the world and people around you or at yourself. After all, human life is interesting precisely because it has ups and downs, mistakes, failures and disappointments. Due to the strong expenditure of energy, the human nervous system is rapidly depleted, therefore, you need to learn to control your behavior. Psychologists recommend spending some period of your life playing, forgetting about time, defusing the situation, having a blast, like in childhood, looking at life from a different perspective. After this, reconsider your life position and goals. They will need to be adjusted and live without trying to please anyone.

Natural causes

The state of apathy can have different causes. Most often it is associated with a person’s lifestyle and characteristics of his character. Loss of desire and motivation can be caused by the following circumstances:

• fatigue and overwork;
• monotonous life;
• ordinary laziness;
• lack of self-confidence;
• impatience and desire to achieve quick results;
• emotional burnout;
• frequent stress.

If apathy is provoked by the above factors, then a person can cope with this condition on his own. If you have any difficulties, you should consult a psychologist. A doctor's help is not required in this case. Next, we will look at methods of combating apathy, depending on its origin.

How to deal with apathy?

If apathy is only a temporary condition, you can try to cope with it yourself. This is the best time to make some changes in your daily schedule. Find time to relax, recuperate, and pay more attention to work-life balance. Regular relaxation practice, autogenic training or participation in stress reduction workshops can bring the expected results. Taking care of a healthy, balanced diet and regular exercise should go some way to alleviating the negative feelings associated with apathy.

Fatigue and overwork

Most often, the state of not wanting anything is the result of extreme fatigue. Official duties, household chores, and the perception of a large amount of information take a lot of energy from a person. If you constantly deny yourself the necessary rest, then sooner or later your strength will be depleted. Apathy and indifference to everything sets in.

What to do if you don’t want to do anything? If this condition occurs due to fatigue, then you can try to overcome apathy in the following ways:

1. Give your brain a rest. Often a person comes home after work and immediately turns on the TV or computer. However, while watching TV shows and news on the Internet, the brain does not rest. At this moment, active perception of information occurs. Such a pastime also requires serious expenditure of energy. If you feel tired after a working day, it is better to take a short walk, take a bath with aromatic oils, or do yoga or meditation. This will allow your nervous system to rest and recover.
2. Make your dream come true. Every person has unfulfilled desires. In psychology, it is believed that dreams that are not realized in life also take away energy. Try to remember what you dreamed of as a child. Maybe you wanted to make some nice purchase or go on a trip. Make your childhood dream come true. This is an effective and enjoyable method of overcoming apathy.
3. Get rid of grudges. Negative emotions take a lot of strength from a person. Try to forgive the offenders, even if it is very difficult to do. You will no longer have to waste energy on unpleasant experiences.
4. Save your energy. Often, during a period of fatigue, a person forces himself to work even more. However, this only makes the problem worse. It is necessary to distinguish between ordinary laziness and exhaustion of strength. The moral and physical state of a person is subject to cyclical changes. Episodes of apathy are usually followed by periods of activity. If you feel tired, then you need to conserve your strength. You will need them for active activities in the future.

There are cases when a person works so much that he regularly lacks sleep and eats poorly. Sooner or later, this work regime leads to overwork, which can negatively affect health.

Under no circumstances should you neglect your natural needs for food and sleep. Often people during periods of overwork complain that they don’t want anything at all. This is a sign of exhaustion of the nervous system. You urgently need to normalize your daily routine and diet, otherwise you are not far from serious problems with physical and mental health.

Requests for help Write your story I am 20 years old, I do not study or work. I left after the second year of study because I couldn’t stand it mentally and physically, and I also didn’t see the point in studying. I've been lying down and doing nothing for over six months now. I only communicate with two people, and then via the Internet. In real life I have no one. I used to be afraid to communicate with people, but I wanted to. Now I’m afraid and I just don’t want, I don’t see the need to have friends or acquaintances. I don’t see a future, I don’t want to have a family and children. I have never had a boyfriend because, again, I don’t see the need, I’m not interested in it. I sit at home all day and wait for something to kill me. I have no strength, I lash out at my family. I can’t stand loud sounds and light, I always want to lie in the dark and not see anything, I always cover myself with a blanket and just lie there. I have never been kind towards other people, but now I have attacks of aggression for any reason, up to the desire to kill, if I am not satisfied with their behavior or actions. Now to the point. Since I lie at home all day, my mother nags me about work. This is perhaps the main problem. She calls me a nonentity without studying and working. She says that at her age she plowed from the age of 18. This logic just kills me. Several times a day I feel pressured to find a job. I don’t want to work and study, I want to disappear, I go to bed with the hope of not waking up. I realize that I’m a bag of shit, I’m ready to apologize to my mother a thousand times for who I am, just so that I’m gone. I am horrified by the thought that to get a job you need to go to an interview and talk to people. I don’t know what to do, I want to kill myself

Name, age: 20 / 11/27/2021

Responses:

Hello my dear. I understand you very well. I had a similar condition. It's terrible when you don't want to do anything but lie in the dark. How I loved the night then and how I hated the day. And I also had to look after the children: walking, feeding, bathing, and so on. But I had such a condition from medications. It then, thank God, passed. This is depression, my dear, you have to get over it. Just survive. If you can’t cope at all, you’ll have to see a doctor, especially if your aggression increases. But I can say for myself that the medications did not help me well. Prayer and music helped me better. When you cover yourself with a blanket, you lie in silence, in the dark, it’s so good to pray. You pretend that you are sleeping so that no one will touch you, but you yourself pray to the Lord Jesus Christ, the Mother of God, Mother Matronushka of Moscow, the angels and all your favorite saints. I always pray in my own words: I talk to God and the heavenly powers, as if I were talking to my parents. I complain about something, I ask for something, I praise for something. I ask God for everything I want. If it is useful to me, then God gives it to me. Some people say that we have no faith in God. Who among us even has this faith? If we had faith the size of a mustard seed, we would move mountains and raise the dead, but we cannot do this. And faith in God is a gift, you have to ask for it. Ask every day, and the Lord will give you faith and love for people and everything you want. My dear, before you work, you need to improve your emotional health. Explain to your mom that you feel bad. Maybe she'll understand. There are a lot of good, correct articles here on this site, I once read them for a whole year, these articles really helped me improve my emotional state. There is also a book by Orthodox psychologists: Overcoming passion using ascetic and psychological methods. The depression we are faced with is a passion of despondency, it can be overcome if desired and with God's help. But there is no death, my dear. Even if you die physically, you will only begin a new life in eternity. And this will not be the best start. Because all our passions, including despondency, do not disappear after death, but intensify and continue to torment us, but forever. We must solve such problems in this life while we can still change the state of our soul. Honey, I also wanted to say something about work. Nowadays, due to the coronavirus, there is a lot of remote work. For example, I work remotely in a recruitment agency, I have never seen my bosses, we communicate via telegram. And the interview was over the phone and they didn’t ask for my diploma. They pay me every week on a card, I earn on average 30 thousand. You can do it too. You will see. Don't worry about studying either. You just didn't like this specialty. You will have plenty of opportunities to learn remotely to become whatever you want to be. For example, I am now studying to become a naturopathic doctor, I want to treat people. Honey, don't give up! Everything will be fine.

