The feeling of jealousy is one of the strongest in any relationship. It doesn’t matter what was the cause or reason, but the flame flares up very quickly and puts the jealous person into a state of passion. Jealousy is based on the fear of comparison, the fear that the partner will leave for a more attractive, younger, educated rival. Some couples live a bland and boring life, but sometimes you really want excitement! How to make a woman jealous in order to attract attention, but not ruin the relationship?
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Still from the film “Vicky Cristina Barcelona”
He meets Her, they like each other and start dating. It would seem that everything is fine with them, but it seems to Him that it could be even better. And then he starts asking Google: “How to make a girl jealous?”
Since the search engine is a soulless machine, he will readily give the guy a lot of links to “good advice” from “real experts”, and if he follows them like an obedient student, then the chances are high that instead of increasing the girl’s affection, he will, on the contrary, , will push away.
Let's discuss today why trying to find out how to make someone jealous usually doesn't lead to anything good, and also look at the most harmful advice on this topic, which we strongly advise you not to use.
Love yourself
Dear women, remember: self-sacrifice has long been out of fashion, especially in the love sphere. The more you protect your spouse from everyday life, shouldering all the responsibilities on your fragile shoulders, the more he will move away from you. Think for yourself: is it really pleasant for him to come home and see his tired, half-asleep wife with a distorted face and drooping eyes? Of course not. If you don’t know how to make your husband jealous and afraid of losing his wife, the first thing you must do is. This is how to love yourself. And as a result, spend more time on yourself – charming and attractive.
How to make a girl jealous: why shouldn’t you ask this question?
So, first of all, let's find out the most accurate definition of jealousy. In a scientific article entitled “Factors influencing the emergence of jealousy,” psychologist Gegetsik Faroyan writes:
“Jealousy is a negative feeling in interpersonal relationships that occurs when there is a lack of attention, love, respect or affection from a loved or highly respected person, while someone else allegedly or actually receives it from him.”
The first question is - would you really want to make the girl you like feel such an unpleasant feeling? If yes, then forgive me: this is quite cruel.
Moving on, there is a common and completely harmful belief that jealousy strengthens feelings, makes someone love and appreciate you even more than before. However, even if this were true ( spoiler: no
), going through various manipulations, tricks and tricks in order to earn someone’s good attitude towards you does not seem to be the most worthy behavior.
Just think for a second: what is the best way to improve someone's attitude towards you and make them appreciate you more - by hurting them, trying to make them jealous, or by being honest, good and doing nice things? It's a pity that the answer is not obvious to everyone.
And finally, in case the moral side of the issue doesn’t bother you at all, let’s take a more pragmatic approach. Classic tips on how to make your ex or current girlfriend jealous are as old as time, and most women know them by heart.
This means that as soon as you are about to put any of these dumb and cheap tricks into practice, there is a high probability that you will be immediately identified. The result? The girl will feel unpleasant and disappointed in you.
Help magic
Often women turn to otherworldly forces, not knowing how to make their husband afraid of losing his wife. Magic, they believe, will help consolidate the results obtained after using the other methods mentioned above. I present a popular ritual that is easy to use and does not require large expenses. It's called "Candle for a Loved One." To do this, buy a white candle in the temple, anoint it with any aromatic oil, while thinking about your spouse. On paper, write your wish: “I want my husband to be jealous and afraid of losing me.” Place a candle in a candlestick on a scribbled piece of paper.
Looking at the flame, you replay your dream in your head and imagine how it comes true. Whisper the appropriate words. What kind of phrases these will be - you decide for yourself. The main thing is that they are sincere, heartfelt and come from the heart. Then you burn a piece of paper with a wish over the candle, and scatter the ashes in the wind. This is one of the strategy options - how to make a husband afraid of losing his wife. The conspiracy can be carried out for another purpose, only different candles are used for this: yellow - to calm jealousy, red - to evoke love, blue - to get rid of problems, green - to gain well-being.
How to make a woman jealous: 6 most harmful tips
So, we decided to take the standard guide on how to make a girl jealous and discuss exactly why these tips do more harm than good. We hope that after reading, your last doubts that you shouldn’t use them will disappear.
Suddenly disappear
“The principle here is to give her maximum attention for some time, and then suddenly disappear without any explanation. In other words, you first smother her with love and then ignore her. The experience of love that she has imprinted in her brain will make her desperate to get you back.”
Classic advice : “The less we love a woman, the easier it is for her to like us”
the authors of such materials like to provide references to Pushkin. However, the ending of this quote from Eugene Onegin sounds like this:
That’s exactly what my Eugene thought.
He is in his first youth
Was a victim of violent delusions.
By suddenly disappearing, ignoring calls and messages, or even skipping meetings altogether, you are more likely to make the girl doubt your reliability than to become even more attached to you.
Talk to her about other girls who are better than her
“Discussing how much better another girl is than your girlfriend can really make her jealous. She will do everything in her power to make you feel like the other girl has nothing that she doesn't have.
She will most likely monitor your call logs and WhatsApp messages to find out what the other girl is doing to win your admiration and before you know it, she will start imitating her.”
Tell us honestly, how will you feel if your friend says that her friend Vasya has “bigger biceps, a cooler car and a bad tattoo”?
Based on the logic of the author of the advice, you should immediately run to three places: a gym, a car dealership and a tattoo artist.
