There are women around whom there are round dances, and there are those who, no matter what love, always have drama. Why is that? Neither appearance nor intelligence are of key importance in this matter. Then what determines whether you should be a “just-in-time” girl or the one who is loved? Numerous studies of male psychology reveal a number of special traits that almost all representatives of the stronger sex value in women. What is special about girls who drive men crazy?
They radiate happiness
Men do not like hysterical, unhappy and problematic women. But most of the ladies are sure that a potential partner is not a person, but a function through which women’s problems are solved. Men, of course, quickly read all this and try to stay away.
Girls, more enthusiasm, spontaneity, love for yourself and the world around you! Don’t burden a young man with your problems already on the first date - he wants to get a buzz from life and being around a woman.
If you are filled with harmony, radiate positivity and happiness, guys will circle around you, fly to you like butterflies to the light. And if you are an overweight, dull, heavy person, you need to do something about it.
What kind of girls behavior do guys hate?
What do guys don’t like, even can’t stand? Imagine. So, no need to get carried away. “Excessive” intelligence can especially let you down. On the other hand, I don't like stupid bores. And with the third, it’s difficult to tolerate “noisy girls” in long conversations who vying with each other and screaming at a disco or on the street, wanting to attract attention to themselves, as well as those who drink a lot. The idiotic giggle is annoying. Guys can take it personally. Men don’t like this! Among the external signs, greasy hair, dirty nails and an abundance of “plaster” are repulsive.
Don't allow yourself to flirt with other men
Many girls, in an attempt to refresh their feelings, often acting even with the best intentions, allow themselves the opportunity to flirt with other men. They hope to make their partner jealous and thereby increase their importance. Subconsciously, girls understand that their demand for love from other people adds points to them.
Yes, people are social and competition exists. And the more there is a round dance around a woman, the more she seems like a prize! However, your relevance and your initiative to flirt are two different things, especially if you have a regular partner or even a spouse.
Every time you smile flirtatiously at someone and respond to flirting, or even initiate it yourself, know that this is a small and often hidden betrayal! And only a weak man or one who doesn’t care about you is willing to endure this. And a normal man (mature personality) with good self-esteem, who respects himself, will quickly find a replacement for you.
You can be beautiful, sexy, you can attract the eyes of everyone around, but at the same time you must remain inaccessible.
For the information of all lovers of tickling the nerves of their partners, I tell you that the word “flirting” means “love game” or “flirting.” The concept is thought to derive from the Old French fl eurette ("flower") and alludes to the Romantic Age tradition of exchanging flowers as tokens of affection. The gentleman could give a flower to the lady, and the lady could throw the flower to the gentleman from the balcony. This meant that they marked each other as desired lovers. Thus, flirting with another is not cheating, but it is a declaration of desire to cheat.
Therefore, it is completely normal that your partner expects you to have a very reserved and even cold attitude towards any man who simply makes a polite compliment. If you have a husband, don’t be vague in response to compliments from strangers as if you were starved of beautiful words.
You may not initiate the advances yourself, but if you respond to them and do not stop them, you encourage flirting and seem to agree to move the topic of communication into a sexual direction or to sharply reduce the distance.
Best feminine properties
I, Daria Milai, will be happy to share my experience with you, tell you in which direction you need to work on yourself in order to create a strong and happy marriage. In the meantime, let's look at the positive characteristics of women who have achieved success in this business.
Wisdom
It comes with age and life experience. But the sooner you find it, the better. This often refers to the ability to find compromises in everything. When your partner is ready to watch football together, although she doesn’t like sports. Or goes with a gentleman to a concert of his favorite band. The ability to take a step forward, show flexibility and not dictate your terms is an important quality of an ideal girl.
beauty
Taking care of yourself and taking care of your appearance are obvious things, and any lady knows about them. Men love naturalness in the fair sex. Bright makeup, vulgar clothing and behavior are unlikely to attract a man with serious intentions. But remember that you can be a beautiful lady not only externally, but also internally. Care, thriftiness, delicacy, intelligence - all this, combined with wisdom, is a powerful weapon that can hit any guy.
Kindness
A wonderful character trait. And if she doesn’t save the whole world, she will definitely support the relationship. The guy wants to spend all his free time with his good chosen one, protect her and make her happy. Such companions create a positive atmosphere around themselves, attractive and alluring. After all, everyone who is close to her is filled with warm emotions and feelings.
Good manners
Upbringing and good manners passed on by parents are a lucky ticket to adulthood. There will be no shame in such a person. Therefore, if she is delicate and smart, knows how to behave in society, then all doors are open to her.
Intelligence
One of the best positive female qualities on our list. It has a place in everything, such as the competent expression of one’s own thoughts, the ability to behave properly in company, the ability to dress beautifully or maintain a conversation on any topic.