Maria, age: 42 / 11/27/2021

Hello! If it’s depression, then you need to urgently make an appointment with a psychiatrist. Depression can only be treated with medication, and only a good psychiatrist (not a psychologist or psychotherapist - they do not have enough qualifications for this) can prescribe the right medications. Talk to your doctor about your condition. No need to worry about interviews yet!

Olya, age: 50 / 11/27/2021

Hello! Please, fight! Apathy, depression, bad mood - all this can be overcome! It’s just important to want to get out, seek help from a psychotherapist, psychologist, go to hospital, if necessary, vitamins, antidepressants will also help you. Life is actually very diverse and beautiful, and I really want you to see it! Health to you, sunshine!

Irina, age: 33 / 11/27/2021

Hello, Name! Most likely you have severe depression. Take several different depression tests on medical websites, etc. if it is, run to a psychiatrist. Depression is deadly, believe a thrice suicidal man with 10 years of experience with depression. Slowly they’ll come up with a plan and everything will work out. There is no need to be afraid of doctors - life is more valuable. And this cannot be called life - hell on earth, I remember this state of depression. There is no need to suffer, there are drugs, there are doctors - everything can be solved! Good luck!

Lyasine, age: 42 / 11/28/2021

Hello. Depression is a disease. Swearing helps with it the same way as with a broken leg. Unfortunately, the population is not aware of these issues. Go to a psychiatrist. At your age, you no longer need your mother for this. Don't be afraid of treatment, even hospital care. They will deregister you later, you are not dangerous to people. You didn't understand either your studies or your relationship. When you’re depressed you can’t perceive correctly; it’s like being colorblind and everything seems gray. It’s good that I expelled myself; usually you can reinstate for free for 5 years. And when a healthy person brags, comparing himself to a sick person, it’s somehow completely stupid. This is usually due to low self-esteem.

