So here's the scenario: You've been in a relationship for a long time, and you started distancing yourself after you saw that he stopped putting effort into your relationship. You see that he always makes excuses for the fact that he rarely sees you or does not keep up with your plans, and you are already a little fed up with all this!
But, at some point, he begins to behave strangely and becomes caring and loving. It's like he's afraid of losing you. Well, my dear, that's probably true. Here are some weird things men do when they're afraid of losing you:
Men's fear of losing personal freedom
A man is ready to give a lot to his beloved woman. He is ready to share money with her or give elite gifts, fulfill some requirements and rules of family life. But the only thing a man is afraid of losing is personal freedom.
Freedom plays different roles for men and women. Beautiful ladies are accustomed to being homemakers and living in a small circle of acquaintances and friends. Men are hunters by nature. They tend to explore vast expanses and communicate with all the people they meet along the way. Freedom for a man is another way to realize himself and demonstrate masculinity. Nowadays, when marriages are concluded with only one woman, and the family lives in a small apartment, there is no room left for a man to hunt freely.
Many representatives of the stronger sex are fighting for their freedom. There are a variety of ways: cheating, hanging out with friends, going to football matches, etc. Each time a man tries to renew his personal space, which gives him strength and masculinity. Therefore, men's fear of losing personal freedom is one of the strongest.
Family men trying to choose a piece of their happiness often demonstrate their freedom by ridiculing other men who have lost it. For example, while washing the dishes, he might say: “Can you imagine, Vanka is such a henpecked guy. He calls his wife 10 times every day.” Having placed the plates in their places, the man goes to his mother to help her bake pies for the bachelorette party. The family man is already sad to realize that he has not been a free bird for a long time, so he is trying to find even worse options for losing freedom among his friends.
If this happened to your loved one, then calmly tell him that any man who loves his woman becomes henpecked. Such a shocking statement will give him more confidence.
And indeed, the stronger sex, when it begins to love its charming companion, allows her to completely occupy his personal space. It is very interesting that at the beginning of a relationship, gentlemen completely leave themselves to their women. They, in turn, allow them to control and protect themselves. But when emotions and feelings subside, the man who was once absorbed in the woman suddenly begins to resume his personal space again, remembering his old habits.
Don't be jealous!
Women sometimes overly romanticize jealousy directed in their direction, considering it proof of love. At the same time, they can terrorize a man for a long time and persistently if he has to experience jealousy. Neither one nor the other helps build relationships. If you decide to provoke a guy to jealousy, be prepared for the most unexpected consequences. Some men may be seriously angry, others will consider you frivolous, and still others will even consider jealousy as evidence of self-neglect. It's better not to joke with jealousy.
Unlike women, all men, without exception, despise such a manifestation of love and experience irritation if the woman they love turns out to be jealous.
Psychologists say that most often the cause of jealousy is self-doubt. That is why a woman thinks that her man is about to find someone better and begins to play detective.
The fourth golden rule: focus on yourself, attend as many cosmetic procedures as you need in order to feel the most beautiful. And the jealousy will go away.
A man's fear of a woman
SAGITTARIUS Fear #9: being funny and ridiculed, being compared to someone from the past
Sagittarius is perhaps the most
optimistic sign
of the Zodiac, devoid of most of the fears that are characteristic of other signs. Typically, such men do not worry or dwell on their problems, but boldly move forward for new impressions and new experiences. However, they also have some concerns in the relationship.
Like other fire zodiac signs, Sagittarians are afraid of being compared to someone else from women's past
. And the point is not even in comparison, but in the fact that someone may be better. If a Sagittarius feels uncomfortable around the woman he wants to be with, because he fears that his predecessor was somehow cooler, more agile, but most importantly, smarter, this will make him very worried.
This is why Sagittarians don't like stories about exes
in any form. They prefer their partners to look forward rather than backward, and will do everything in their power to become the best and only for their woman.
CAPRICORN Fear No. 10: losing respect and authority in the eyes of a woman
Capricorns seek authority and recognition in everything from work and professional achievements to their personal lives.
Their biggest fear is losing a certain authority
with which they exist in the relationship from the very beginning.
They usually achieve this authority in the eyes of their lovers through work and recognition of their professional merits, because it is known that Capricorns work hard and stand firmly on the ground, so they can usually support not only themselves
, but also their families. He is scared if a woman stops respecting him. For him, love does not even play the same role in relationships as respect.
Support him
Balance and harmony are needed in a relationship, so don't go to extremes. Have we convinced you that there is no need to overprotect your man? Great, but don't forget to call (not often, once a day is enough!) and ask how he is doing and if he wants to join you, for example, in the gym? Now you are equal partners, halves of one whole. Ask about his victories and failures and, if necessary, provide support. Men will never share their failures with friends, which is why sometimes they need the help of their beloved so much.
The second golden rule: be with your loved one in moments of victory and defeat. Men will never want to lose a girl who understands them and accepts them as they are.
What is a man fighting for?
In fact, this is what is called “freedom” when a man begins to fight with a woman. In reality, he is simply showing the woman his maturity. He doesn’t need to be taught, he doesn’t need to be commanded, he needs to be respected, just as a woman wants the same for herself. In other words, a man is fighting not for freedom, but for the opportunity to remain an adult and independent person, even while in a relationship.