Mind
This trait is equivalent to sexuality. Many people are attracted to smart people. They stimulate development and self-improvement. However, you should not overdo it, because there is a rather thin line between intelligence and tediousness. By the way, there are men who are afraid of such persons, since the latter have long begun to occupy high positions in the business sphere, which is considered male territory. Nevertheless, education has never stopped any girl.
Ability to love
One can discuss this topic forever. Love is a wonderful feeling and an important part of any relationship. It brings happiness and spiritual harmony and helps make the family truly strong. Most betrayals occur due to lack of love. A spouse who spends all her energy on work or raising children pays less attention to her partner. Because of this, he seeks affection and tenderness in others.
Loyalty
This is a quality that every girl should have. It is the “foundation” of marriage, and in its absence, most of them fall apart. Relationships where devotion, trust and love reign, remain happy for a long time.
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Passion
A passionate woman is not the one who is in constant hysterics, breaks dishes and is jealous of her husband at every post. This is the most powerful internal energy in a positive way. She attracts like a magnet, bewitches and makes you put the whole world at your feet.
Sexuality
This is an internal state that transforms any lady. A good wife attracts her husband and makes him want her. The opinion about this characteristic is very subjective. After all, gentlemen have different tastes. And if one person rates a particular person at 10 points, then for another she can barely reach 6. For this, it is important to understand male temperaments.
Charm
The ability to find a common language with everyone and to please others. A charming person is attractive not only externally, but also internally. It’s easy and pleasant to communicate with him, and just to be around.
Sense of humor
An extremely important positive trait of a girl. She knows how to get into any company, easily builds professional contacts, freely climbs the career ladder and arouses true interest in her person. The absence of this quality leads to tediousness and boredom. This also includes self-irony. A woman who is able to openly express her shortcomings and is not afraid to laugh at them is real gold.
Thrift
An important property for a good wife and mother. Any husband wants to come home where order, cleanliness and comfort prevail. With the fast pace of life, a woman has time in a day not only to go to work, but also to finish cleaning and prepare a delicious dinner. This is truly aerobatics. However, if you don’t have enough strength to do everything, you can distribute responsibilities by day of the week.
Openness
Pretense has a repulsive effect. Guys are attracted to companions who are not secretive. They are natural in behavior, have no complexes and are open in communication. Guys are attracted to sincerity. After all, this is the only way to attract the only one who can fall in love with the real essence, and not a mask.
The ability to forgive
Understanding that no one can be absolutely perfect is the main feminine quality. Everyone has their own shortcomings and advantages, everyone makes mistakes. It is important to accept this and not criticize your partner for mistakes. After all, only the support of a loved one can open a second wind in him and motivate him to further exploits.
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Presence of zest
A woman is a mystery that a gentleman seeks to solve. This is how he develops an interest in the person. And it will not fade away as long as the peculiarity that attracts the beloved remains in her. This includes not only the internal state, but also an unusual hobby, interest.
Self-development
Activity and determination attract the opposite sex. Those who have a broad outlook and strive for self-improvement arouse genuine interest. This encourages partners to work on themselves. After all, no one wants to lag behind their chosen one and be less smart and resourceful.
Communication Skill
The male sex loves sociable and open natures. It’s easy to find a common language with them, you don’t get bored and there is always something to talk about. But this property should not be confused with talkativeness. It is annoying because a talkative person has a need to interfere in the conversation and discuss uninteresting topics solely for the sake of the process.
Compromise
The phrase “I was wrong” has a truly miraculous effect. The ability to take into account other people's opinions, and not put your own point of view first, listen to your partner and make concessions will help make a marriage truly strong.
Ability to cook
Everyone knows that the way to a gentleman's heart is through his stomach. Every husband wants to come home after a hard day at work, where he smells of a delicious dinner. Not a single chosen one can ignore a girl who loves to please her companion with delicious pancakes in the morning and aromatic borscht in the evening.
Intelligence
The first impression is, of course, made by appearance. After all, this is what immediately catches your eye. But the presence of intelligence makes a man fall in love with his chosen one even more. To do this, you don’t need to complete graduate school, be a brilliant philosopher or a candidate of science. Simply being well-read and understanding the basic principles of life is enough. Smart gentlemen know how to appreciate such people. After all, how can you be ideal if your interests only include monitoring new posts on social networks?
Femininity
In the past, including this property in the list of the best positive qualities of a girl, girl and woman was absurd. This is as obvious as if, when buying a car, the dealership reminded you that you need a steering wheel. However, today we have to say that such a characteristic is important for any person. After all, some of them are endowed with such negative traits that men’s mouths open in surprise.
Confidence
Confident and beautiful becomes unsurpassed. Such friends will help you conquer the whole world and achieve the highest goals. The trait is considered one of the main ones in any personality, and is manifested in the manner of communication, behavior, and gait. It sweeps aside complexes and makes a person more interesting and sociable.
