Every person has thought about visiting a psychologist at least once in their life. Fortunately, in Russia they no longer view psychological assistance as something shameful. However, many people still believe that they can cope with problems on their own or with the help of friends.
It is difficult to understand in what cases a psychologist is needed. Unfortunately, most people never reach the point of no return. About 70% of patients with clinical depression and neurosis admit that they wanted to seek help before a breakdown, but never decided.
On the other hand, going to a psychologist every time there is family trouble or quarrel is also strange. After all, a healthy person must be able to withstand everyday stress.
So, if you have doubts about the advisability of seeing a psychologist, check out this list of 10 reasons to see a psychologist. In any case, it is better to sign up for a free consultation and hear that you can cope on your own than to continue to doubt until a nervous breakdown or suicidal thoughts occur.
Chronic stress that yoga and your favorite movie can’t help you cope with
Life is full of stress, and that's completely normal. Problems cannot be completely avoided. Moreover, small jolts are good for the body, as they help mobilize strength and look at the routine from a new angle.
But if one stressful situation flows into another, and the feeling of relaxation does not occur, you should seek help. Otherwise, stress will result in neurosis, depression or complete apathy.
A psychologist will help you find healthy ways to solve problems and eliminate triggers of stressful situations.
Where to go for help
Dear readers, in this article I analyzed in detail in which cases it makes sense to go to a psychologist, and in which cases you can cope on your own. If you have any questions, please ask in the comments, I will definitely answer.
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Difficulty controlling emotions
Some people cannot cope with emotions, especially sadness and anger. Sometimes it’s enough to breathe deeply, draw mandalas, and your mood returns to normal. But if mood swings negatively affect your work or personal life, it’s time to deal with the problem.
An experienced psychologist will help you deal with emotions and tell you how to properly control anger and malice. People who tend to cry in response to every attack from their colleagues are also recommended to talk to a specialist. Emotions should not interfere with building a career and personal relationships.
Due to constant mood swings, some people cannot eat or sleep normally. In the end, the person becomes exhausted and cannot concentrate on the really important things.
For people who cannot control their emotions, a psychologist will help:
- develop unique self-soothing strategies;
- get rid of the negative consequences of breakdowns;
- understand why mood swings occur and how they affect life.
In rare cases, such changes are a symptom of a real illness (bipolar disorder, cyclothymia). In this case, early contact with a psychologist can literally save you from a neuropsychiatric hospital.
How to understand whether you should see a psychologist
At first, the problems seem not so serious, you just want to quickly forget about them, or until the last moment you believe that you can handle everything on your own. But the human psyche is unimaginably complex and unpredictable. She requires a very careful attitude towards herself. Therefore, the longer a person is left alone with his problems, the more serious the consequences will be.
How can you not miss the moment when it’s time to see a psychologist? The following “bells” will tell you:
- you need to change something, but you don’t have the strength;
- negative situations do not go away, but turn into a “vicious circle”;
- the sense of duty “presses” too much;
- unable to build a personal life;
- thoughts of loneliness cause panic;
- everything seems to be fine, but for some reason you feel bad;
- there is a problem that you cannot solve;
- constantly overcome by dark thoughts;
- blame others for everything;
- the feeling of dissatisfaction grows;
- you are not able to understand how you feel emotionally - good or bad;
- you intentionally hurt yourself or another person.
Tendency to cope in unhealthy ways
Some people respond to stress by starting to drink and use illegal substances. This is an unhealthy reaction that will eventually lead to physical health complications.
If you do not seek help in time, then in the long term a full-fledged addiction may develop.
At this stage, you will have to contact a specialized psychiatrist or psychotherapist.
But not only alcohol, smoking and drugs are considered “unhealthy” methods of solving problems.
If a person goes to the gym and works out to the point of complete exhaustion, he also needs the help of a psychologist. A specialist will help you find healthy methods of coping with difficulties, as well as understand the true reasons for using alcohol and illegal substances.
Is it possible to cope with the problem on your own?
In most cases, yes, you can. Unless, of course, we are talking about serious mental disorders. It will just take a lot longer. It's like fixing a car without the skills of a mechanic. You can fix your car yourself, but how long will it take?
Another question is why go to a specialist if you have friends and relatives? It is to them that many of us turn in critical situations. A loved one will listen to you, support you, try to console you and give advice. However, he does not know how to cope with a difficult internal state, he does not know the techniques and processes occurring in the body. What's the result? After communication, you will still be left alone with your problem.
A psychologist, having extensive knowledge in the field of processes that occur in the psyche and certain tools for solving problems, is able to help extract useful experience from what is happening to you and find solutions that are suitable for you.