When talking about love, people rarely bring up the fact that even loving partners should have free space. It seems like they should always be close. It's true: when you love, you want to spend more time together. However, soon the fervor of feelings subsides. This does not indicate a loss of love, but only indicates that the partners are beginning to soberly assess the situation and live together.
It is during such a period, when relationships have been built and feelings have subsided, that a desire arises to be alone for a while. It’s not bad if a person continues to devote himself to his partner, build relationships, and participate in their development.
You need to understand the difference between:
- a person’s desire to devote a little time to himself, to be alone;
- the desire to escape from relationships, responsibilities, and a beloved partner.
In the first case, a person exhibits an instinctive desire to have personal territory. This is the place where he is the rightful owner. He can do whatever he wants, think what is comfortable for him, be himself. It is quite natural to sometimes want to be alone with yourself or other people in order to gain strength, be filled with new impressions, and spend time in an unusual way.
In the second case, we are talking about a person’s detachment from love relationships. He needs them for certain reasons, but there is no inner desire to have them. People are often confused about whether they should have love relationships with partners. Many simply perform some duty to society, others are afraid of being lonely or not like everyone else. That is why, over time, a person begins to look for various ways to escape from the relationships that he himself has built. The true desire to be alone or with another partner and the desire to have what everyone should have come into conflict.
Sometimes you need to take a break from each other, relax, cool down, think. Sometimes you just get tired of another person and quarrel with him so that there is a reason not to see each other for several days. In order not to quarrel, you need to calmly respond to your partner’s desire to be alone and have a territory where no one will bother you, where you can be the master and not obey anyone.
- If after such loneliness you want to see your loved one again, this indicates that your feelings are still present. You can be alone for a while to return to your loved ones with renewed vigor.
- If after a secluded vacation you find it difficult to return to your beloved partner, this indicates a lack of love. You are torturing yourself because your inner desire is to part with the one from whom you are running away into loneliness.
- If, after your loved one’s solitude, you notice that he is again affectionate and full of strength, returns to you, and continues the relationship, then his periodic rest is beneficial. Let him go if he wants to be alone, this gives him new strength and desires.
- If, after solitude, your loved one moves away from you even more, ignores you, moves away, this indicates his inner desire to break off the relationship. For some reason he is not ready to admit it. But each time he will rest away from you more and more often and longer, because he does not like you.
One should not judge unambiguously. Love relationships do not require partners to be with each other all the time. Everyone should have free space, even those who love
It is only important to understand why your partner wants to be alone
Features of the zodiac signs
A horoscope will help you understand the intricacies of the character of your beloved man:
- 1. Aries. We must do everything possible and impossible so that life does not turn into a routine. When communicating with Aries, you must adhere to the following rules: you cannot make him wait; you need to speak directly about your desires; do not speak disparagingly about his favorite things; You can’t restrict his freedom and meddle in his affairs.
- 2. Taurus. He is the most patient sign of the zodiac, but if his thicket of patience is full, then nothing will stop him. To retain him, you need to give him a feeling of confidence in the future and create a cozy and comfortable atmosphere. When communicating with Taurus, you need to learn how to cook well and get along with relatives; no need to be wasteful; you should not impose your interests; no need to provoke jealousy.
- 3. Gemini. A man of this zodiac sign appreciates a woman’s intelligence and ability to be a good conversationalist. But squabbles and scandals are the shortest way to lose it. Representatives of this sign may change their minds about breaking up if they begin to see changes in the woman. When communicating with them, you need to adhere to the rules: create a cozy atmosphere at home and do not criticize the man; give him freedom and his own space; Every day it’s worth expanding your horizons; accept that he will have a large number of friends and acquaintances.
- 4. Cancer. Warmth and tenderness in relationships are important to him. Parting with a woman is always quite difficult for him and is perceived as the end of the world. But in most cases, Cancers return to their previous relationships, realizing that they understood him best there. When communicating with Cancers, you need to adhere to the following rules: create comfort and convenience at home; talk about your feelings more often; treat his favorite things carefully; pamper him with little surprises.
- 5. Leo This zodiac sign is quite straightforward and if something doesn’t suit him, he will say it right away. You shouldn’t scold him for his commitment to a beautiful life and be a bore. React calmly to his flirting with other girls, but do not remain silent when he goes beyond all boundaries. One must always look beautiful so that he has a reason to be proud.
- 6. Virgo. They value conscientiousness and decency in a woman. If something goes wrong, the man will break up with the lady without regrets. You need to please your partner with an elegant and neat appearance; do not speak disrespectfully about him in front of strangers; do not impose your tastes on a man; never flirt with other guys.
- 7. Libra. We must not allow a man to stop considering a woman mysterious and charming. When communicating with him, you need to follow the following rules: you need to take care of yourself, a woman needs to be sweet and charming; You shouldn’t burden him with household responsibilities and forbid him to look at other girls.
- 8. Scorpio. This is the leader in relationships and is used to dominating. Men of this sign do not make hasty decisions. And even having dared to break up the relationship, they may not let the woman go for a long time. It is worth trying to prove yourself as a passionate and liberated lover. There is no need to deceive him and challenge his leadership in the family, do not try to hurt his pride and do not give reasons for jealousy.