Wild Angel, age: 22 / 12/08/2021

Job. You don't have to go somewhere to make money. There are many offers on the Internet. For example, copywriting, rating, and how many freelance tasks, remote vacancies, but you need skills. If you Google, you can find a lot of things. They just don’t make money. Just beware of scammers who mostly offer easy money for a minimum of actions, almost for nothing, and also often require prepayment. And it’s better not to waste time on very low-paying activities, such as making money on tickets, clicks, games, surveys, social media. networks, captcha and so on, this is for beginners and can drag on, killing time, getting pennies. By trying, gaining experience, you will determine, finding yours in this area of ​​life. What will happen is that you are good at what you do and what you like to do is difficult. But people don’t always like this work and to their liking; often for people it’s a matter of survival, using whatever they come across where they can, without searching and defining their niche. What to do, try the option without contact with people. There are people who have come out of deep depression, but still cannot live and communicate, be around people, much less work. But there are many advantages to this and you can live. And in terms of communication, such vulnerable and sensitive souls need to approach very carefully the beginning of any informal communication, with whom to meet and connect life, to go deeper into communication. This is if you gather and choose to live, you will not give up. And such thoughts only depend on conditions; the influence is colossal. With such pressure, any such soul will feel this way, do not despair. The purchase of goods, payment and extraction of resources for this can now be organized via the Internet, with minimal interaction. If you understand the values ​​and priorities in life, study the issue of nutrition, do not participate in the consumption race, but be content with little for necessary needs, and do not want to live in luxury, then you will not need a lot of money. But this issue will still have to be resolved, it is better not to delay it. And get out of toxic conditions. The environment a person lives with has a huge influence. It’s hard without support, understanding, care and love, and even more so under constant pressure without compassion and attempts to understand the condition of another person. If you want to do something and it is impossible to be in the current conditions, then there are options, but you will have to have minimal contact with people. For example, renting a house, or buying a cheap summer house for living, or working with the provision of housing, or working in a monastery. But for those who live far away and are unable, unwilling, or afraid to interact, this is not an option. But this is by the way, if such options have not come to mind and if terrible states will be repeated, and thoughts from the evil one will try to finish off with their obsession, throwing up thoughts that nothing more can be done. But you can eat something. There are always options, there are no hopeless situations. Hopeless, when death is near and it doesn’t depend on you what will happen next, when you can no longer make choices. And as long as you live and have freedom of choice, everything can be changed. Irritability. This also leads to temper tantrums. The most important thing in such moments is to try not to enter into dialogue with obsessive thoughts and try to switch from this low-quality wave of indignation. It is fundamentally important not to express out loud to others in relation to whom and by whom the excited state is caused. Do not say anything to others, remain silent and do not dwell on the topic inside. Without understanding, skills, remaining powerless, it is very difficult. Calm is more important than ever then. Calm down, switch, relax, occupy your mind with thoughts about something else that is not related to the cause of outbursts of anger. Otherwise, out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. And verbosity is by no means a qualitative stream of love, kindness and help. And pouring out in words (“I’m lashing out at my household”) a negative flow of speech at the cause of the disturbance of peace. Also by condemnation when observing actions, actions, and words of other people that are incorrect from one’s own view. This leads to thoughts of the irreparable. Place a person in other conditions, surroundings, put useful information into his head and his life will be transformed! There would be a desire. But in a state of apathy and depression there is simply no motivation to do anything. After all, it can be like with studying, it depends on the key word you wrote - meaning. What motivates a person to take actions, get up in the morning, what to strive for. A person in an apathetic-depressive state is deprived of the motive to perform basic, habitual everyday actions to take care of himself or to do anything at all. And “I wasn’t kind to others” because I didn’t find the right people in life, where I could practice, who needed it, your flow of speech, it was interesting to communicate with you. Otherwise, indeed, you will become disappointed in people and the consequences of this in life itself, being in all this, without immunity and a correct understanding of the events taking place, the reasons for people’s actions, and even more so, being not yet on the spiritual path. Look for motivation, the meaning of life, find what every human soul desires! These were mainly thoughts on practice, regarding conditions and how to deal with aggression and non-acceptance of the behavior of surrounding household members. And then there are broad philosophical discussions. But they are the ones that are important and fill life with meaning and motive, give their unique perception of life, forming a worldview of the world of understanding this existence! “Name” to you, life was not given in order to commit suicide when faced with difficulties. Why does this happen? Such states are given to understand that there is no true meaning in the external world. This is sorrow. And without them, it is impossible to get closer to God. No one ascended to Heaven living coolly and carelessly. The Kingdom of God is within man, in every human soul, who will find the true meaning of this short-term life, which is a journey on the path to eternity, who will find this very narrow, thorny path of salvation of the soul. Unless, of course, a person drowns out the true meaning with surrogates, crafts, looking for happiness and meaning, motive, goals, in this world. You are lucky, seriously, if you pass these tests and in this gloomy state on the eve of hell you are inspired in God, then Paradise will open slightly in your soul and you will find your way. And it is impossible to kill yourself. In eternity there is an endless existence, only after death the soul is no longer able to choose. Repentance is possible during this temporary earthly life, and it strives for what it strived for in earthly life, what state the soul is in, to what extent there have been attempts in the fight against passions. Souls not cleansed from sins, serving fallen spirits, depart into the kingdom of darkness. God forbid that we should move away, rejecting and falling away from the source of life and immortality, from Christ. Yes, for non-believers this is difficult, it is not perceived by those to whom the Lord has not yet revealed himself, to those who have not sought Him with all their heart and soul, to those who have loved this temporary life. But Faith is a gift and is acquired, the main thing is to take the first step, without yet really realizing what it will lead to, and a protest to the existing way of life and conditions, but to the state of one’s soul can become this step of awakening in God. Gradually melting a cold heart towards the spiritual. Look, at least try, from a different perspective on the world. What this world of passions considers a disadvantage, you can find advantages and grow virtues out of it. Unable to tolerate loud sounds and light, you involuntarily perform the asceticism of keeping your hearing and sight pure. If you are afraid to communicate with people, you protect yourself from unnecessary communication, without taking on the colossal influence of a strong society that affects through communication with people with false values. Never had a relationship - you maintain chastity, which is very important for building true mutual love, family life and purity of soul, you do not fornicate, like the world of communicating people. And if you find the awakening voice of God in your soul, then the perception of family and friends will not be “not interesting” and considered from the point of view of necessity, but with a sincere desire to give, learning true love together with your other half, understanding that true friendship and possible only in pairs. And to be wary of other people, this can also be seen as a plus. Considering from the position of Truth, values, meaning. And if a person is defenseless, naive, ignorant. This can be beneficial than contacting what is called a bad company. The world lies in evil and vices are promoted, popular, it is easier to choose degradation under the guise of entertainment and imaginary development, going with the flow, than to doom yourself to misunderstandings, insults, reproaches, persecution, having found the narrow path of the struggle for real, eternal life, and not a counterfeit of the carnal existence to satisfy passions. You have a chance, who is doing well in external resources such as studies, work, money, relationships, friendship, family, communication, appearance, knowledge, intelligence, understanding, strength, skills, health and so on. Then such people often no longer need God. And those who do not have everything in order by the standards of the world are able to open their hearts, darkened by the pride of denial of inheritance from the entire family and ancestors, to open them towards the Source of all good things, true Love - God. Christ came to such people, to the burdened, the weak, the sinful, and those in need of Him. And know, no matter what you choose in the end, He the Lord Jesus Christ will always Love you, this is His property of immutability, as well as omnipresence, omnipotence, infinite, beginningless, inseparable consubstantial God of the Trinity. Hell is simply a place without God, a state of rejection of God by the human soul. But even there He continues to Love the human soul. It’s just that for the unprepared, this Fire of God’s Grace will burn, convict the conscience and torment, which is hell. And