You should never compare anyone to anyone: we are completely different and unique individuals. If your “good friend” is so much better than your girlfriend, then your lover may ask you a logical question: “Maybe you will date her then?”
and leave. This is more likely than her completely changing her personality to please someone she doesn't seem to like at all.
Intrigue
Why not. Take it and come home with a gorgeous bouquet. When asked who gave it, smile mysteriously and answer: a fan. Or just shrug it off, arranging flowers in the best vase. This will not only make him jealous. Such an act will cause a flurry of emotions. A man, feeling a rival, even a conditional one, will try to oust him, so he will begin to pay more attention to his wife and spend time with her. And this is exactly what we need.
Ignore her messages, but be active on social networks
“This is a serious way to make a girl jealous: stop answering her messages or calls, but chat with another girl on WhatsApp or other social networks.
She will be able to see if you are online and then she will wonder why you are not answering her calls or messages. It's usually a great cause for jealousy for a girl who desperately loves you to see you being busy with someone else at the expense of the attention she feels you should be giving her."
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Sorry for the harsh truth, but we strongly doubt that your friend has so little to do that she sits all day and looks at your status changes on social networks - perhaps for meditative purposes, looking at it instead of fire.
But seriously, ignoring is ugly behavior even towards people with whom you don’t like to communicate, and when it comes to a girl you’re interested in, it seems strange, illogical and unnatural.
Even if she doesn't understand what games you're playing, she'll likely be offended by such dismissive behavior. Or he might start ignoring you in retaliation, and how it will all end is a good question.
Post a few “harmless” photos of yourself and another girl
“Your girlfriend will probably become jealous if she sees a photo of you and another girl on your social media page. You can even make these photos your WhatsApp or Facebook profile pictures. This will really make her nervous and jealous.
Uploading a photo of you and another girl will send the signal that you value this girl more than her, and this will make your friend do everything possible to surpass whatever quality this girl has that makes you upload her photos.”
Without finding fault with the fact that the author repeats himself in his hope that the girl will rush to remake herself and imitate a stranger, we will simply again suggest looking at the situation from the other side: would you be pleased with similar posts and avatars on her account?
Of course, it is absolutely normal for both of you to have friends of the opposite sex, but in some situations such behavior can greatly upset the girl and make her think about the strength and seriousness of your relationship, as well as her true place in your life. That's not what you want to achieve, is it?
Text another girl while she's with you
“This is another powerful way to make your girlfriend jealous and crave your attention more than usual. When you both are together, sometimes concentrate on your phone and text the other girl.
The content of your chat, however, should be innocent so that if she eventually insists on knowing what you're chatting about with this girl, you can show the correspondence."
Let's just say that texting (chatting, not responding to an important and urgent message) on a date is indecent. And it doesn’t matter whether you’re communicating with a girl or a guy: such behavior is not only a cheap trick, but also a frank expression of disrespect for your companion.
Always look good
“All eyes are always on guys who dress well and look their best. Even without flirting, girls all over the world crave to deal with stylishly dressed guys.
So when you always look good, your girlfriend will be a little jealous because she will always be afraid that someone somewhere will be working hard to take her place. And if, in addition to your cool bow, you sometimes distance yourself from her, she will not only be jealous, but also miss you desperately. You will even feel that she is afraid of losing you.”
The advice itself is not bad, but its purpose is, to put it mildly, strange. Don’t you think that it would be more correct and logical to look cool not for someone or something, but for yourself?
— to feel comfortable and confident?
So stop looking for cunning ways to increase her love for you through suffering, worries and resentment - by giving the girl positive emotions and attention, you can achieve this more accurately and faster.
- Author: Maria Minaeva
Chat with another girl in front of her
The easiest way to prove to a woman that she underestimates you is to demonstrate it to her. “Look what a beauty is chatting with me. Hey, open your eyes! I’m still a piece of fruit!”
No one suggests that you pick up another girl in front of her, it’s too harsh. It’s enough to agree with your pretty friend to start a friendly conversation in front of everyone. Maybe your loved one will catch you having a cup of coffee or at a party. Even if it is artificial, competition has been created. Let's move on to the fourth point.
Rate another girl
Yes, as you already guessed, we are talking about that very appraising look for which our brother got a lot from his other halves.
The method is quite fun to implement. You are sitting, for example, in a cafe. Your crush goes to the toilet, and upon returning she watches you looking at another girl. The situation will be just perfect if the young lady you were looking at notices this and gives a positive reaction.
The chosen one will be challenged, she will involuntarily join in the fight for the male. Don't overdo the looks. Firstly, the sight of a carnivore can simply scare away the victim, and secondly, the object of flirtation, which is absolutely superfluous in this triangle, may perceive everything inadequately. You can’t wash yourself away from a male dog’s reputation. It's time for the sixth method.
Compliment her friend
The main rival in any woman’s life is her friend.
So give your friend a compliment! Don't overdo it for several reasons:
- A friend shouldn't fall for you. Things could turn out too badly. The chosen one, as a sign of solidarity, will put a “cross” on you.
- You risk jeopardizing their friendship.
- and, of course, you are not a sadist to torture the girl you like like that.
That is why we are moving slowly, as if in a minefield.
First, compliment her appearance, something like, “You're super beautiful today.” Then, in a conversation with your chosen one, “rejoice” at the next evening together with that same girlfriend. Rest assured, you will touch a nerve. And then the seventh technique will help you.