- 9. Sagittarius. They love bright and intelligent women. You need to try to accept all his oddities and let him do his own thing. After breaking up, friendship with them is possible; you should not hope for restoration of relations. When communicating with him, you need to adhere to the following rules: share his interests and hobbies; be simple and direct; listen to the man’s point of view and treat it with understanding.
- 10. Capricorn. These men are born to serve a purpose. Even when the love is gone, they do not give consent for a long time to break off the relationship, because they do not like to destroy the existing order of things. When communicating with Capricorn, you don’t need to whine, but speak clearly about your problems. We must be economical and responsible and contribute to his career advancement.
- 11. Aquarius. You shouldn’t try to make him like everyone else; men of this zodiac sign have a different way of looking at things. There is no need to limit his freedom. You cannot criticize his friends, you need to be peaceful and delicate.
- 12. Pisces. Men of this sign can fall in love not with a specific woman, but with a certain image of her. Pisces are very flexible and suggestible, which is their drawback. Men of this sign often date 2 women. The end result depends on which lady takes power into her own hands. When communicating with Pisces, the following rules apply: you cannot show anger towards a man; you have to come to terms with the fact that decisions and everyday life will always depend on the woman.
For a man to appreciate a woman and be afraid of losing her, you need to be special, not like everyone else.
Even in moments of happiness and sincere love, some guys begin to doubt the purity of their girlfriend’s feelings and begin to be afraid of losing her. And sooner or later it begins to take on an extremely depressing appearance, which has a serious effect on moral peace and the physical ability to make love.
It’s difficult to think about something positive and good when every day you are haunted by the thought that tomorrow the girl may leave for someone else, and you will be left completely alone. This provokes illogical and sometimes completely thoughtless actions, jealousy and threats of violence, in extreme cases.
Naturally, no sane girl would want to tolerate such behavior from her boyfriend and may indeed begin to doubt the advisability of a relationship with such an insecure man. This will provoke a new wave of doubts and worries, and everything will again take on a deplorable character. To avoid this scenario, there are a few tips to consider.
Why relationships deteriorate
It’s hard to believe, but almost every relationship eventually begins to fall apart at the seams, deteriorate and become a little more boring than it was at the time they met and formed. But brightness and novelty do not pass without a trace. In their place comes understanding, trust and love. And that's completely normal.
But many guys, who are used to seeing and not feeling, begin to sound the alarm due to the fact that the girl is no longer so willing to agree to go for a walk at night, looking at her, she is not so varied in bed, and in general she has begun to discuss with you to a greater extent their problems rather than the admiration of a relationship with you. In other words, men begin to worry that they no longer see the fire in their girls, and they do not want to accept the fact that the fire from the eyes turns into the warmth of the heart.
In this case, you just need to analyze the situation and honestly answer a simple question: “Does the girl see her future with you?” If the answer is “Yes,” then you shouldn’t worry and sound the alarm where there is none. If the answer is “No,” then you need to move on to active action.
What to do to avoid losing a girl
As a rule, in relationships, girls pursue fairly simple and understandable goals: be it a future family, recreation with entertainment, spiritual understanding, or material support with gifts. And it’s safe to say that one of this goals will always be much more important than all the others. And, therefore, you need to understand: “What does the girl want from a relationship with you?”
If you clearly understand that you satisfy most of her requests and desires, then she can leave you only in extreme cases: betrayal, betrayal, physical violence or ordinary stupidity.
If you are having problems making your girlfriend's demands come true. So you either need to work on it, or find a girl who suits you better. Because sooner or later such a girl will still choose another man.
It is important to know and remember:
Men treat the manifestation of love quite simply - I love, I give flowers, I do something nice. Those. a desire that turns into a result. Women value more not the result, but the process itself. This means that small gifts every day will be more effective than a large gift once a year. The same goes for the expression of feelings, emotions and sexuality. Women always need this, albeit in a small portion. Know how to use it!
Dealing with uncertainty
Uncertainty most often arises from the fear that you may end up in a worse situation than you currently have. But the more hesitant you act, the worse your situation with the girl becomes. Because only the man who thinks that this is the only girl who agreed to be with him is afraid of losing. Confident people know that if not one, then another, and women see this and hold on! This means you need:
Money and prospects.
When choosing between an attentive and a rich man, most girls will choose the rich man, since with him there will be fewer financial problems and more opportunities to prove themselves as a real woman. This means that you need to take some time to work on your financial situation and prospects. Women don't leave successful men!
Physical health.
To be confident you need to be happy with your appearance. For men, this most often lies in physical health and the volume of excess folds on the abdomen. Fortunately, there are now places where this can be resolved fairly quickly.
Impudence.
A man must be a little arrogant so that a woman sees in him not just consumers, but also a real conqueror. Therefore, you need to learn to put your interests a little higher than the interests of your girlfriend. And the main thing is to skillfully show this to her, so that she knows that everything will happen, but your problems will be solved first.
What do we end up with?