for souls cleansed of sins and prepared, it gives pleasure and is Paradise. You know first-hand what the threshold of hell is, feeling the pain of life, moral and physical, why it became impossible to continue studying, not seeing the point of enduring sorrow without complaint, not having support from the Lord, being outside the Church, knocked out of life, not participating in the Sacraments of Repentance and Communions. In such a state, finding the path to eternal, real life, gradually, everything is possible. Choose a real life - Eternal, where any sorrow, sadness, pain will be comforted by the humane Lord, where there is no influence of the world of fallen spirits that provoke a person to sin and give all the severity of conditions. The Lord only allows this influence if He sees with His Wisdom, incomprehensible to man, that temptations will benefit the human soul. If sorrow intensifies, turn to Him from the heart: “I don’t know whether you exist or not, but if you exist, open up or guide me on the true path.” The understanding of the spiritual, the recognition of it, will not be immediate in non-seeking souls. A gradual path, if the soul feels the need and does not cause rejection, then study what Orthodox sources of information convey. So what to do? But nothing. Yes Yes. Just lie in the dark, but start calling out from this state, find something else, look for the main thing, don’t give up. It is difficult for a person himself to force and find inside, so immersing himself in information, studying. There is a lot of things. What you choose depends on trust, perception and understanding. Just understand that what is quality and reliable is actually necessary; a person who has not found the true meaning, without forming a picture of the worldview, simply cannot choose the right one. And so as not to be in the dark on the topic. Ignatius Brianchaninov “The Word about Death” and other spiritual information. refreshing the importance of remembering and preparing for death, fighting against sins, preparing the soul on life's journey of journeying, being saved. Save your name, take care of yourself, the human soul is more important than the whole world. Even if you don’t understand, having already chosen life, there will be a beginning of the path. This is a bitter truth and the path is narrow, this is not the joyful repentance now being promoted, and the desire for happiness and earthly blessings. The dream of you being gone is the desire of sinners in hell. But the soul created in the image of God is not destroyed, this is what God wanted, creating the soul from nothingness. Those who have not achieved similarity live in hell and are not fit to dwell in Paradise in the Kingdom of God with the righteous and Saints. You will still have to cry, not in this life like after death. Only repentance does not work in hell; there is already a belated cry of repentance. Christianity is not an invention of human imagination and ad hoc, but a revelation of God given from above according to His love for mankind, which does not desire the destruction of people, but the salvation of every human soul. But many are called, but few are chosen. The Lord calls everyone to his feast of eternal bliss in Paradise, but not many who respond to this call of the King of Kings, the Lord and Almighty will respond, heed and believe. God help, so that God’s allowance of disappointment in the world, people, not being able to bear the light of the physical world and hearing loud sounds and the desire to seclude oneself in one’s inner cell will turn into hopeless despondency into depression with thoughts sent into your soul about suicide, such as from the unclean who are approaching in in these states to a person, actively bombarding them with thoughts, when a person has favorable soil for entering into dialogue, with those with whom one cannot talk, nipping obsessive thoughts in the bud. So that all this does not reach an irreparable point, but so that it turns into a real cry to God, opening the heart that is still beating in the physical world. And there. There God will do everything himself, God reveals himself to those who seek. You have to try to believe. That you are alive and real, sincere, and that another person may need you. And now you need God, a true Heart Scientist, who knows, understands and is close to all your feelings, thoughts, like no one else, and God knocks on the human heart. You can find another motivation for yourself, something that touches your heart to the core. But with affairs, goals, hobbies, sports, games, entertainment, studies, work and other external activities, being alone, you can be satisfied and contented only for a certain time, until you get tired of it, and you howl from loneliness, which also turns life into a hellish state of life. for yourself when there is no one to share your life with. To see and from such a state, to understand, to find the path to the true path. If you remain within the framework of the materialistic picture of the world, viewing a person as a resource and bringing benefit to the world in visible actions, then you get views like “considers insignificance without study and work” and adopting this worldview to people, absorbing being immersed in the environment of people and information without knowing an alternative point of view on the world order and you begin to humiliate yourself “I realize that the bag is g” only for some shortcomings. It’s just that you have conditions that can force you to develop, while another life can relax you, leading to degradation. And you don’t need to perceive yourself as a “bag of g”, adopting the view of the vicious world. You, like any person, are the image of God. Open your heart to God and He will comfort and fill your heart with Grace and ignite His fire of Love. This is not why God created the soul out of nothingness. Sins distort everything. If you cannot bear sounds when going out into the outside world, beyond the limits of your inner world, your mental unique worldview of life, hearing sounds from the outside, then earplugs and anti-noise headphones can help, significantly reducing the level of noise and sounds from the outside. In combination, and if you also turn on headphones with audiobooks, or music, prayers, then you will not hear this world. Asceticism in action! And taking precautions and protecting your world so as not to hear anything bad, bad, keeping it clean from the entry of information flows harmful to the soul from vicious people who fill this world and actively manifest themselves in real life, often living an external rather than an internal life . Cry out to God in your sorrows! And He will reveal himself, gradually, which may take years, if you go towards God. Man takes one step towards God, and God takes a thousand steps towards man. And you will fill life with true meaning and you will communicate in prayer with the Holy Spirit, Angel, and Saints. And so, it is God who saves you from the corrupting influence of this vicious world that lies in evil. Where it is dangerous to go out without immunity and being a vulnerable soul. Holiness is achieved through a solitary, silent, quiet life of piety and purity. The main thing is to find an incentive to live. For this reason, start searching, looking inside yourself, asking questions to yourself and the world, sending requests, searching. And whoever seeks will find. Sometimes life can be changed in an instant by adopting the right thought towards trying to live and save the soul from such hellish states that you know firsthand. And awaken a thirst for life, knowledge of the infinite God. Generate a thirst for Life, when faced with something that impresses your heart, look for it and you will find meaning. And God Himself is the source and center of everything. This is why they mention the importance of Faith, God, and Christianity on these sites. Hellish states of the soul are a natural consequence of a person’s falling away from God through sins, of which there are a lot, if you examine your soul, what a huge list of sins there is in manuals for preparing for the sacrament of Confession. These are laws; by believing, you can see and begin to understand why you feel this way. But this does not happen right away, only after going through the path of mistakes and disappointments, realizing that there is nothing in the world except passions, if you live only in the interests of the flesh. And I write everything because I see that it is possible to listen to you, there is a rejection from the material world, there are no attachments to the earthly. Sorrows are given, and this is the ground for preparing the soul to accept spiritual information. But to start with study, searches, and I had it when the Lord did not open that He exists. Only sometimes it is very necessary to filter and protect on whom the world and people have such an influence from the display of others. Otherwise, they will easily destroy, suppressing, saying that this is not so and if there are doubts and there is no confidence of comprehension and the topics have not been studied, then you can deviate and disappear from true understanding and plunge into hell, into the former swamp. Regarding the ascet, involuntarily what situation you are pushing you. About the abstinence of hearing and gaze. On the Internet, you can also install an extension in the browser. Pictures blocker and advertising lock and if you turn on any video in YouTube, for example, the sound is to do it, sometimes begin loudly if something else was listened to. Everyone has a different balance. But this is the same as everything written, a view from the side and if this path is found once and the importance of the purity of the soul from the entry of a variety of sinful poison, so crowded on the Internet, will understand. At the expense of the relationship, you are not interested in. This is again from the depressive state and the lack of understanding of the true meaning of life, plus age is still young, when a person has not matured his soul to build relationships and family life. To mature, leading a conscious life, working on oneself and seeking the further realization of their life path, but already together. When the heart full of love cannot but want to share with another person. Just look for a motive that will compel you to start looking for the meaning of life. But by the way, this is a topic that can save the soul, begin to save, gradually changes occur. And the fact that you do not want acquaintances, friends, family, children. This really needs to be wanted, otherwise it will be like many people, the creation of a family and communication on the basis of passions, conveying