A self-sufficient woman does not run to her friends or her mother for advice. She does not expect a man to provide for her or allow her to do anything. She does not worry about the lack of a relationship and does not cling to the first person she meets. She is able to provide for herself and clearly knows where she is going, what she is doing and why. A woman’s self-sufficiency is the ability to satisfy all her needs independently, independence in material, psychological and physical terms. How to become self-sufficient?
What is a woman's self-sufficiency
What is a woman's self-sufficiency? Self-sufficiency is a personality trait consisting of autonomy and independence. This manifests itself not in one particular area, but in all areas of life and activities. A self-sufficient person does not depend on the opinions of society, including relatives and friends. He does not need public approval or advice. He has enough inner confidence and determination. He knows that he can cope with any circumstances.
In psychology, it is customary to distinguish social, psychological and everyday self-sufficiency. In the first case, we are talking about education, employment and social activity. In the second case, it’s about the ability to be in solitude, spend time usefully and communicate for the sake of quality, and not for the sake of quantity. Household self-sufficiency means the ability to take care of oneself: taking care of one’s health, body and psyche, the ability to buy groceries and prepare food, create comfort at home, and provide for oneself.
How does it express itself?
How is a woman’s self-sufficiency expressed? First of all, the strength of man is noticeable. It manifests itself in the ability to admit one’s mistakes and learn from them, to listen and accept constructive criticism and not to pay attention to unfair remarks and insults.
A woman’s independence is noticeable in her behavior, words, thoughts, and actions. She knows and accepts herself, knows how to work on her shortcomings, clearly understands her desires, emotions, needs and always follows them. A self-sufficient woman has her own path, a goal in life and a plan to achieve it; nothing and no one can interfere with the path to personal happiness.
What does the phrase “self-sufficient woman” mean? This means strong and independent, and this can be expressed in different ways.
Signs of a self-sufficient woman:
- total self-acceptance, self-love, awareness of the strengths and weaknesses of one’s personality;
- developed self-regulation skills;
- low level of anxiety and high level of stress resistance;
- harmony with oneself and the outside world, focus on maintaining such relationships;
- developed skills of organization and planning both throughout life and individual areas and tasks;
- the ability to earn money and manage finances wisely;
- accepting responsibility for your life, an adequate attitude towards your own mistakes;
- realistic view of the world;
- independence from other people's opinions;
- clearly defined personal boundaries and the ability to maintain and protect them, respect for other people’s boundaries;
- the ability to defend one’s point of view combined with psychological flexibility;
- focus on continuous development and learning, including self-development and self-training;
- lack of self-pity.
A self-sufficient woman does not chase fashion or someone’s approval or communication. She is comfortable both alone with herself and in company with someone. And when choosing clothes, leisure time, and other things, she relies on personal preferences, convenience, and the characteristics of her character and body. In everything and always, she chooses what suits her mood, temperament, and desires. She always knows what is best for her.
Self-sufficiency - what does it mean for a woman in a relationship? Such girls enter into relationships with special caution. They are not exchanged for short novels or destructive relationships. They provide freedom to their chosen one, trust him and respect him. They demand the same attitude towards themselves. Self-sufficient women have a developed and adequate sense of self-esteem and self-worth. They do not allow others to profit or rise at their expense, and they do not do so themselves.
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Important! A self-sufficient woman does not gossip and does not have her head in the clouds, does not discuss the lives of neighbors or stars. She is concerned about her life. And only sometimes she looks at those from whom, in her opinion, she can learn something useful.
Why self-sufficiency is so important for a woman
Independence is important for any person, not just women. This is a trait of a mature personality. Why is self-sufficiency important? Because it allows you to build healthy relationships, find a decent job that matches a person’s interests and abilities, become happy and maximize your personal potential. After all, self-sufficient women are better able to cope with stress and difficult times in life. If something happens, they can take care not only of themselves, but also of their children and parents. However, they will not help lazy people and those who are stuck in the role of a victim.
Important! Self-sufficient people differ from others in that they are not afraid to be themselves. A self-sufficient woman does not lose her uniqueness and individuality, and does not dissolve into thousands of copies. This is how she attracts the attention of men and causes the envy of women.
Mistakes and defeats
Their number in the past and future is not important. Are circumstances capable of undermining self-confidence, breaking you, or will you persevere through this lesson?
Turning to the biographies of successful people, we see that their life path was not paved with a red carpet. Millionaires found themselves on the verge of bankruptcy, actors experienced periods of long oblivion. They never stopped believing in their own strengths and continued to act.