The fear of losing a girl is largely explained by a man’s insecurity and lack of understanding of the girl’s goals. If you can take care of yourself and understand the girl’s desires, then all fears will pass, and you will become a real ideal for your chosen one.
How are they not afraid of losing a man or woman? Husband or wife? Take a closer look at yourself.
To what extent is your internal personal platform, your basic “I”, regardless of the circumstances in your relationship with your partner? Does your psychic energy flow, as in the case of communicating vessels? When it decreases in one, it increases in the other and vice versa.
It happens that one of the spouses (lovers) plunges into their dark depths, into a period of bad luck. Then the second one lends his shoulder and feels more confident. As soon as the “sufferer” gets out of his misfortunes, the second one gradually loses his confidence. In other words: as soon as you begin to need less support and approval from your partner, he begins to lose you.
If so, this is an alarming signal! Your marriage, love is in danger. There is not enough room in the space of personal feelings for both of you to be strong. Therefore, the history of relationships becomes similar to the “transfusion” of energy from one communicating vessel to another. Sometimes, in order not to lose a loved one, he (s) subconsciously wants trouble to happen to you so that he can become strong. Or maybe you have noticed something similar in yourself?
When you need to be needed, you contribute to the weakness of your chosen one. If he needs you to need him, then he is contributing to your weakness. This is unconscious suppression. However, it can be worse. Conscious suppression also occurs among couples who seek “togetherness.”
So, don't use your partner as a driver and don't let him use you. You won't get that far. You “get attached” to a person, next to whom you can show your best qualities. This means that without it you will not realize yourself, and you will live in fear of losing your source of energy. Therefore, you grab onto him or her with a death grip. Remember what happens to a drowning man who clings to his savior. They can both go down! Most often this is what happens.
Why don't each of you develop your own ability to swim and float, instead of relying on the other? Why not both become good swimmers? Then fear will lose its meaning. If you cling to your partner like a drowning man, then he has a desire to push you away - in order to survive. This triggers the self-preservation instinct. But you can’t fight instinct! The tighter you hold on to someone, the more the pushing force increases. This subconscious process is not easy to track when it begins. But once it gains momentum, you can't stop it.
To understand how not to be afraid of losing a man or woman, I do not at all advise you to separate yourself from everyone and cherish your ego. What I am trying to explain to you is that “being yourself” and “being with someone” are not contradictions, but realities that need to be brought into balance. Any imbalance gives rise to problems that destroy the strongest and most reliable feelings. union. If strength and reliability are subjected to constant testing, they may fail. We live in a polar world where absolute strength and absolute reliability do not exist.
When your partner is trying to manipulate or change you, you will need all the strength to remain yourself and at the same time maintain a good relationship. This way you will save your love union from destruction. If you succumb to outside influence, on the contrary, you will cut the safety rope and fly into the abyss.
He realizes that he is very lucky
A real man is a fairly experienced man. He has enough failed relationships behind him and enough meetings with women who are not his to understand that he has met exactly the one he was looking for.
He won't hesitate because he knows he just won the lottery, and what man would wait to "cash in" his winnings?
Why should he wait to tell her how much she means to him? He doesn't see any point in this.
Luck does not last forever, he feels the need to "lock in" success before some other young man comes in his way.
About 7 billion people live on earth, and not everyone can find among them someone with whom you would like to share your life.
Just as lightning does not strike the same place twice, a man does not want to get involved in a game of chance and die again.
Release practice
You should stand up straight and keep your back straight. Inhale through the nose and exhale through the mouth. After entering the meditative state, you need to imagine:
- how a column of white energy becomes open from above, which gradually begins to penetrate. First at the top of the head, then slowly spreads further. Everything is filled with thick white light.
- The left palm should be placed above the navel and the right palm below the navel. You should imagine how the flow of energy is directed further through the crown and fills the stomach and reproductive organs with pure energy.
- Afterwards, you inhale/exhale calmly about 5-7 times and you can open your eyes.
This practice is best done on Wednesday, Friday and Saturday.
What can you do to make a man want to keep him and be afraid of losing him?
But let’s move on to practical advice from “Beautiful and Successful” - how to behave so that your man is afraid of losing you.
- Sometimes surprise your man with something new about yourself. Not a new cutlet recipe! And, for example, the fact that you decided to go to salsa. Or you read some interesting book and want to discuss it. Or painted it purple. Or you bought a tent and are going to the mountains. In general, sometimes break the predictability of your actions and desires!
- Not often, but give your man a reason to be jealous. Or at least think about what alternative options you have. This must be done very cunningly and carefully: you need to hint to your partner that other gentlemen are also interested in you, but you are decent, and you are not giving them much of a chance yet. For now - as long as you feel good with him. And if he wants to keep you, then let him try to make you feel good in the future, because winning in the competition of males should not be won for beautiful eyes!
- Allow yourself to be constantly conquered a little. Even if you have capitulated a long time ago and have been actively “cooperating with the occupier” for many years! But it doesn’t hurt to distance yourself a little from a man if he gets lazy and begins to perceive your favor as something a priori due to him. And vice versa - please him and pamper him, if he himself tries to please you and pleasantly surprise you!
