Loving your life is your main mission. The meaning of your existence is to come to love. To build such a life, you have to change and strive for the best for yourself. Do you greet new days with indifference? Don't you feel joy when you see the rising sun in the morning? You should learn to love life. Conditions are constantly changing, so your “mission” will probably never end. Here are some tips you can start with to truly love your life.
Get rid of what you don't need to make room for what's important.
Everyone's life is limited by time. No one can escape this limitation. You have to think about how you manage your 24 hours in a day. If you do tasks you don't like, you take time away from the things you really enjoy. If you spend a lot of time with toxic people, you take time away from those you truly enjoy being with.
How true self-love changes our lives
When I learned to truly love myself, amazing changes took place in my life. Here are just a few of them:
- improvement of well-being;
- transformation of appearance, increased attractiveness;
- a sense of independence and freedom;
- the ability to enjoy life;
- internal state of happiness.
So what is true self-love? What are the distinctive characteristics of a person who loves himself? And how does such love affect the world around us?
I have already collected a ton of information on this topic and tried a lot on myself. From this experience I learned 5 important lessons - how to learn to love yourself in order to become truly happy.
These lessons really help change your life. And if I could do it, then you can do it too!
Remember death
For many, death is a taboo topic. No one wants to remind themselves that sooner or later existence will come to an end. Most either ignore it or laugh it off because thinking about it is depressing. However, there is something useful in thinking about death: motivation to live.
People who are close to death often realize what was truly important to them. They gain a desire to live, their motivation is so high that they forget about all the everyday nonsense and focus on what really matters.
Think about your death and answer a few questions:
- What will be left after you?
- What will matter at the end of life?
- If the end is near, will you be happy with your days?
These are probably the questions that frighten people when they think about death. It’s better to ask yourself them now, because you still have enough time to change everything.
Look at everything more optimistically
“Sad time! Ouch charm! Your farewell beauty is pleasant to me - I love the lush decay of nature, forests dressed in crimson and gold.”
A. Pushkin wrote about autumn.
This season symbolizes melancholy, but you can look at it from a different perspective. Oddly enough, the following words can be associated with autumn: renewal, rebirth. Melancholy can be bright and productive: the end of one thing is always the beginning of another.
What surrounds us carries information. When it becomes irrelevant, nature minimizes it to give life to something new. Withering is the first and necessary step towards rebirth .
By minimizing one, we make room for the other - to be reborn in a different quality . “Fading” can be called: satiety from material excesses, outdated habits, already “inanimate” relationships.
There is a Soviet film “Please blame Klava K for my death.” In one episode, the main character says to her admirer:
“You have given yourself to me all your life. And another young man gave me - me! ”
The abundance of the surrounding world gives itself to us. It is wonderful. But minimalism gives me - Me. And it's priceless!
for anyone to love life and become happier . Often it is the philosophy of minimalism that initiates change.
The feeling of lightness and inspiration is a real thing.
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Value the process, not the result
Having a goal is necessary. When you think about what you are striving for, your motivation increases. This is a good side, but there is also a bad side. You focus too much on the future. You regard every action today as a contribution to the future. Your entire present is dedicated to the future. This can lead to despondency. You will make efforts, but you will not see the real results of your work. Your goal should become just a guideline, not the meaning of life. Live here and now. Enjoy the process.
What does it mean to love yourself: the story of Cinderella
For as long as I can remember, I have always been dissatisfied with my appearance and figure. I exhausted my body with diets and workouts, but it was all in vain. Men hardly noticed me, and I was always hungry, irritable and angry...
I hated myself more often than I loved... And you? How much you love yourself or DO NOT love yourself - find out in this article >>>
All this is a thing of the past. Now I'm being asked out on dates by men I never dared to dream of before. They compliment me and show me signs of attention. I receive gifts and catch admiring glances from the opposite sex. I feel truly happy.
And I just love my reflection in the mirror! My weight is ideal and my figure is toned. I feel light and energized.
How did I do this? I just learned to love myself. It's surprising, but true self-love can really work wonders and change the world around you.
Having become seriously interested in the topic of self-love, I began to immerse myself in it. I read books and went to consultations with psychologists, eagerly absorbed information and adopted effective techniques and practices.
This is how I discovered the Self-Love Marathon “I’m Alone!” and passed it. Ultimately, it was this Marathon that radically changed my thinking and helped me find answers to questions that had haunted me for so many years.
Life is a compromise
At some point you will have to look at your life and make a difficult decision. Getting rid of toxic people is not easy, because you also have to leave behind years of shared memories. If you want to improve your skills, you will have to sacrifice your time. If you want to move to another city where there are more opportunities, you will have to break ties with your hometown.
Every choice has consequences. And you will always have to look for compromises. To love life, you have to accept this: things don't always go the way you planned. Accept your imperfect decisions, accept your imperfect world. The choices you make define your life and make it unique. Don't be afraid of difficulties. They can teach you new things and give meaning to your life.
Advice from psychologists on how to love life and enjoy every day
The general level of love of life depends on how much a person knows how to enjoy each individual day and even hour. Many psychologists, in their therapy dealing with completely different needs, begin to work so that a person feels the joy of every day and learns to live in the present, and not look back at the categories of the past or future, which give nothing but unnecessary experiences.
You can restore your level of enjoyment in life by allowing yourself to immerse yourself in the past, but not for the purpose of thinking about situations, what could have been done or in regrets, but with a positive assessment. You can go through your achievements, look back at difficult times, but without regret, but with pride in overcoming difficulties. The more positive you notice in your past, the more it will become a resource for the present. This way you can understand that existing problems are not significant, because you have previously dealt with more difficult ones, raise your level of self-esteem and decide on new achievements, appreciating your existing achievements and considering them as a springboard.