all this to children and to remain in problematic relationships without working out the soul and development. And this gut should go and wake up from the soul and perceive not as individual strangers, but as the closest and relatives, dear ones, but this is all possible only with their people, with similar souls, with similar fate, otherwise there will be no confidence, and there will be no confidence. In the contact of souls, when communicating sincere, there will be a way out of confrontation, opposite views, and there will be no unity and true wedding as the maximum convergence of two souls, which is only paired and possibly only there true friendship. And real life. And external communication, not knowing a different level of interaction, real living communication by hearts with understanding, will be perceived as “uninteresting”. The exchange of knowledge without the participation of the soul with emotions and pouring the entire state of the soul, which is inside, there is a lot of formal so. And all knowledge from books and the Internet can be obtained. But here, yes, great luck, meet the right person, a similar soul, and recognize, understand, see. Therefore, for the period of the life path without a meeting, without such understanding and entering only an adult life, it is better to remain without communication in total isolation than to let into your world not like -minded people, not similar people who sees the world differently. If this is important for a person, of course, values ​​are formed and with whom you need to communicate and whom to filter. Fear of communication with people should be perceived as protecting from the harmful influence of the world. The spirit of this world speaks of the importance of socialization and sociability, and truly spiritual people about a secluded life in silence and silence. Who found this path. That you are involuntarily, by the way, do. And communication without a rod of understanding of true values ​​can be dangerous. Yes, even with the formed, people who do not listen to the spiritual and fiercely deny, living with rude vices, who do not want to correct themselves, take them to their poor -quality wave and draw the soul. And it is important to choose someone to let into life, to have an intellectual resource of the mind and distinguish between values, people, and without it to store the purity of the soul, it is better not to enter the dialogs that you confuse your spirit and not start communicating at all, already seeing those who are not close in understanding of people. If there is nothing to share only. A person shows his opinion on some kind of life aspect, a situation, reasonably expresses, trying to reveal and convey in full his point of view, another person, in turn, thinks, trying to understand and express his vision of the world. With many views, when there are so many opinions, inf., People, then you can’t please everyone, drown in this and you do not need to build masks and other things. Communication itself should and will not be afraid that the signal does not serve as its people, but from clearly vicious, it is even useful to run and isolate, who is not trusted due to the difference in views, life fate, values. Until a person is removed from what the heart is afraid of, the enemy is convenient to attack. When the soul is connected by harmful communication with the world, it is inferior to victory naturally. The mind will not always be adamant and not to fall, the saints reached a non -destructive state, putting together the Holy Spirit, approaching impassivity, the struggle with passions, cleansing the soul, far from the world. And if you find strength, seeing the light and choose life, then you can know what happens to the world vital and with which people to communicate with and it is better to be one, to be one than to let into your world unequivable, unequent people with not similar fate, soul, values, who He will again bring to such states and give only disappointment in people and life. On its own, real life only begins (for such people) when moving away from the world and people who only to hide, suppressing and destroying any desire to live. Families, you are not interested in relationships. So simply did not meet the right person, therefore, and a petrified heart did not awaken. Being outside of communication, closed, isolation, alienation and not good in external manifestation in relation to others as you write and in what people want to see. It is necessary to leave a place always in your heart for the second half. Otherwise, it will be even more difficult to find a meaning to live. For such souls, loneliness and such a lifestyle, secluded not out of love for a prayer, quiet life, but from resentment and bitterness, having hatred. And this is adversely for the soul. The main thing inside, in the thoughts of malice, do not keep, learn to forgive. They insult you - you do not insult, you are driven - you do not drive, etc. You are not interesting and do not see the point of making friends, you write acquaintances. So the Internet, because you write to someone and here I wrote a story. Yes, these are not living people, there is no presence, condition, energy not to feel the interaction with letters, but left by living people. And if you are afraid of people, then you need to start with this, and not immediately go somewhere, and therefore horror causes the idea of ​​interviewing and communicating with living people. So you can, having received another negative experience among people, going out to people, get disappointed and close even more. As for the living, here it is very carefully necessary to approach the beginning of communication. Trust must be earned before telling about yourself and in reality, moreover, where the influence of people's spirit, their pressure and suppression of life, views, values ​​are many times more than on the Internet. In this aspect, I myself still do not trust anyone, I don’t communicate with anyone, never trying to get acquainted with anyone, I do not trust anyone without finding the right people, with regard to informal communication, and not in business and, if necessary. In the matter of communication, the foundation is how similar to a person are, in fate, views, souls, how much a look at the world, unanimity of life, building assumptions, expression of thoughts, and behavior of actions are in unison and consonant. What if it does not suit, it will be, with internal rabbits of the state of calm balancing, the conclusion of their negative behavior to their emotions and naturally gives outbreaks of aggression “I break into households.” And the desire to close under the covers, nothing to hear and not seeing, a consequence of the conditions. This is the protection and I will say that it is correct, in my opinion, how and what I write. It is better to remove the sources of provocations and run from temptations that force sins than to cook in this, going on a negative wave of the world, being already a puppet, fulfilling his will, but under the influence of circumstances. There will be no aggression if there are no sources in the form of other people who are not so. Then it turns out that the world is violated in the soul, peace and tranquility. Do not tempt yourself, it is better to learn to humble in silence and patience than to quarrel where there are not close relationships, like family with misunderstanding. And the family is not children and parents, but the closest ones are husband and wife. There is not appropriate closeness and removal, but this is already in high -quality relations, when people together, and not just nearby, with different interests and not showing feelings, not wanting to work on relationships, deciding and difficulties, learning love. The advisers to go to the doctor, psychologists, do not understand, not considering that the idea of ​​any conversation with people is terrifying. Just try to understand these, showing indulgence, they are not led by experienced without living what it is when you do not trust anyone in this world and have no one to talk to. Regarding the discovery of their experiences, really, on important exciting topics, with understanding, receiving the right answers that is possible only with similar souls, similar to fate. Where the true cooperation of the interaction of souls is at the level of feelings, emotions, unity, and not a formal exchange of words, knowledge, broadcasting inf., As if from another planet, when not similar people communicate when there are no common souls. And when the human soul is necessary and important, but they offer completely different. When it is necessary to sincerely expression and real communication, and they offer communication from the position of the teacher, pumping up with knowledge incomprehensible. It would be good for a really competent person of a psychologist, a real connoisseur of human souls, which can only people from God with a practical spiritual life, living with Christ, and with the practice of internal work, a prayer, who with the love of the gospel will be able to treat such people, and not high, and not highly, Having crushed and destroyed so the undermined state, hung diagnoses of modern materialistic psychology, denying the soul and reality of the spiritual world, the roots of the causes of such apathetic states of the soul. But if you are lucky and know, true specialists do not require any money. That is, the most effective, high -quality inf. And the confession to whom you trust and most importantly in the sacrament to priests. There, the grace of God acts, no matter how sinful the priest was. But, yes, most likely such people will not turn somewhere, but the advisers to do this, absolutely do not understand what it is when there is no trust in the world at all and I want to disappear, and do nothing, not to see, not to hear the world when Nothing pleases. But at least you write, and someone cannot contact in such states. The main thing, except for common words, which so you can get self -education on their own, will not say anything, are not interested in the true help of your soul. Even if they help, if you are lucky, then the good will be, but still you will need to live on and you will make decisions. And one inf. It displaces another and it is important to reinforce. The fact that you will have to imagine. Only how to find a motive for life? No words will help here, because any help, that is, words, support from another person, the source of inf., Even what is the highest quality, this is a maximum of 50%, and then the matter is for a person and the ability to take useful for himself, which is necessary bringing useful changes to your life. ...

