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When a girl attracts you, you want to possess her. However, it is not so easy to get what you want. At every step the guy is forced to beg, persuade, and arouse interest. And all this in order to have sex. Of course, if a guy’s interest is only sexual, then he won’t spend a long time on a girl. However, in any case, you need to inspire trust. Only a girl's trust in a guy will encourage her to have sex and agree to any other proposals.
The men's site masculino.ru talks about the importance of instilling confidence in a girl. Only a guy who is trustworthy gets sex. The girl agrees to give herself up only after she begins to feel attracted to the guy. How to evoke the right sensations in a girl to have sex, not get rejected by her, and even start a serious relationship?
How to regain a girl's trust: what to say during an apology
Of course, words of apology are indispensable. First, what not to do:
- indulge in spatial reasoning about why this happened;
- relieve yourself of blame by blaming circumstances or other people;
- beg (beg) for forgiveness: “Please, forgive me, I beg you”;
- Avoid the word apology altogether;
- avoid conversations and debriefings.
Now I will give a few phrases of apology. You can take any of them and use it.
“I understand that you are angry and disappointed with my behavior right now. You're not sure you can trust me again, and I'm really sorry that happened. I shouldn't have betrayed you."
You voice how she feels, win her over, show the connection between your feelings and hers, and say what you want her to believe.
“Now I understand how much my stupid act makes you feel anger, pain and rage towards me.”
“I love you baby and I cherish you very much. It's my fault. I'm very sorry this happened."
“I analyzed what just happened. This will never happen again."
“Forgive me, my girl. I'm really to blame for you. Know that I didn't mean to hurt you. This is the most important thing for me now.”
I think you know the saying, “Strike while the iron is hot.” The same rule can be applied in our case. For example, if a girl has just caught you doing something forbidden and ugly, then after the words:
"I'm sorry!"
You can go straight to seduction and sex. Yes exactly.
Replace her negative emotions with positive ones, shifting the vector of attention. After making love, the girl will be relaxed, positive and happy. If she wants to again raise the issue of that ugly act of yours, then gently apologize again. But, most likely, she will no longer return to him.
Proven universal method
Trust is always based on three components: love, business, self-hypnosis. Based on this, it is worth building your action plan.
Feel
It is quite possible that your girlfriend is a real romantic.
If this is so, then the emphasis should be on feelings. Romantic people are soft and forgiving people; such a girl herself will be able to justify all your actions and actions if you push her to do so. You have to make your chosen one fall in love with you again. Take action, evoke the most vivid, powerful emotions, remember how you walked around the city together, how you went to the cinema, how you gave unexpected gifts. An avalanche of positive emotions and vivid impressions will again make her believe that next to her is the very “charming prince” who turns winter into summer. You can look at this from the other side. Pretend to doubt your girlfriend's feelings. The action is risky, but you can hit the mark. This move should only be used if circumstances allow it.
Prepare to be a villain for a while
Your girlfriend won't trust you as easily as she used to after you lied. In addition, she will not be able to love and treat you tenderly in the same way for a while.
You made a mistake, you have to deal with the consequences. Therefore, be prepared for the fact that she will consider you a villain until you correct everything and enough time has passed. A kind of fierce wolf that you should beware of in everything.
Use this post (opens in a new tab) for dating ideas while rebuilding trust.
How long does it take to regain a girl's trust?
There is no right answer to this question and no set time for solving the problem. It all depends on the nature of the relationship, its duration and emotional attachment to each other. The act itself that led to the loss of trust also plays an important role.
Less mystery
Psychologist and relationship consultant, PhD Michelle Callahan advises inviting a girl to meetings with friends or colleagues. Even if you have purely platonic friendships with other women, your friend may worry about them. But a joint meeting will help get rid of her unreasonable jealousy: she will see that Zinochka from your work is much less like Marilyn Monroe than on the phone. When meeting with friends, try to just be yourself, or at least the same as you are alone with her. Otherwise she will suspect you of duplicity.
Try to make joint decisions
"Show her that you can be relied upon and that you value her opinion," says Laura Lachis, PhD, an assistant professor of psychology at Redeemer University College in Canada. For example, when you invite her (a girl, not an assistant professor) somewhere in the evening, choose her favorite place, and not the bowling alley where you usually hang out with friends. “Make sure you show up on time,” recommends Joel Block, Ph.D., a certified psychotherapist and specialist in couples therapy. “This will make it clear that you can be considered caring and reliable.”
Don't rush to judge
Don't judge her actions rashly. “When she talks openly about what she did or felt, it's important to withhold judgment,” Block says. For example, if she made a mistake at work, this is not a reason to make her a target for your satirical remarks - it is better to just listen to her sympathetically. Be prepared to admit your shortcomings too. Let's say you're not a good cook - you shouldn't try to hide it: a burnt partridge will still deprive you of your fictitious Michelin stars. When she (again, a girl, not a partridge) knows that she sees the real you, it is easier for her to trust you.