If you really want to change your life, internal readiness is important for this - to look at yourself from the outside, courageously name the problem, admit mistakes. We all, deep down in our souls, want to be happy, and in difficult situations we dream of a miracle. And sometimes this miracle is somewhere very close, you just need to start changing inside, and these internal changes will lead to external changes. So maybe it's worth a try?
The Center for Harmony of Soul and Body “Here and Now” is a cozy space where you can get the necessary psychological support, restore physical health and find peace of mind. We assure you: you will like it with us!
Constant failures in your personal life and career
It happens that a person tries his best to achieve his goals, but for unknown reasons nothing works out.
If the obstacles seem insurmountable or, conversely, there is no understanding why what you want is constantly slipping out of your hands, it is worth getting the opinion of a third party. Friends and colleagues may assess the situation biasedly (for example, out of envy or sympathy). But a psychologist is an unbiased assistant who is interested in his client being successful and happy.
There can be many reasons for problems in professional life: from lack of motivation to perfectionism, internal sabotage. A psychologist will help you understand what exactly makes achieving your goal impossible.
People who have problems with their personal lives usually experience problems with attachment and self-esteem. The specialist knows how to overcome internal fears and learn to set boundaries.
How long have I been unable to solve this problem?
The second step is to look at your problem from a time perspective: how long has it been going on and preventing me from living a full life? Is there any positive dynamics or is this a protracted thing that has been robbing me of joy for a long time?
For example, Sergei has been worried about his relationship with his new boss for a month now. The boss is young, inexperienced and, out of inexperience, makes gestures. Sergei is angry, but he doesn’t know how to influence the situation. He Googles different strategies, but ultimately decides to wait and watch. At the end of the quarter, the division shows poor results - and the new boss is transferred to another place. The problem resolved itself.
Meanwhile, his colleague Mikhail has long dreamed of quitting his job and learning a new profession. Mikhail drives seditious thoughts away from himself - after all, he is an employee of a prestigious company and receives an excellent salary, but the thoughts that this is not his life’s work come again and again. Mikhail feels like he’s stuck – it’s scary to quit and it’s unbearable to stay.
Realizing that the solution to the issue is being delayed, Mikhail turns to a psychologist for help. Together with a psychologist, they figure out what exactly doesn’t suit Mikhail at work and what provokes such a reaction. At the same time, they work with Mikhail’s fears and doubts - after all, changing a profession is really a very difficult thing. It takes Mikhail almost 9 months to make a final decision, but he ends therapy satisfied. Now he understands himself much better and has a clear plan of action.
In the first case, the problem was fresh and new - Sergei had never had any conflicts with his superiors before. The wait-and-see strategy worked
In the second case , Mikhail realized that the solution to the problem was taking a long time and he was in a dead end from which he himself could not get out. At the same time, time worked against him - after all, he also had to learn a new business. Therefore, he chose long-term psychotherapy.
Searching for an answer to the question “Who am I, and why do I live?”
After stressful and traumatic situations, a person often loses the meaning of life. Any further action seems unnecessary. Such thoughts can lead to prolonged depression and suicide. A psychologist will help you build a new model of behavior “from scratch.”
Sometimes during the conversation, self-limiting beliefs are discovered that hold back development. For example, the belief that a person is not smart enough to succeed is often instilled by parents.
In general, loss of interest in activities that previously aroused sincere interest should also be a reason to sign up with a psychologist. Usually this “symptom” is the first sign of depression. It is better not to take the situation to the extreme and seek help in advance.
There are many techniques that allow you to reconsider your role in life and get rid of negative patterns and attitudes.
Sometimes losing interest in life is a natural part of growing up, as is the case with teenagers, or recovering from traumatic situations. But it’s better to go to 7hands.com and choose a psychologist. You can start with a remote consultation.
Checklist: Reasons to see a psychologist
You feel like you're walking in circles
If you constantly experience anxiety, your soul is tormented by tossing, and problems accumulate and turn into a vicious circle without end or beginning, you need professional psychodiagnostics.
You have intrusive thoughts
Getting rid of “mental gum” is quite difficult. Obsessive thoughts depress and torment, taking away all your vital energy. You should definitely contact a psychologist with this problem.
You work too much
Workaholism is not always good. When work becomes the main part of life, crowding out everything else, it turns into mania. This condition often provokes the development of obsessive thoughts, which poses an additional threat to health.
You develop bad habits
Bad habits are a way to escape from reality, relieve stress or get distracted. A very dangerous and bad way. Any addiction is psychological in nature. This means that with the right approach, getting rid of them is quite possible.
You are taking unnecessary risks
One of the signs of deviant behavior. The problem is serious and requires a thorough approach. The reasons may be hidden very deeply in the subconscious, and such situations cannot be avoided without a specialist.