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Monotony

If a person has to constantly do monotonous and routine work, then sooner or later he gets tired of it. After all, every day he has to perform the same tasks. There comes a moment when a person feels that he has no strength and does not want to do anything.

How to be in this case? The following techniques will help you add variety to your daily activities:

1. A change of scenery. Move your workspace to another office. If this is not possible, then change the arrangement of objects on the table. Changing your environment will give you a feeling of newness.
2. Change the way you operate. If you constantly work at a computer, then take a pen and a piece of paper. Write down your work plan. This will add some variety to your activities.
3. Change the order of actions. For example, you are used to doing some things in the morning and others in the evening. Change your usual daily routine. Move to the second half of the day everything you usually do in the morning.
4. Be physically active. A morning jog or gymnastics before the workday promotes vigor and activity.
5. Rest. Try not doing any activity for a few hours. After this, return to your daily duties. Usually, after a short pause, a person gets down to work with pleasure.

We're too hard on ourselves

From all sides we are called upon to take responsibility for our lives and bombarded with slogans like “Die, but do it,” “If you don’t do it, it means you just don’t want to,” and “Everything depends only on you.” As a result, we blame only ourselves for failures or inaction, without shifting responsibility and without looking for excuses.

And this is generally not bad. But we should not forget that we are also influenced by circumstances and other people.

And this influence is sometimes quite significant, and it is difficult to resist it. Thus, an asthenic person with a weak immune system will not be able to work as hard as a physically strong person. Someone who grew up in a wealthy family has more opportunities to get a good education and build a business. And it’s much easier to radiate awareness and positivity if you live alone in a large apartment, and not with three children in a one-room apartment.

Does this mean that you need to fold your paws and start sighing heavily about your hard lot? In no case. Just be more lenient with yourself, don’t scold or demand the impossible. Everyone has obstacles and limits, and they need to be taken into account. Or, if they are temporary, try to overcome them.

How to fix it

There are fundamental barriers, such as genetics and health conditions, that little can be done about. And there are small, but annoying little things that are easy to get rid of. In his book The Power of Habit, Charles Duhigg calls them context.

Context can be changed if it is recognized in time. For example, you want to do yoga in the morning, but you don’t do it because you don’t have a comfortable mat, then order yourself one. Or you don't go to bed on time because your bedroom isn't cozy enough - just change the environment a little. For example, buy new curtains and a beautiful night light.

Laziness

Very often, the cause of apathy is insufficient motivation. A person complains that he is too lazy to do everything and doesn’t want to do anything. At the same time, he can set various goals for himself, but he has no desire to make any efforts to achieve them.

In psychology, laziness is considered as a lack of volitional qualities. This greatly complicates a person’s life and prevents them from realizing their dreams and desires. How to overcome laziness and motivate yourself? The following techniques can be used:

1. Make a plan. If you need to complete a task, write down the required procedure on paper. The plan must be drawn up in detail and step by step. After you complete a certain action, mark it on paper with a check mark. You will see the final goal getting closer and closer thanks to your efforts.
2. Picture your dreams. If you set a goal for yourself, then try to visualize it. Choose a picture or photo of your dream and hang it in a visible place. This will motivate you to take action.
3. Make a list of achievements. Write down on paper all the important things that you have managed to accomplish in the past. Re-read it several times. This will create the necessary motivation. After all, if you were able to achieve achievements earlier, then it is quite possible for you to do it now.
4. Do nothing for some time. Try turning off your TV, computer, and phone. Sit on a chair and do nothing. You will soon realize that it is very difficult to be in a state of complete idleness. After this, you will happily take on work that until recently seemed difficult.

When the objection appears: I don’t need anything?

If you work only on incoming orders and sell the client only what he asked for (without offering additional products), then you will not have problems with the objection “Nothing needed.” I wouldn’t even call this process a full-fledged sale. Here you simply satisfy the client's request. This kind of work could soon be done by robots)).

Let's consider another situation: You are engaged in real sales, and not selling goods. You initiate the sale yourself, call the company and offer, for example, printers in bulk. In this case, there is a high probability of hearing “I don’t need anything.”

In addition, there is a high probability of encountering an objection. Nothing is needed / not needed when trying to cross-sell: A client called you and decided to buy your printers in bulk, and you offered a year’s supply of ink and paper for these printers. In response to this offer, the client may say that he does not need anything.

Most likely you know that the cost of a client is now growing. Therefore, when a client comes to you with a basic question, it is advisable to make him become your complex client, so that he buys not only one main product for which he came, but also additional products. Therefore, in any case, if you are engaged in sales, the objection not arise. Let's figure out how to work with it.

Uncertainty

When a person is not confident in his abilities, he gives up and does not want to do anything. Usually this condition occurs after failure. It becomes very difficult for a person to make decisions. After all, he does not believe that his efforts will lead to the desired result and is setting himself up for failure in advance.

Uncertainty and difficulty in making decisions take up a lot of energy. A person complains that he is constantly in a bad mood and doesn’t want anything.

How to help yourself in this situation? Psychologists advise writing down on paper all the important tasks that you need to solve. Then you should create a schedule for their implementation. Also describe step by step all possible ways to solve these problems. Think in advance about your plan of action in case of failure. You will be much less afraid of failure.

We limit ourselves

Imagine: you are full of enthusiasm and eager to take action - for example, to open your own business. But then a voice sounds in my head that says: “Come on. Who needs it? All the good startups have already been opened, I still can’t think of anything better. You don’t have to try.” Or: “You can’t earn a lot of money honestly.”

If something similar happened to you (and this happens to everyone, all the time), then you are faced with your own limiting beliefs. These are ideas, thoughts and attitudes that are formed in us under the influence of parents, social sentiments, and sometimes even proverbs and sayings.

And although there is some truth in them, they are often biased and based on generalizations and false premises. But at the same time they can greatly influence our judgments and decisions.

Because of them, we do not dare to defend our rights, because “everything is useless, corruption is everywhere, it is better not to even get involved”; We’re not looking for a new job, because “the main thing is stability, and here they pay regularly, although not much.” And of course, we cannot take on new things, become better and change our lives.

Here are some examples of limiting beliefs that hold us back:

• “At 40 years old it’s too late to get a second degree. My brains are no longer the same, and in general it’s time to retire soon.”
• “Business is very difficult, without connections and bribes nothing will work.”
• "Needed where was born".
• “Nothing is given for nothing, everything good must first be earned.”
• “Creativity is not work.”
• “Childhood diseases need to be overcome in childhood. It’s not appropriate for an adult to dye his hair pink, play a video game console, and master the guitar.”

How to fix it

Psychologists recommend 4 Steps to Release “Limiting Beliefs” Learned From Childhood to carefully monitor your thoughts, identify and write down the beliefs that prevent you from moving on, and try to reformulate them into something more positive and inspiring.

Instead of “At my age it’s too late to change jobs,” you can tell yourself: “I have a lot of life and professional experience, so I can definitely be useful in a new field. And if I don’t know something, I can learn.” It is better to write down new settings and return to them periodically.

Impatience

There are times when a person wants to achieve the desired result as quickly as possible. However, he faces unexpected difficulties. As a result, apathy sets in and you want nothing. For example, a person decided to lose weight. He goes on a diet and leads an active lifestyle. However, the extra pounds come off very slowly. With low motivation and lack of will, a person feels apathy and stops making any efforts to combat excess weight.

