How to attract a long-awaited call or meeting, even if your man hasn’t called for a whole week? Today I will tell you how my friend and I tested in practice 4 recommendations of Lisa Volkova for attracting men. Whether our experiment worked or not - read on...
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And I’ll start a little from afar...
My ideal man doesn't call or text
Happiness, joy and elation - this is what a girl should experience after a successful date. But in practice this is often not the case. Nervousness, confusion, awkwardness—it happens that this is exactly what is left after a date.
And all because the man does not call after the meeting. Not immediately, not the next day, not later. The man disappeared, disappeared! I am familiar with this situation and these feelings.
A little personal...
He seemed like my destiny. Tall, curly, smart, sexy, with humor - my ideal. We had beautiful dates, hot kisses, long intimate conversations. And then... he disappeared.
I looked at the phone with hope, then with anger, then with irritation at myself, then fell into depression - I went through all the phases of accepting the situation in a day. Every time the phone rang, time stopped and the countdown started again.
My girlfriend's secret
My friend Katya didn’t understand my whining. They always called her back. And even when the man made himself known late, she said: “My boyfriend is the best! Doesn’t write, doesn’t call, doesn’t invite me for a walk, doesn’t bother me - my sunshine.” I didn’t understand this attitude, but I had to admit that Katyusha was much luckier with the guys...
I unraveled my friend’s secret only a few years later, when I was already married. It was simple: if it happened that a man disappeared, Katya intuitively acted according to certain rules. And so he returned to her quite quickly.
I accidentally came across these very rules while watching a video on Lisa Volkova’s YouTube channel “POWER IN THOUGHT”. It talked about the behavior of a girl who is waiting for the first step from a man. It turned out that Katya did everything right, which, alas, I cannot say about myself.
By the way, how would you behave in such a situation?
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What will you do in a situation where your man has disappeared? Choose your answer
So, you have 3 options. Choose what to do.
- Call or write first : yes - yes, no - no, why bother in vain?
- Be offended and proudly remain silent, sending him to ignore. And then we'll see...
- Accept that if a man doesn’t call , it means I didn’t hook him, it’s not fate.
Which option do you think is correct?
Answer: neither one, nor the other, nor the third!
If you really want your chosen one to finally call you and invite you on the date of your dreams, you need to act completely differently!
How to behave if a man doesn’t call: 4 recommendations from Lisa Volkova
If you think about a man day and night, if you are sad that your phone is not ringing off the hook with his calls, if your hands are itching to write to him, you are not in a resourceful state. You are in a state of need and desire for him to pay attention to you. This is what scares him away.
To attract a man, you just need to change your inner state. Yes, it's that simple! And Lisa Volkova’s recommendations help to do this.
Lisa's recommendation #1. Don’t write, don’t call, and don’t “accidentally” catch your eye
So, under no circumstances write or call him with the questions “Where did you go?”, “What happened?”, “When will we meet?” etc. Take a time out and give yourself time to change a little.
Learn to enjoy life by excluding from it worries like “Why did the man disappear when everything was going so well?” Live every moment with pleasure, be passionate about your business and yourself. Then the man himself will be attracted to you almost instantly. He will be attracted to your state of sincere joy and happiness.
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Lisa's recommendation #2. Create a state of joy, love and pleasure
Firstly,
stop seeing the problem that the man disappeared. On the contrary, find benefits in it - for example, a lot of free time. Enjoy it and focus all your attention on yourself.
Secondly,
do what you like! It doesn't matter what exactly brings you pleasure. The main thing is the sensations that you experience. The more you do things for yourself, the more happiness you will have in your life.
Remember - what do you love and what fills you? For myself, I made a list of 50 favorite activities. Here are a few of them besides the standard shopping and spa.
- Go to the cinema with a bucket of popcorn, immerse yourself in the plot of the film, forgetting about everything in the world.
- Meet with friends and gossip a lot.
- Throw away old things (clothes, dishes) and get rid of junk in the house.
- Meet the dawn when everyone is still sleeping, enjoying the silence and solitude.
- Choose and give gifts to your loved ones for no reason.
- Take a course or marathon on self-development, professional development, etc.
- Review old family photos and videos.
- Swim in the pool.
- Go for a run in the park in the morning.
- Try something completely new - a cooking class, oil painting, vocal lesson, etc.
Do something that inspires you every day. Regularly devote at least half an hour to this, and you will notice how the world around you will change.
But know this: in reality, the world will remain the same. Only the perception will change - you will simply tune your strings to the desired wave.
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Lisa's recommendation #3. Create an intention and breathe life into it
But now we can remember about the man. You are in a resourceful state, satisfied with yourself and life, you have your own interests and affairs. It's time to create an intention - that your man thinks about you and longs to meet you.
Write this intention on a piece of paper in a positive way with the name of your chosen one. For example: “ Andrey
thinks about me every second . He really wants to call me, he really wants to see me . He is happy to invite me on a date .
” Imagine this call and your meeting in great detail: how his voice sounds, how his gaze feels. You should feel this thought with your whole body - goosebumps, butterflies in your stomach, a feeling of flight and boundless joy.
Cast aside all doubts and be completely confident that the man is about to write or call you and will definitely make an appointment.
Lisa's recommendation #4. Think correctly for a man
There is such a joke: while
the man does not call or write, the woman manages to draw the worst thing - conclusions.
If a man has disappeared, you involuntarily begin to think: “ He probably won’t call me... He probably didn’t like me... He probably has someone... ”
It turns out that you are, as it were, thinking out thoughts for a man that he may not have.