Respect
How to win a woman's heart? To achieve your goal, you should not treat her as “your guy.” The attitude towards the lady should be completely different. First of all, a man trying to woo the lady he likes should not quarrel with her. You should also not say offensive words to her.
A woman will definitely appreciate a man if he holds the door for her or pulls up a chair, helping her sit down at the table. You should also not base all relationships on intimacy. A woman must understand that she is important to a man as a person.
Sincerity
Many men like to conquer a woman with furious pressure. They constantly talk about her beauty or call her on the phone around the clock. However, you shouldn't do this. You should also not pretend to be unavailable. Both the first and second options are a manifestation of immaturity.
Instead of acting as if a woman is some kind of object to be conquered, a man should be sincere with her, while remaining himself. You should try to gain her respect and try to better understand this person by showing interest in all areas of the young lady’s daily life.
A man must answer all a woman’s SMS and calls. If you do something for her, then only from the bottom of your heart. Such behavior will be appreciated.
Refusal of a date: how to take advantage of it
When communication is going well, you may think it's time to move on to setting up a meeting. Having happily offered it to her, you suddenly receive a refusal.
And here a lot depends on how you behave next. If your voice changes, you will start asking questions like “why?” or “busy?”, you say “okay then, we’ll call you later” and say goodbye, then she will conclude that you were very upset by her refusal. If you get upset over something as small as rejection, then you shouldn't trust your body or your life.
She will simply understand that if you are upset by rejection, then you are weak and unreliable. Everything is logical and simple.
How to behave correctly in such situations?
You need to remain positive and continue to communicate with her as energetically as you did before the refusal. Try to let her know that you immediately forgot about her refusal.
. How to do it? Just suddenly change the topic, joke about something and take her attention in another direction. And most importantly, do not comment on her refusal. Even just with the words “okay, then we’ll talk later when we meet.” Even at the very end of your conversation - not a word about a date.
Showing sympathy
How to win a woman? To do this, you need to show sympathy for her. This will allow you to conquer the lady of your heart much faster.
Noticing that she is upset about something, the man should offer her his help and support her in a difficult situation. However, you should not give specific advice, because as a result, it will be he who is to blame for the troubles. The lady should be supported with good words and try to distract her as much as possible from the problem that has arisen.
Of course, men don’t like to see women cry. However, you should pull yourself together and get through this unpleasant moment. Such tactics will allow you to quickly win the heart of your beloved.
Be honest about your intentions
Seducers have long proven the fact that honestly declaring your intentions is much more effective than lying, playing around, beating around the bush and pretending.
Girls have come up with a cunning tactic: when a guy takes some step in getting closer, they can make such a facial expression (just look at him/make him justify himself) that the insecure guy immediately begins to feel guilty about himself. And he stops getting closer. Or he may begin to make excuses for his action, and in response to the phrase: “You all only think about one thing,” begin to prove the opposite.
But practice has shown that this path leads to nothing, and this way you won’t be able to win the girl’s trust.
But if you are not afraid of her reaction, say: “Yes, I like you,” and continue to act confidently and positively, then your honesty will make her trust you more.
Be clear about what you want from her and when you are going to get it.
Charisma
Let's look at how to win a woman. It is difficult to find representatives of the fairer sex who would not be captivated by male charisma. This is a trait that is quite difficult to define, but people endowed with it are visible at first glance. What is meant by charisma? This is a set of psychological and emotional traits that allow a man not only to please a woman, but also to be a real leader.
Most people believe that such a quality is given to a person by nature. However, charisma can be developed by anyone if desired. And for this you will need to become energetic and friendly, as well as improve your oratory abilities. This will help you win the heart of the girl you like.
Always keep your promises!
Even very small ones. If you think that her words “oh well, it’s all little things” means that there was no need to keep the promise, then you are mistaken. She has a counter in her head that is very sensitive to the number of words you keep. And the moment you fail to keep your promise once again, your masculine attractiveness declines.
Summary:
As you can see, winning a girl’s trust is not so difficult. The main thing is to know that girls once stopped trusting guys because of their weakness, cowardice and unreliability. And skillfully show that you are not endowed with these ugly qualities. After all, when you know what she is afraid of, you can quickly earn trust than those who try to do this with flowers and long months-long courtship.
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When you find yourself at home
If you start kissing her and trying to undress her, but she doesn’t care, then it’s very important to be able to continue communication the same way as before.
It’s enough to just lie in bed with her and communicate as if you were old friends.
The main thing is to feel the fine line between “persuade me more” and a real “no” (if you just stop acting after her first “no”, then she will consider it insecurity and weakness).
Many girls have stopped trusting guys because they disappear after sex. Therefore, the phrase: “ I want to wake up with you and cook you breakfast”
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will show her that your intentions are much more serious than just sex
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