- Be independent. Despite the myth actively supported by patriarchal culture that “a real woman should be weak and constantly need male help,” in fact, men highly value and respect those women who can figure out their lives themselves, make a decision, show some kind of behavior. then activity, etc. And men are more willing to help not “white-handed princesses”, but self-sufficient ladies who simply at a certain moment cannot cope on their own and really need specific help or advice.
And by all means, enjoy life and be positive. “Inner light” is really very attractive - they don’t want to lose such women!
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He's mature enough to face commitment
I'm not talking about the fact that he is not afraid of commitment - no, most people are afraid of this, the point is that no matter what, he is ready to take this step. He is ready to find compromise solutions because he is sure that his woman is worthy of it.
Perhaps he is afraid of obligations, but he will not run away from them; he faces his fears - which is what a man should do. In addition, he may be more than willing to commit himself, as long as he doesn't have these scary thoughts.
Perhaps there is nothing he wants more than to settle down and love his woman with all his heart. He may be ready to devote himself and his life entirely to her. Regardless of whether he is afraid of commitment, if he is willing to devote himself to his woman, then he is a real man.
Be understanding about finances
Another sore spot for many men is financial well-being. Criticism of his work, salary, reproaches regarding the cost of gifts, and the like often lead to the complete collapse of the relationship.
The sixth golden rule: refrain from criticizing the financial situation of your chosen one. If you are not satisfied with his income, then discuss at a family council how you can improve your well-being. A man will never want to lose a woman who knows that money is much cheaper than love.
The nature of men's fears and complexes
Any fears have deep subconscious origins. Human relationships are based on the functions of receiving and giving, between which there must be a balance. When a person is afraid of giving or receiving, a conflict occurs in the balance of the natural mechanism.
Men's nature is to give. However, if a man avoids developing relationships and is afraid of falling in love, it means that he has internal prohibitions at work on an unconscious level.
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The male psyche is designed in such a way that drastic transformations lead to negative experiences or stress. Some guys are committed to tradition, decency and honesty, but they cannot always adapt to change. Such people value modesty, complaisance, and self-respect in women. When expectations and reality do not coincide, an unconscious conflict appears that destroys internal values.
Also sources of unconscious fears or complexes can be:
- negative previous experience;
- desire for leadership;
- fears of failure;
- children's complexes leading to an ambivalent attitude towards sexual contact;
- lack of communication skills with women, which are developed in childhood;
- fast pace of life, causing discomfort or destroying life values;
- fear of being deceived.
How to keep your loved one - men's version
Why did I emphasize that it is the male version? Yes, because women and I have different views on some problems. Well, we certainly wouldn’t recommend surrounding us with even more care in order to feel which girl is irreplaceable.
Based on our own experience, as well as on the thoughts of smart people, we were able to formulate several simple rules for girls on how to behave so that a man would appreciate them and value her.
Stick to it
The girl found herself in a whirlpool of feelings. She constantly wants to be close. Sometimes feelings are so overwhelming that there is a desire to squeeze the man you love. But I would advise you to hold back. Cuddle your pet, and just kiss a guy as you pass by. It will be casual and very pleasant.
I will dedicate the following advice to girls who call and write messages to their boyfriends every five minutes. I can see the guy's reaction. The first call - he answered nicely and friendly, the second - the conversation was quite restrained, this was observed over the course of several more calls. Depending on the guy’s patience, on the 5th-7th call he will simply not pick up or turn off the phone. And then scandal and resentment. Well, why is this necessary? It is enough to call once or twice during the day. It would be enough. A guy should miss his beloved, and not consider her an annoying infection.
Moral of the above - know everything in moderation
This is important in a relationship. Your loved one should feel your love and care, but at the same time feel free
Love and appreciate yourself
Girls, I am writing on behalf of all men: do not make us the meaning of your whole life. Love yourself and we will love you. A man is not interested in a housewife who has perfectly studied one topic - cooking borscht. He wants to see in his life partner an interesting interlocutor, friend and assistant.
To become a friend and partner to your man, a girl needs a constant desire for self-improvement.
Remember, when a guy is not interested in communicating with you, sooner or later he will pay attention to a more worthy person
And a new hobby or activity will allow you to take up your free time and have less time left for stupid thoughts about your man. Your beautiful head will not even be visited by the thought of where he is now and what he is doing.
2 in 1 - friends and lovers
Good and high-quality sex is, of course, wonderful and good for your health and figure. But, in addition to a wonderful partner in bed, in everyday life a man also wants to see a friend in a girl.
We also tend to sometimes complain about life, about the boss, the tyrant, and so on. And we want to just be listened to and, sometimes, helped with advice. In no way do I encourage girls to put on a T-shirt and sweatpants and drink beer with us in the evenings and discuss our boss. But sometimes guys need a friendly shoulder and a kind word.
If a girl can combine a lover and a friend in herself, then such a guy will never leave her and will value the relationship.
How to behave so that a man is afraid of losing you
The best option in such a situation would be to search for the true reason that made you think about it, and only after that - to search for a solution to the problem. Even if your partner is to blame, you still need to start with yourself. After all, it’s you who will have to change so that he doesn’t leave, and it’s impossible to do this without serious work on yourself. Moreover, there is no way without it, when all fears are caused by self-doubt, like women.