Instead, create your own reason why he will definitely call you and soon confess his love: for example, because you are beautiful, smart and cheerful, because he remembers you every minute, misses you very much, etc.
And when he appears, don’t sort things out. No phrases from the series “Where have you been?”, “Why didn’t you call?” or “You can’t do that with me”! Act as if you didn't notice he was missing.
Two typical situations
Let's consider two typical situations. The guy met the girl. They liked each other and began to communicate. He began to write her regular messages, take an interest in her affairs, and invite her to romantic meetings. Perhaps they have already been on one or several dates, where everything was innocent and romantic, or, on the contrary, everything went too far, when suddenly the young man disappeared from the horizon.
The man stopped calling and writing. He either ignores the worried girl’s messages or answers briefly and dryly that he’s busy at work and doesn’t have time to write love letters. It’s one thing if a man can’t write during working hours when he’s really busy, but what’s stopping him from writing in the evening and wishing good night to the girl he likes? For a girl, this situation is negative and incomprehensible: the man doesn’t seem to be holding her, but he’s not letting her go either. She begins to worry and look for the reasons for such unconventional behavior of the young man, thinking that she did something wrong and pushed her lover away from her. The correspondence becomes one-sided. Now only the girl writes, bombarding the man with messages and eloquent emoticons, and he does not take any part in this. But is she doing the right thing? Or does it worsen an already stalemate?
The second situation is similar to the previous one. Only this time, the young people met for a long time, loved each other, perhaps managed to live together, and then, for one reason or another, separated. Six months, a year or several years later they met by chance. And the old feelings were resurrected again. They began to correspond, call each other, went on a date, and spent a stormy night together. And voila, the man stopped calling and writing. Disappeared without explanation. Or, in response to another excited message from his ex, he wrote that he was sent on a business trip or was so busy at work that he had no time to even eat, let alone write to the one who should, in theory, excite his heart and make him boil blood. What is this? Formal indifference, coldness, or simply a desire to remain good, but to withdraw according to the principle: I got used to it and quit? No matter how much one would like to find an excuse for such a man’s behavior, one must look at the further development of the situation. Will the man get in touch in the next few days? Or will the girl not stand it and start writing him message after message, worrying about why he is silent?
In both situations described above, the men stopped calling and writing. And women, as expected, begin to worry and act impulsively, focusing on their feelings and emotions and bombarding their lovers with messages. Which is fundamentally wrong for the development of any relationship.
A man is a hunter by nature. He lives by reason. And the desire to hunt “game”, which already belongs to him and shows it in every possible way, disappears. The persistence shown by the girl, turning into obsession, is repulsive. Isn't it time for a representative of the fairer sex to change tactics and break her patterned behavior?
An experiment codenamed “The Man Doesn’t Call.” How we checked Lisa Volkova's recommendations
I'm a skeptic and love proven techniques. Therefore, I decided to try these rules of Lisa in practice. My husband glanced disapprovingly in my direction: the thought of an experimental date did not inspire him, of course. And then I turned to my other friend, Elena.
Lena just recently met Kirill, a new colleague from another office. A spark ran between them, and now a date was set. I suggested that Lena conduct an experiment if Kirill suddenly didn’t call back after the date. And she agreed.
The first experience turned out to be successful - for me. Not so good for Lena, because Kirill didn’t call her either the evening after the date or the next day.
And then we started with Lisa’s first two recommendations: put down the phone and take care of yourself.
We went for a pedicure together, then walked and chatted all day (not about Kirill). My friend's mood definitely lifted. And by evening she even stopped looking at her phone.
The next day Lena went to visit her grandmother. She loved to go there, but rarely got the chance. I returned inspired, and in the evening I went to a jazz concert.
In the morning we called each other - Lena was in a great mood. She said that she didn’t even think about Kirill all evening.
Then we moved on to recommendations 3 and 4 - creating intention and right thoughts.
Lena wrote in her diary: “Kirill is bored and calls me with joy and pleasure.” She said that when she wrote this, she thought: “How could it be otherwise? Let’s miss a girl like that!” Then I imagined his call and felt a trembling inside. She realized that everything would be as she dreams.
And calmly went to the gym.
Experiment result
The next day, Kirill went into the office where Lena worked. The first thing I did was look at her and ask if she wanted to go for a walk at lunchtime. Viva Victoria! It turned out even better than Lena expected: instead of a call, there was a meeting right away.
So, our experiment lasted only 3 days and ended successfully. I am sure that any girl can apply these simple recommendations if her man does not call. And instead of despairing that the man has disappeared, continue to go on dates with him, receive gifts and declarations of love.
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What do you usually do if your chosen one disappears for a long time and does not make himself known? Share in the comments.
Important point
Dear girls, remember one important phrase and write it in golden letters on the tablets of your heart: “If a man is interested in you or is already in love, he will always find the time and desire to write you one or more messages during the day, even if he is called for a personal meeting An emergency (flood, fire, earthquake) suddenly occurs with the President of Russia or at work.” He will write because he likes you and doesn't want to lose you. He will be able to find a few minutes to call you because he won't want you to worry about him. Despite gender differences, men are also bored and will not disappear for a week or more if they are interested in you.
Everything else is excuses that a girl in love really wants to cling to, who wants to believe her man and is ready to put up with the fact that he might suddenly disappear and stop answering her calls and messages. But what will happen next if the girl has already allowed her boyfriend to behave like this with her? After all, mobile phones and social networks, in which everyone hangs out now, provide an excellent opportunity to report that everything is fine with a person. And if, in addition, a man often logs into social networks or other instant messengers, without responding to messages from the girl with whom he started a relationship, then this is a direct reason to wonder whether she is being deceived by her partner.