You can't connect with food
Poor eating habits will definitely lead to health problems. There is no need to “eat” stress or provoke the development of anorexia. Book a consultation with one of our psychologists and he will help you find a solution to your situation.
You have a topic that you can't discuss with anyone
Our specialists will listen to you and help you understand all the nuances of the current situation. Don't be left alone with the problem. Otherwise, it can turn into a snowball and will press harder and harder.
Feelings of failure as a parent
Parenting is hard work. Raising your first child is especially difficult.
On the one hand, modern adults have access to a huge amount of educational information. On the other hand, there are ideal pictures on social networks, which are not always possible to follow. Many women feel a pressing sense of guilt that is difficult to cope with.
How do you know that everything is going according to plan? Of course, you can go to an online forum and ask for advice there. But it must be borne in mind that on the other side of the screen there are often inexperienced advisers who can maliciously ridicule or condemn naive questions.
In the ranking of those who need a psychologist, young parents should take first place.
A psychologist will help you decide on the distribution of roles in the family and tell you how to achieve balance in relationships. But the main advantage of turning to professionals: no value judgments. Even if the parents have really reached an impasse with raising a child, the psychologist will not scold or reproach, but will provide working tools and methods for correcting the situation.
But most often the specialist has to convince parents that they are on the right track and raising an emotionally healthy child. After all, the main problem of our time is the desire to correspond to inflated, often non-existent, ideals.
I divided the questions that clients come to me with into 3 groups according to the areas of personal, family and business relationships. If you do not find a request that suits your case in the list, contact me and we will clarify the possibility of a meeting.
I. HARMONY WITH YOURSELF
Attitude towards yourself:
- Lack of confidence in yourself and your abilities
- Negative attitude towards oneself (low self-esteem)
- Non-acceptance of oneself, feeling of inferiority
- Decreased self-esteem
- Dependence on the assessments and opinions of other people
- Lack of willpower, difficulties with self-control of emotions and behavior
- Lack of motivation, meaninglessness of life
Working with emotional states:
- Sadness, melancholy, despair
- Resentment, guilt
- Anger, hatred
- Grief, loss experience
- Bad mood, lack of cheerfulness
- Fears and anxieties
- Irritability
Difficult life choices
- Doubts about choosing a solution
- The struggle of motives: I want - I can - I must
- Value and moral conflicts
How to change your life for the better?
- Dissatisfaction with certain areas of life
- Search for internal (psychological) causes of difficulties in life
- Search for meaning, mission, purpose
- Absence or collapse of a life plan
Personal development, life path: past-present-future
- Crises of life changes (entry to university, marriage, birth of a child, etc.)
- Crisis situations (loss of a loved one, divorce, etc.)
- Unproductive life path: emptiness, hopelessness, unfulfillment
- Motivation for happiness: a dangerous world or a world of opportunity
- Psychological work with the “past” - rethinking past events and relationships
- Psychological work with the “future”: dream – goal – possibilities – plan – go!
II. BUILD RELATIONSHIPS
Couple relationships:
- Mutual claims, grievances, quarrels
- Getting over a breakup
- Cheating partner
- Love triangle - a problem of choice
- Jealousy and emotional dependence in relationships (the problem of “there is no life without you”)
- Loneliness or solitude (internal conflict “to be alone or with just anyone”)
- Relationships don’t work out (bad experience, fear of new relationships, etc.)
Family problems:
- Marital relations: dissatisfaction with marriage, mutual misunderstanding, disrespect, neglect of the interests of the partner and family responsibilities
- Family conflicts
- Crises in relationships - divorce or how to continue living together
- Conflicts with parents: psychological support for adult children (over 18 years old), resentment, quarrels, mutual hostility; dependence on parents in decision making.
- Conflicts with children: psychological assistance to parents
III. WORK IS A JOY
- Finding something you like
- Study of the characteristics of motivation and individual style of activity (diagnostics)
- Professional development crises
- Difficult choice (to quit or not, start your own business or work for hire, money or a business you like, etc.)
- Abnormal professional crises (forced dismissal, change of residence, demotion, etc.)
- Relationships with colleagues, work conflicts (with boss, subordinates, team)
- Emotional burnout
- Management decisions – helping the manager make difficult decisions related to managing the team.
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Help with recovery after a traumatic event or during a transition period
Traumatic events are not necessarily associated with near-death experiences. People react differently to stressful events. Some calmly cope with the death of loved ones, complex road accidents and even their own disability, while others develop post-traumatic stress disorder even after ordinary poisoning.
It is equally important to seek help during the transition period. Transferring to a new position, moving, registering a marriage or having a child can throw you out of your usual rut for a long time. A good psychologist will provide emotional support and give advice on how to adapt to changes.