Often it is low self-esteem that affects the whole life and sooner or later makes people think about how unlucky they are in life and that they are unworthy to be around such a person. Therefore, only working on yourself and increasing your own self-esteem can help here. After all, he chose you out of all the women, so why don’t you trust his decision. It is unlikely that he would have been around out of pity. This means that he sees in you a wonderful woman whom he had to win so that she would agree to be with him. So there is no reason to believe that he will leave you tomorrow.
If his behavior is alarming, and you are absolutely sure that the time has come to behave in such a way that the man is afraid of losing you, think about this. To evoke any emotions in a person, it is necessary to provoke them. Fear is an integral emotion of any of us. It performs many different functions, but its excessive manifestation can cause a huge number of problems. Therefore, you should not overuse attempts to cause fear, otherwise very soon your man will turn into a nervous and irritated person suffering from jealousy and fear of losing someone dear to him, that is, you. Everything is good in moderation.
If you feel like he doesn't appreciate you enough and you're worried that your feelings will weaken even more over time, it's time to rekindle your old passion and remind him how lucky he is to have you. In the same case, when he pampers you, talks about love, arranges dates, or next to him you feel like behind a stone wall, you should not experiment. Everything is fine with you, he himself knows what to do so that you don’t stop loving him. Don't ruin your life and don't take risks. The human soul is darkness, often even for himself. And who knows what might happen if you try to evoke in him emotions that he does not need at all.
It is possible to understand what can make a man appreciate a woman only in general terms. Everything else is too deeply hidden and even the person himself may not be aware of it. Everyone has their own preferences, tastes and secret desires.
Therefore, before you start trying to conquer him, it is better to take a closer look and study your chosen one. This is the only way to find out what he values, loves and values. And if you give him this, he will have no choice but to take care of you like the apple of his eye.
People are only afraid of losing those they truly value. And there are not many such people in any person’s life. Even someone who has managed to win a person’s heart easily is capable of losing his respect and affection if he behaves towards him in a consumerist manner, showing disrespect and causing pain. No one will tolerate insult, humiliation, violence, indifference, betrayal and neglect. And even if, unfortunately, for some reason a person does not leave, there can be no talk of any warm feelings and, especially, love. As soon as the reason that forces him to be with someone who does not value him disappears, he will leave and never return. Therefore, any relationship should, first of all, be built on respect and care for each other.
But, of course, some advice on conquering your chosen one will not be superfluous. After all, you want to please him and give him pleasure. Living together is not only passion and love, but also a lot of work on yourself and the art of compromise. Therefore, it will never be superfluous to diversify it and fill it with pleasant emotions.
Don't get carried away with resentment and anger
It can be difficult to restore the former warmth in communication even after several days of mutual insults, not to mention longer quarrels. Equal relationships are the key to success and harmony.
The seventh golden rule: if you love your chosen one, then learn to accept him, and not the idealized image that you painted in your head in those months when he courted you. A man will appreciate this and be afraid of losing you.
In all relationships, coolness comes over time, or one of the partners begins to disdain the other. This mainly applies to men; as soon as he wins a girl, he calms down almost immediately. It seems to him that she will not go anywhere. For a guy to appreciate a woman, you need to act in a certain way. Say pleasant words to him, ask for help in case of difficulties and show with all your appearance that he is a hero. But do not overdo it and give him freedom for personal matters.
Top 7 ways to behave so that a man is afraid of losing
As soon as doubts arise about your lover and his love, look into your soul. And most fears will disappear on their own. After all, the solution to problems lies not in trying to find a way to make another feel the right feelings or act in a certain way, but in the person himself. We have the power to change only ourselves; others can change only when they want to. Of course, they can be motivated to make this happen faster, but still, before looking for something that can influence others, it is much easier to analyze for yourself whether everything is as scary as you think, and whether you are exaggerating the danger or negative development of events. Remember how you usually greet him from work. What words do you say, how do you talk about your problems, do you listen to what he says or talk until you speak out yourself
If you give him attention and care, are attentive to his experiences and are able to listen for hours, you have nothing to worry about. Such women are a real treasure for men. Don't give him constant attention
Let him have his own space and create it for yourself. When a person understands that all your thoughts are only about him and nothing else interests you, he will stop being afraid of losing you, because he will understand that this is impossible. When a representative of the fair sex, in addition to her beloved, is engaged in her life, self-development, communicates with friends and is always able to find something to do while her beloved spends time with friends, the man will always remember that he must appreciate her and pay attention to her, otherwise he risks staying in proud loneliness. Be self-sufficient and moderately independent. If he is not ashamed to introduce you to his friends and especially his parents, he already has serious feelings for you. And this is already a guarantee that for now you definitely have nothing to worry about. In the future, everything depends only on how you behave and how you build your relationships. If you can give him an unforgettable experience, he will be yours forever. Home comfort, delicious food, nightly communication - everything plays a huge role in how much he will need you in the future. If you achieve harmony in these matters, he will not allow himself to lose you. In moments of difficulty, do not fall into despair, but rather show yourself as a reliable friend, ready to lend a shoulder. Relationships are filled not only with romance and passion, but also with the problems that life throws at you, so any person needs support. If initially, having entered into a relationship, not everyone thinks about how not to lose a loved one, but simply enjoys it, then after a few years many ladies begin to worry about this. They are afraid that their beloved man may leave for another. But if you always remember that his interests are as important as yours and do not torment yourself or his jealousy, then there is no reason to ruin your life.