Reconsider your attitude towards defeats. This is just a stage of life. What happens after it depends on you. If you act and achieve your goal, you will get the desired result. Give up and give up - dreams will remain dreams.
How to become a self-sufficient woman
What does self-sufficiency mean for a woman? Awareness and responsibility are the basis of the life of a self-sufficient person. It is impossible to become independent if you do not know or accept yourself, are fixated on the past, are constantly tormented by doubts, do not understand your needs and feelings, do not know what you want and what you are capable of.
How to become a self-sufficient woman:
- Take care of your body, health and psyche.
- Set personal boundaries and learn to say “No.”
- Find an interesting job.
- Get your own housing (this means renting an apartment and moving out from your parents or getting out of a destructive relationship and buying an apartment in the future).
- Start helping people or animals in need and learn to ask for help yourself.
A strong and self-sufficient woman should not be confused with a “man in a skirt.” On the contrary, such girls look feminine, they know how to be affectionate and flexible, they will gladly accept the help and support of a man, but they need support, a partner. The main thing is not to arrange “sparring” at home, because a man wants to come home and relax.
A self-sufficient woman constantly develops her femininity and knows how to competently combine this with masculine character traits. This is what a self-sufficient woman looks like through the eyes of men.
Independence or love? No need to choose!
There is an opinion in society that family relationships require a girl to lose her independence. But that's not true. You can build a successful career, be a beloved woman, an excellent housewife and a caring mother. I teach this in the online training “The Price of Women’s Happiness.” With its help, you will figure out what areas of life are important to you and what goals you want to achieve, and you will be able to realize any desires!
Girls! How important do you think self-sufficiency is to achieving happiness? Or are you sure that a woman’s lot is to be dependent on her husband?
My tips
To become a self-sufficient woman, you need to evaluate your current condition. Go through the criteria we have considered again, determine what you currently lack, and write it down. Now think about how you can achieve what is missing. For example, if you are not happy with your figure, then sign up for a gym right now and consult a nutritionist.
If you are worried about lack of work or you don’t like what you do, then think about what in your case can combine three main components:
- want (your desires);
- can (your abilities and skills or what you can potentially learn);
- necessary (what is in demand in the market as a whole and in your city).
Now you can master many professions remotely or conquer one of the Internet professions. Or you can take courses in the beauty field and start seeing clients at home.
If you suffer from complexes and low self-esteem, uncertainty and understand that this is due to past traumas, then it is appropriate to visit a psychologist. Study each component of independence in even more detail, unravel it like a ball of thread, move from the general to the specific.
The path to independence is never simple and short - it takes a lifetime. Therefore, take your time, learn to set goals and plan, break large tasks into small subtasks, and do not take on everything at once.
Important! Not all women want to be independent; some, due to their personality, are comfortable being under the care of their husband and doing housework. If this option is closer to you, then you should not judge yourself, consider yourself inferior, etc.
Healthy Self Expression
Strangers don't know about your personality traits. A couple of minutes of communication can tell more about you than you do yourself. Look at the table, you will see striking differences that allow you to “calculate” the character before the start of communication.
| Unsure woman | Confident woman |
| Occasional touching, stroking and scratching of different parts of the body. This could be the palms, wrists, neck, nose, forehead, hair | Static posture and hand position |
| Covering part of the face or mouth with the palm of the hand | The hands are relaxed and do not make unnecessary movements |
| Avoiding eye to eye contact. | Looking directly into the eyes of the interlocutor, but without threat or hatred |
| Leg swinging or nervous shaking (sitting position) | Feet placed on the ground, posture straight, no crossed arms or legs |
| Fussiness, unnecessary movements, sudden and frequent changes of posture | Calm confident movements, static |
| Shifting from foot to foot | Stands firmly on his feet, straight and open posture |
To understand how to become confident, you need to know these characteristic signs. Parasitic words also betray uncertainty. These include: unlikely, generally, usually, I suspect, impossible, worries me, I doubt, necessary, difficult, difficult, probably.
Confident communication and social behavior skills can be trained. Having mastered them, you will change the opinion of others about you.
How to become self-confident - advice from a psychologist
- Make a regular list of your small and big victories. This will help you realize that your efforts are not in vain.
- Practice in front of a mirror. No matter how stupid and funny it may look from the outside, do it.
- Learn to present yourself. You must clearly understand your advantages and merits and talk about them without shyness. In most situations, this will help strangers get the right impression of you as a professional.