For post-traumatic stress disorder, additional consultation with a psychotherapist and medication are sometimes required. But the first step may be an anonymous conversation with a psychologist.
Which specialist should I go to?
Psychologist
A psychologist is a specialist with a higher psychological education. It plays the role of a tool that helps a person understand himself, his feelings and problems. Find answers deeply “hidden” at the subconscious level of the psyche. Find an individual path to happiness and harmony. The psychologist accepts the client’s value system and works only with it. Therefore, a specialist never gives advice or evaluates.
Our service employs highly qualified specialists with higher education and many years of experience. Make sure of this personally, because the first 20 minutes of consultation with a psychologist are absolutely free and do not obligate you to anything.
Psychotherapist
A psychotherapist is a doctor (has a higher medical education) who specializes in a certain area of psychotherapy. She treats psychological diseases (severe phobias, long-term depression) or borderline conditions (neurotic personality development). If necessary, prescribes medication.
Psychiatrist
Like a psychotherapist, he has a higher medical education, but deals with the diagnosis and treatment of severe mental disorders: schizophrenia, psychosis, dissociative personality disorder. In her work she uses specific medications and procedures.
Lack of support from friends and relatives
Introverts, people who are not inclined to create close social contacts, find it very difficult to share their problems. But even those who have many friends do not always receive the support they need.
An anonymous consultation with a psychologist can be an excellent solution. It doesn’t matter whether the whole weekend is busy with meetings with friends, or communication with relatives happens once a year. A fresh, impartial look at the situation will not hurt anyone.
Therefore, the answer to the question “does a person who suffers from loneliness need a psychologist” is clear.
It is better to get the support of a specialist who will, among other things, help understand why the client remained isolated. Otherwise, there is a risk of becoming directly dependent on the opinions of people who are not interested in changing the situation.
Difference between psychologist and psychiatrist
Often people do not understand the difference between a psychologist and a psychotherapist and mix these concepts into something vague and mystical. However, the difference is fundamental. Let's try to figure out what the difference is between a psychologist and a psychiatrist:
- psychiatrist - a doctor who deals with disorders and registers,
- psychotherapist - deals with both borderline and pathological conditions, can combine pharmacotherapy and psychotherapy,
- psychologist - does not work with borderline states,
- medical psychologist - with any conditions, but without pharmacotherapy.
Desire to change established negative patterns
Due to parental mistakes and the negative influence of the environment, false attitudes arise that are difficult to get rid of.
For example, some people sincerely believe in their own failures, others are sure that there are no good people, everyone around them strives to deceive or offend. Negative patterns prevent you from moving forward and growing above yourself.
A psychologist will help you establish an internal dialogue, find the reason for the appearance of negative patterns and tell you how to “reprogram” them.
Sometimes incorrect attitudes prevent you from feeling happiness for many years. A man thinks that to be happy he needs an expensive car (another wife, a new job), although then material values do not bring real satisfaction, and the new wife begins to bother him just like the old one.
Heartache
It has been scientifically proven that the same parts of the human brain respond to physical and emotional trauma. That is, in fact, mental pain is no different from physical pain. If you don’t see objective reasons for frustration, life seems to go on as usual, but you are constantly haunted by melancholy of unknown origin - you don’t need to endure it. Waking up and falling asleep with constant pain inside, hiding your experiences away and not being able to rejoice is real torture. Believe me, you can get rid of this condition, even if it drags on for years.
Suspicions that a mental illness has developed
Everyone knows that mental illnesses are treated by a psychiatrist. But the stigma associated with psychiatry in Russia prevents people from going directly to a neuropsychiatric clinic. Those who suspect they have symptoms of a mental illness can start with a psychologist.
Even if the fears are confirmed, the psychologist can obtain the contact information of a private psychiatrist who receives anonymously. Specialists usually keep in touch with each other and can refer their patients.
Don't be afraid of psychologists.
Sometimes a few sessions are enough to change the quality of life.
But even if it takes several months to build new habits and ways of thinking, the time spent will definitely pay off! 842 0.0 Rate this article Published: 05/28/2021
You're addicted
Unhealthy attachment can also be a reason to consult a psychotherapist. This is usually associated with a breakup in a relationship where the person cannot come to terms with the loss. He is so used to his partner that he seems inferior and helpless. All further life seems meaningless. It is difficult to get rid of this feeling on your own. Dependence on any idea also poses a threat to life. Usually, it is for this reason that diseases such as bulimia, anorexia and the like arise.
You're itching
There are no signs of bites on the skin or other objective reasons, but you are overcome by itching. At the same time, you cannot understand what exactly is itching, you search all over your body, but still cannot find the source of irritation.