Life is a confusing and complex thing. Not everyone behaves wisely when they meet the love of their life and then often regret it.
Despite the fact that there are no perfect people, we will tell you which women men are afraid of losing. Over the past decades, the dynamics of relationships between men and women have changed greatly, but the natural essence remains. We still continue to look for our soulmate so that we can confidently walk through life with him or her.
Attractive woman
Every man wants to see an attractive girl next to him. But in the eyes of each beholder there is its own beauty. You don't have to be a model, stay out of beauty salons, or turn to plastic surgery to improve certain parts of your body. And if you do, be careful. Some plastic surgeries won't make you beautiful
. It is enough to constantly look after yourself and be able to emphasize your strengths.
He doesn't have the slightest reason to doubt
Not a single good reason, at least.
Of course, we can always come up with excuses or even incredible scenarios, and sometimes even real nonsense, just so as not to break anyone’s heart.
Real men don't do this, but scumbags do.
A real man has no reason to doubt or wait long to express his feelings. She is his ideal woman. If he wants to become her ideal man, he will make this decision - and this will be the first step.
More often than not, people choose to be blind, leave and break up. Most relationships are doomed to fail because they are between two people who are unable to work together.
But when you find the right person, there's no good reason to resist.
We can come up with a bunch of excuses, but they're just excuses. A real man is honest with himself. When he knows he has found the one, he makes her the one.
The lion's share of quarrels among married couples arises due to excessive control on the part of one partner and insufficient attention on the part of the other. As a rule, a man suffers from excessive care of his beloved, and a woman is offended when she does not receive every minute participation from her other half. Girls feel a lack of attention as a lack of love.
He and she perceive family relationships differently. Regardless of the strength of his feelings for you, a man will never want to give up gatherings with friends and going to football. Women, on the contrary, tend to rush headlong into relationships, forget about girlfriends and entertainment where their loved one does not participate. Because of this, painful dissonance arises.
The first golden rule: to avoid problems, slow down with guardianship. Don’t concentrate on your man 24 hours a day; it’s better to find two or three hobbies that will take up your free time. While your husband is sitting at a bar with friends, you go to sports, to a beauty salon, meet with girlfriends, sign up for advanced training courses, trainings... This way you will not only leave your man several hours of free time a day without your calls and SMS, but also You will improve yourself externally and internally. Believe me, a man never wants to lose a beautiful, self-sufficient woman.
Why are men afraid of relationships?
AQUARIUS Fear #11: Losing freedom and independence
Aquarians are considered one of
the worst husbands
; they value their freedom and independence very much. If Aquarius feels that they are putting limits on him in relationships, that they are trying to control him too much, his exaggerated sense of freedom
simply destroys relationships, even if there is love. No Aquarius can stand dependence, so they will do anything to get rid of it.
The fear of losing freedom is often accompanied by a rejection of the family altogether, because where there is a family, there is responsibility and a sense of duty. Aquarius would rather be lonely than loaded with such burdens
. Only a very understanding woman, and one who herself knows the taste of freedom, can understand such men and live calmly with their fears without interfering.
PISCES Fear No. 12: losing love, losing sympathy and mutual understanding in relationships, losing a reliable rear in the person of a woman
A man born under the sign of Pisces is afraid of quite a lot in relationships.
But first of all, he is afraid of losing his feelings.
For him, being in love is very important, this is the basis of everything.
Usually his feelings are deep and strong, and he demands the same from his other half. He is afraid that the other half will not take care of, pity and cherish him, and he will be deeply unhappy if a woman treats him without due attention.
Pisces men are often not strong representatives of their gender; their sensitivity and strong vulnerability makes them vulnerable to dangers
. This is the type of man in whose eyes you can see tears in moments of despair or failure. The Pisces man is afraid that a woman will not act as a reliable shoulder in those moments when he needs moral support.
What kind of women do men “cling to”?
Let’s make it clear right away - now we won’t start talking about the fact that you need to change for the sake of a man and become, for example, thin, long-haired, ideally preparing meat in thirty ways, etc. No! We proceed from the fact that you are you, and there is no need to break yourself and torture yourself for the sake of any man.
They love, appreciate and are afraid of losing a variety of women - including short, plump, bobbed, tattooed, who hate cooking, childfree and mothers of three children from previous marriages, careerists and housewives, intellectuals and “simples”...
The thing is that, objectively speaking, there is no magic way to “stick” any man to any woman. If we are going to discuss the topic of how to behave correctly so that a man is afraid of losing you, then the basis should be a relationship where the man has already chosen you for something, where something has already “hooked” him.
In addition, the man himself must fit into certain parameters of adequacy: because there are no methods of influencing “chronic womanizers,” hyperegoists, various kinds of manipulators and “domestic tyrants,” and even less so alcoholics and drug addicts. And if such a character becomes so attached to a woman that he is afraid of being left without her, then for the woman herself this often turns into total control, demands, abuse and other very unpleasant and unhealthy things with the help of which a mentally unstable person tries to keep her near him.