Not all problems can be solved quickly. Making your wish come true may require a lot of effort. You should not fall into apathy at the first failures. Remember that the more work you put into solving a problem, the more valuable the result will be.

If something doesn’t work out for you right away, then this is not a reason to refuse to complete the task. Analyze your way of doing things. Perhaps you should consider alternative ways to achieve your dreams. Consider the difficulties that arise as useful life experience and will training.

You think that nothing depends on you

Reason #4 is your perception of yourself as a victim of circumstances. And everyone knows perfectly well how hard they can press. And when everything piles up like a snowball, it’s easy to start feeling crushed by this lump, when you can’t breathe or move. And the longer you are in such captivity and numbness, the more helpless and worthless you feel and the more difficult it is to do anything at all to get out. And here, you see, there’s no time for desires either. It would be good to survive, to somehow stay afloat.

What to do? Such a view of things is only an illusion caused by being inside the situation, inside the problem. If you try to abstract yourself at least a little and look at the situation from the outside, as if someone else were in it, then you can see a way out, and not just one. But remember: in order to distance yourself from the situation, you need to make an effort on yourself - there is no other way.

And one moment. Do not immediately take on the solution of a global, complex problem. You are unlikely to be able to conquer Everest. Start small - with easy tasks or small parts of a difficult task that you can do now. To do this, break it down into steps and make a plan-route for your movement to the final goal. This way you won’t get lost on this path and won’t wander in circles.

Plus, by performing simple actions, you can get out of the perception of yourself as a victim and feel that a lot depends on you. This will allow you to gain strength and self-confidence.

Stress

If a person experiences a stressful situation, it can bring both benefit and harm. For example, you need to complete important work on time. In this case, the central nervous system is mobilized, and the brain works much more productively than usual. Such stress helps to increase performance and improve memory.

But if a stressful situation drags on, the brain becomes overtired from constant stress. A person feels very tired and doesn’t want anything. This causes great harm to mental and physical health. Prolonged stress leads to a loss of joy and a negative perception of the future.

After difficult experiences, a person may lose interest even in his favorite activities. There comes a state when you don’t want to do anything. What to do, how to recover from prolonged stress? Psychologists give the following recommendations:

1. Don't dwell on your feelings. Often people constantly remember a stressful situation. This forces them to experience negative emotions again and again, which take a lot of energy. Let go of past experiences and do not return to them. Don't reproach or blame yourself for failures.
2. Talk to people who have already experienced a similar situation. For example, you lost your favorite job and feel sad and anxious about it. Talk to a person who was also fired, but found a way out of this situation. This will tell you the right decision.
3. Give yourself some rest. Maintain a proper sleep schedule and try to get healthy sleep. This will help you recover from stress.
4. Don't try to predict events. In a state of stress, the future is seen exclusively in black colors. This puts a person in a negative mood. Try to live only for today for a while and solve everyday problems. When your state of mind is normal, make a plan for your future actions and follow it.

Mistakes when working with objections I don’t need anything

Very often, I hear how incorrectly, in my opinion, ineffectively, they try to teach how to work through objections. I don’t need anything .

Here are phrases and approaches that, in my opinion, do not work effectively :

1. If you hear “I don’t need anything,” you can say: “Well, of course you don’t, because you haven’t heard our offer yet, if you hear it, you will be interested.” This does not work.
2. Sometimes some trainers even recommend using such manipulations: “Aren’t you interested in additional income?” This question is aimed at getting the “Yes, I want to become richer” out of the client. Of course, there is a possibility that someday this will work for some clients. But if we are talking about the b2b sales segment and communicating with adequate clients who have long understood all these techniques, this will not work. And moreover, the impression of the manager himself, of the seller who will answer like that, will be spoiled.

They want to manipulate me, why should I continue to communicate with this person? (the client will think)

3. I am also surprised that some consultants advise answering the objection “I don’t need anything”: “Will you take it for 100 rubles?” or “And if we give you a 50% discount, will you take it?” That is, we immediately bend in price and, accordingly, the value of the offer itself falls. I talked about this in the video “ The “Expensive” Objection.” What to say? "

Avoid such mistakes and use more modern techniques. Let's look at these techniques.

Emotional burnout

This condition occurs in people whose work involves stress. Emotional burnout often occurs among doctors, teachers, and social workers. In prolonged stressful situations, the psyche tries to protect itself and “turns off” the emotional sphere. A person’s desires disappear, apathy sets in, and he doesn’t want anything. The employee becomes nervous, irritated and indifferent to his clients. He feels inner emptiness and fatigue.

What to do if you don’t want to do anything due to emotional burnout? Psychologists assess this condition as borderline between normal and pathological. If nothing is done, a person may develop psychosomatic diseases. The following measures will help cope with professional burnout:

1. Take enough time to rest. Try not to think about work during weekends and vacations.
2. Eliminate sweets, strong tea and coffee from your diet.
3. In your free time, don’t overload your brain with too much information.
4. Be physically active, take walks in the fresh air more often, and do not neglect morning exercises.
5. Share your experiences with loved ones and friends. Don't keep your emotions to yourself.
6. If necessary, take light sedatives based on medicinal herbs.
7. If the state of emotional burnout does not go away for a long time, then seek help from a psychologist.

Causes of apathy

Scientists have named the main reasons that can plunge one into apathy:

• age crisis, especially middle age;
• failures in love and family life;
• the end of a certain period of life when everything went according to a well-established rut, for example, studying at the university;
• change of place of residence where you have lived for many years;
• change of place of work where extensive work experience has been accumulated;
• the end of a long period that required great emotional costs;
• excessive “burning” at work;
• insufficient amount of vitamins in the body - vitamin deficiency;
• suffered a serious illness,
• presence of psychosomatic illness;
• stress caused by some negative event;
• an event that is excessive and intense in terms of emotional costs;
• pregnancy period.

When you need a doctor's help

Above we looked at situations where apathy is temporary and provoked by external circumstances. But what to do when you don’t want to do anything for a long time? Persistent and causeless apathy is an alarming sign. In such cases, a person may need the help of a psychotherapist or psychiatrist. After all, loss of interest in everyday activities can be a sign of pathological conditions:

• asthenia;
• chronic fatigue syndrome;
• depression;
• schizophrenia.

How to distinguish ordinary apathy from symptoms of the disease? The following manifestations should be alarming:

• causeless and persistent decrease in mood;
• unmotivated anxiety;
• feeling tired even after a long rest;
• decreased memory and mental ability;
• loss of interest in everyday activities;
• inability to perform work duties;
• progressive loss of strength;
• emotional coldness.