How to love life again? After the past has been correctly assessed, it is necessary to switch to the present and appreciate those people who happen to be nearby. There is no point in regretting those who left your life or constantly bring negative experiences with their inconstancy - minimize your own stress. The more a person learns to value every minute of his time, the more pleasure he lives it, spends it with significant people, does important things, instead of wasting a limited time resource on those who do not deserve it.
How to love life and yourself? Take responsibility for your happiness and trust less and be charmed by others in advance. If you expect to be made happy or demand fulfillment of promises made in the heat of passion, then in the end you can turn your life into hell on your own. Trust only yourself and the highest manifestation of the universe. The world is truly such that it can take care of anyone, but to do this you need to relax and be open to interacting with any person, and not expect a grand salvation from just one.
It is necessary to cultivate love and forbearance towards others. As long as we are able to forgive other people’s mistakes and forget negative actions, we establish relationships with significant people, but few people treat themselves this way. High demands are placed on oneself, even small mistakes are not forgiven, and other people’s remarks, said in passing, are perceived as an argument for active changes. You need to understand that you, too, are not omnipotent, you have the right to make mistakes, and that your own love and care is always more healing for the psyche than someone else’s. You can’t suppress your needs and work with all your might to please others and earn their love, just as you can’t sacrifice your interests and health so that someone else can feel good. Following such a strategy, life can become unbearable, and another will only understand that it is convenient to use you to further improve their life.
Work on liberating your own emotional sphere. You can periodically play the role of a madman or a prankster, remember bandits from movies and cartoons - everyone has a mischievous devil and a huge level of spontaneity. The opportunity to run through puddles, swim in a fountain, catch a balloon and play with a child whose ball accidentally landed on your foot - these are all manifestations of inner freedom from external rules and responsibilities. The more such rash actions, coming from the heart and a childish desire for joy, you commit, the more happiness your life will be filled with, the more different interesting opportunities and risky options for development your subconscious will begin to notice.
Don’t be afraid to be funny and open, stupid and crazy, support those who are judged and feared, dress not in accordance with unspoken rules, but according to your own taste - all this will create a slight flair of strangeness for others, but truth for you.
Follow your heart - Ace Ventura.
Eccentric, slightly adventurous pet detective Ace Ventura is a shining example of dedication to his work. His profession is strange, rare, but why does he do it? Because it contains three signs of a “favorite thing”:
- benefit . Losing pets is a real tragedy for many;
- Love . Ace likes his job, he feels needed, recognized;
- skills . The detective knows his job and successfully completes cases one after another.
If you erase the veil of film fiction and humor, you can see that this is an ordinary everyday situation. If a person likes something, he knows how to do it, while bringing benefits to the world around him, then this activity should not be given up.
How does it happen in reality? Due to social pressure, dependence on money, and the race for prestige, many abandon their calling. What does this lead to? To the same depression, addictions, neuroses, diseases. Therefore, it is better to always listen to your heart. If there is no opportunity to make good money in the field of interest, let this business remain as a hobby. The main thing is to preserve it.
Ace Ventura also shows how important pets are. They themselves bring happiness, make people happy in difficult moments, and teach them to enjoy small joys.
Living with the truth - “Liar, liar.”
Anyone who lies to others will be tormented by his conscience or the consequences of lying. Anyone who lies to himself closes himself off from happiness. Is it possible to rejoice while living someone else's life?
Lawyer Fletcher Reed does not represent his profession without lying. He manages to screw his family too. In the end, he lies to himself, thinking that work is his main treasure. As a result, the man almost loses his son, almost ruins his career, and almost loses his only true friend - his elderly secretary Greta. As trite as it may sound, it is the truth that saves him from all troubles, even if not in a direct way. What happens to these Fletchers if they don't come to their truth? They:
- lose loved ones, friends, remain lonely;
- lose themselves, the real meaning of life, guidelines;
- experience a constant obsessive feeling that something is missing;
- suffer from neurotic disorders, outbursts of aggression, apathy;
- become prone to depression, psychosomatic illnesses, and addictions;
- as a result, they do not achieve anything because of fatigue, sadness, and loss;
- soon they begin to regret the years they spent wrong.
How to learn to love yourself. Lesson 2. Friendship with yourself
Stop scolding yourself for eating an extra piece or gaining a kilogram - all this only lowers your self-esteem. Listen to your body and its needs. Be friends with yourself and your body, praise it, and soon it will begin to change for the better. Your body is unique, how can you not love it at least for this?
How it was for me
While I starved my body on yet another diet and forced it to sweat in the gym, it just didn’t want to obey and get better.
Let's remember Newton's third law: for every action there is always an equal and opposite reaction. It is not surprising that the more I fought with my body, the more it resisted.
I stopped fighting and started looking for ways to make friends with myself. What have I done:
- I figured out what I eat: which foods I really like, and which ones I buy only because they are “healthy.” I replaced those dishes that did not bring me pleasure with others, taking into account the preservation of beneficial properties.
- I stopped exhausting myself with diets and workouts to the detriment of my health. I chose those activities that brought me joy and energized me.
After this, miracles began to happen. My body suddenly transformed without much effort, the hated belly disappeared, strength and the desire to move appeared. Every day I like my figure more and more, and I thank my body and praise it for these changes. This is what it means to love yourself from head to toe!
Summary Talk to yourself - finding balance within yourself is much easier than it seems.
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