But then begin some generalizing, sometimes elusive and difficult to describe characteristics of those very women who manage to “bewitch” men easily and without much manipulation so that they are afraid to even think about breaking up!
They are afraid of losing the woman who feels good
It's good with a man - but it's good without him! She feels good with her friends, at work, in a variety of companies, with her relatives - in general, this is a woman who is tuned to a certain wave of happiness, calmness and warmth... This sense of self is perfectly transmitted to men - they also feel good, easy and cosy!
Of course, this does not mean that we are talking about constant euphoria and a complete absence of negative emotions (this is impossible and abnormal for any person). This refers to the general light and joyful mood that prevails if there are no objectively difficult situations.
They are afraid of losing a self-sufficient woman
Everything is very simple here: if a man understands that he is not really being held back, that this girl will cope well in life without him, and no one will catch up with him with sobs if something happens, then he begins to fear that they might quit. And that you need to try to prevent this from happening - to match your lady, win competition with her other fans, demonstrate your feelings, etc.
They are afraid of losing the “mystery woman”
If there is always something left unspoken, unspoken and under-proven in a partner, then curiosity will keep a man close to her - what else will she discover, and what else will she surprise? Simple, “at home” and completely understandable girls are convenient for men, but... sooner or later men start to get bored.
This phenomenon is best illustrated by the phrase of the unfaithful husband from the movie “The Bat”: “A wife is a read book. It can be stored, protected, bound, but reading it is no longer interesting...”
As sad as it is, it’s true – men don’t last long near “read books”...
Fears of men
ARIES Fear #1: being incapacitated, weak and losing leadership in relationships
The Aries man is purposeful and very active; he loves to be first in everything and always, including in relationships. If his partner begins to actively impose her will and make decisions for him, this can end badly for both
.
Men of this sign are very afraid of losing their opportunity to be at the helm, they are used to acting first, taking pressure and deep down they are very afraid of refusals. They love to be irresistible in the eyes of a woman and love admiration, so they are afraid that a woman will not be proud of them
and will not obey them, will not give them leadership. However, this is not Aries’s strongest fear.
Aries men are much more afraid of losing their physical strength, so they can often be found in the gym or jogging in the parks. There is strength - no need for intelligence
– this is just about them.
Unfortunately, some of them are ready to use force in relationships. At best, this will be protection of one’s other half
from outside threats, at worst – self-affirmation through physical violence.
TAURUS
Fear No. 2: being insolvent and getting paid less than a woman
Men of this sign are big materialists and are used to finding stable and clear sources of income
. They are afraid that one day they will lose such sources and find themselves, as they say, “at the bottom.” This kind of fear forces Taurus to always have something for a rainy day.
If we take relationships with women, a Taurus man should feel that he has so much money that his other half depends on him at least a little
. If a woman gets more and is ready to share her money with him, this usually melts Taurus, making them insecure and pathetic.
How well do you know people's fears?
Usually they are afraid of being financially dependent on loved ones. Well, of course, if it’s not some Taurus gigolo
, which sometimes also happens, or if his upbringing does not suffer, and he can live at the expense of his wife without remorse. It is better to stay away from such men.
GEMINI Fear No. 3: being uninteresting to your partner
Geminis are perhaps the most flighty and fickle men in the entire Zodiac and love variety
. For some, this is expressed in an endless change of partners, for others - in an interesting pastime with one partner.
By and large, Geminis do not tolerate and are even afraid of monotony and boredom
in a relationship, but most importantly, they are afraid of becoming an uninteresting interlocutor, lover, and person in general for their partner! That is why Gemini men will be resourceful, full of humor, and charming in relationships, so that God forbid their lovers do not get bored.
Chameleons
Men are also wary of women who behave and speak in ambiguous and vague ways. It is difficult for them to look for hidden meaning in words; guys do not like understatement and are ready for interaction and communication only when they fully understand what is wanted and expected from them. It’s hard for them to guess when a woman wants to say “yes” instead of “no.” They are irritated by the phrase “maybe” or “maybe.” Women do not always understand what they themselves want, and it is unfair to demand that men accurately guess their desires. It is a rare man who has such patience that will allow him to go through possible options for a long time and analyze them. You need to communicate with a man in a language they understand. If you want to get what you have in mind from him, then you will have to talk about it as clearly and frankly as possible in order to satisfy your desire and not be disappointed.
Stay attractive
After marriage, many women stop devoting sufficient time to caring for themselves. Remember yourself at a time when you wanted to attract the attention of your chosen one. How many new dresses and blouses have appeared in your wardrobe? Surely almost every day you had your hair done at the hairdresser, put on heels, sacrificing convenience for the sake of beauty? If you still stand in front of the mirror for an hour every day, there is no need to worry, but if the time that you previously devoted to self-care is spent on washing, ironing and “rum women”, slow down. Rethink your daily routine. A man, of course, will appreciate the care, but, first of all, he wants to see you as beautiful as before.
Third golden rule: Always wear stylish makeup and impeccable manicure. A man is afraid of losing a beautiful woman.