If you notice at least one of the above symptoms, you should visit a doctor. Do not hesitate to contact a psychiatrist. After all, without treatment, apathy will progress. Modern therapy methods will help you return to an active lifestyle.

Next we will look in more detail at diseases accompanied by apathy.

How to fix it

Take small steps

Don't start big; you'll set the bar too high, given that at this stage you're in a state of disinterest, much less willing to do anything. Think about what you previously wanted or what dreams remained unfulfilled, and then start making a plan. Research has shown that planning—even if it's short-term—helps keep you in shape and leads to greater resilience.

Introduce rituals into your life

Despite the fact that freedom, of course, is what any person needs to realize his needs, nevertheless, certain restrictions will help you not to waste time and do only what will be truly useful. Therefore, formulate a few rules, for example, how you will start your morning: with a glass of water, reading 10 pages of a book, taking a shower - it doesn’t matter, the main thing is that it becomes a habit. By doing this every day, your brain will feel good and your motivation will increase.

Make checklists

If you understand in your head that you need, say, to improve a foreign language, but you don’t have the desire or energy to do it, try motivating yourself by creating checklists. Determine for yourself the optimal amount of what you are willing to do now, set a schedule, and then start marking the days on your calendar when you completed the task. For example, learn 10 words daily. And each time you do this, paint the day with a bright color, and let the calendar itself be in a prominent place as a reminder of the goal you have set for yourself.

Try to be kinder to yourself

There may be a lack of interest for various psychological reasons: from deep self-doubt to extreme perfectionism, when there is a feeling that everything should be perfect, which is almost never justified. Either reason exhausts us, and it is normal that sometimes we feel exhausted. Try to figure out how you prevent yourself from being interested in life around you. If you can’t do it on your own, you can always contact a specialist who will help determine the cause of all the problems. But the most important thing is not to judge yourself for “wrong” behavior and understand that at the heart of everything is caring about your well-being.

Asthenic syndrome

What to do when you don’t want to do anything and feel a complete loss of strength? If apathy is observed for a long time, then this may be a manifestation of asthenic syndrome. This condition develops after suffering pathologies, especially infectious ones. The body is greatly weakened after illness. A person has to spend a lot of energy doing even simple things. As a result, the nervous system is depleted. The patient becomes irritable, hysterical, and tearful. He gets tired quickly even after little effort.

It is very difficult to cope with this condition on your own. You will need the help of a psychotherapist. To treat asthenic syndrome, vitamin complexes and nootropic drugs are used. After a full course of therapy, the condition returns to normal, and the apathy gradually disappears.

Pathological fatigue

There are times when a person experiences constant fatigue that does not go away even after a long rest. In addition, the patient is worried about muscle weakness, his whole body aches, he does not want and cannot do anything. The person feels exhausted, but has great difficulty falling asleep. In this case, doctors make a diagnosis of chronic fatigue syndrome (CFS).

Modern medicine does not know the exact causes of the disease. There is an assumption that CFS is caused by a disorder of the autonomic nervous system. This is a rather complex pathology, and it is impossible to cope with it on your own. In this case, only consulting a doctor will help. Currently, drugs based on levocarnitine (Carnitene, Cardonate) have been developed. They help significantly reduce the feeling of fatigue.

What is interest

In psychology, there is such a term as personality orientation - this is a set of stable motivations that motivate a person to understand what he wants and determine how he perceives the world and how he can achieve the goals that are set for him. Desires and motives themselves are dynamic and depend on a person’s situational needs, which correspond to his values ​​and worldview, as well as certain obligations to other people. Nevertheless, psychologists identify several fixed categories, which can include everything that we are trying (or at least want) to achieve:

• Installation. An individual’s unconscious willingness to act to satisfy needs.
• Attraction. A stage in a person’s life when he does not yet understand what exactly he wants, but feels the desire.
• Interest. An emotional manifestation of curiosity and cognitive need, which is felt as a feeling of sympathy for an object/activity.
• Wish. A conscious need to get something.
• Intention. The same conscious understanding of what a person plans to do.
• Beliefs. A set of perceived needs according to which a person builds his life.
• Worldview. Reflects a person’s views on the world, social relationships, social norms and rules.

We are most interested, of course, in interest, which is always based on different needs. For example, you may be interested in finding a cafe where you can have lunch today because you are hungry, or meeting with friends because you feel a lack of social contacts. Any conscious desire for a certain activity or object is an interest that we realize with the help of other components of the personality’s orientation. However, we often find ourselves in a situation where there seem to be inclinations, but it is not easy to deal with them, and clearly defined interests do not seem to exist at all. Or they were there, but for some reason they disappeared.

Depressive disorders

If a person is bothered by an unreasonable bad mood for a long time, then doctors diagnose depression. Apathy is one of the manifestations of this pathology. With depression, a person loses interest in life, experiences constant melancholy and anxiety. His appetite decreases and sleep deteriorates. In severe cases, suicidal thoughts appear.

There is also an asthenic form of depression. Apathy and loss of strength are the leading symptoms of this pathology. It becomes difficult for a person to take any action. He feels very tired even after simple work. Such patients are usually deeply worried about their condition. They reproach themselves for “laziness” and passivity, and often feel guilty. As a result, depression only gets worse.

If you experience these symptoms, consult your doctor as soon as possible. Otherwise, depression will become chronic, and it will be much more difficult to treat. In the initial stage, psychotherapy sessions help. In more severe cases, the use of antidepressants with anti-anxiety and activating effects is indicated.

Age

When thinking about the apathy and mental states of your relatives, it is worth paying attention to the age factor. Teenagers often experience low mood, which, on the one hand, is due to developmental norms, and on the other hand, should not frighten parents too much. Chronic blues are also a common companion for older people. This fact makes them a social group particularly susceptible to feelings of apathy.

Schizophrenia

This mental illness is accompanied by apato-abulic syndrome. The term "abulia" means a pathological lack of will. The patient experiences the following painful symptoms:

• untidiness and failure to comply with basic hygiene standards;
• loss of interest in any activity;
• complete passivity;
• lack of emotions;
• pathological isolation;
• indifference to loved ones and to oneself.

If a patient with depression does not want to do anything, then he is usually very worried about this. A patient with schizophrenia is usually emotionally cold. He has no criticism of his condition.

In this case, there is no point in shaming a sick person. His untidiness and laziness are a consequence of severe pathology. Apato-abulic syndrome is a symptom of an advanced form of schizophrenia. Only a qualified psychiatrist can help the patient. The use of antipsychotics with an activating effect can slightly improve the patient's condition.