Self-esteem
Such a lady knows her worth and what she wants, and goes towards it with her head held high. She has ambitions that help her become successful in any area of her life, be it work or relationships.
Mental maturity
Many are precocious. There is an opinion that girls are born as adults, while boys become such throughout their lives. Perhaps this was the case before. However, today there is a downward trend in female maturation. Ladies over 30 can behave irresponsibly and be too childish. You become mature with experience. It is the result of overcoming the difficulties and suffering that arise while trying to achieve one's own goals. A woman with the described characteristic is ready for a serious relationship. And this is precisely what attracts the opposite sex.
Self-sufficiency
Self-sufficient individuals have innate independence. They are in a focused state, constantly fighting to change their own future. Therefore, it is not surprising that such people look with contempt at those who cling to a certain area of their lives. Even when it comes to family. Girls who are overly attached to their chosen ones can become ideal for some of them. However, this is a clear indicator that the lady has a flaw. Perhaps she does not have close friends or is not able to make acquaintances.
Of course, we should not exclude the fact that the person is a born housewife, and she does not need anything other than household chores and raising children. However, the ideal spouse has a certain level of self-sufficiency. And all that limits the freedom of such natures is devotion and fidelity to the beloved.
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Modesty
Such a girl knows that excessive pride and inflated self-esteem are the causes of real disasters.
Respect
In a couple, it must be mutual. The wife will not reduce the advantages of her husband, try to insult him or humiliate him. Especially in front of everyone.
Honesty
Few people will plan a serious relationship with a person who can cheat without a twinge of conscience. Moreover, most gentlemen do not know how to determine women's thoughts. They don't take hints, so it's best to talk about everything directly. This will help you overcome difficulties and solve family problems much more effectively.
Naturalness
They just love them. This property should be manifested not only in makeup and clothes, but also in manners, behavior, and the ability to behave in a team. Pretense is often repulsive, so be yourself and, as they say, people will be drawn to you.
Sincerity
Lack of fear to show true feelings and emotions. Such a woman is distinguished by pure intentions, denial of duplicity and self-interest in connection with a partner. She is free to communicate, says what she thinks about. And her love is expressed not in beautiful romantic phrases, but in actions.
Gracefulness
A characteristic inherent in real ladies. They always have a straight posture and a proud gait. Their movements clearly show how well they feel about themselves. And their “highlight” is the slight swaying of the hips when walking. All this has a hypnotic effect on gentlemen.
Don't focus on love
Many men call the main negative feature of women a tendency to, figuratively speaking, blow their minds. Accordingly, the ideal woman is the one who never, under any circumstances, blows her mind!
But what to do, you ask me, if your partner does not live up to your expectations: he forgets to call, comes home from work late, drinks, forgets about something important to you, or even flirts with other women?
If one of the listed scenarios or some similar ones occur in your relationship, this means only one thing: they don’t value you very much. And if, with your low importance, you also begin to take out your brain, it will only get worse.
But more often there is another problem. Men are less likely to be involved in relationships with the same intensity as girls. The life of representatives of the stronger sex consists not only of love; in their system of priorities, love is most often not in first place.
A man generally realizes himself through success. And this is important for us, women, for whom personal and family life is above all to understand. We lose our minds because we cannot reduce our attention to love and do something else. Love is the main sphere of our life, the main source of nutrition for self-esteem.
That’s why I constantly say that you need to develop other resources: don’t forget about your profession, for example, or at least your hobby! It is important to find areas to nourish your self-esteem that have nothing to do with love. That is, shift some of your attention from your partner to work, sports or school - but not to other men.
Thus, you will never upset the balance in the couple, giving your other half as much attention as he gives you. And you will have peace. And the man will be sure that he is lucky to have you!
Qualities that are valued in relationships
Let's consider the qualities that are important for people of all genders and are necessary for building strong relationships:
- Listening skills . Everyone loves to talk, but not every person knows how to really listen and hear the interlocutor. In a relationship, you need to be able to hear each other.
- Ability to compromise . Two different people cannot agree on everything, so you need to be able and willing to find a compromise.
- Self-sufficiency . If a person has nothing in life, then he makes his relationships the meaning of life. As a result, it requires constant attention, which provokes conflicts. It is important to have other concerns and hobbies and be able to do without a partner.
- Self confidence . If a person is not confident in himself, then he will torment his partner with causeless jealousy.
- Sincerity . Trust is only possible if you open up to each other. You should not hide your emotions, feelings, experiences and desires.
- Caring . Every person wants to be taken care of. Parents show their love through care, therefore, in a relationship, every person wants to feel care from their partner.
Having these qualities will help you build happy, long-lasting relationships.
Radiate femininity
Femininity has recently been turned into something perverted. Anyone who adheres to the idea that a woman must definitely wear a skirt, have long hair, and long nails understands nothing at all about femininity.
Femininity is not in skirts. And it’s a pity for those women who are able to find their femininity only by putting on some kind of symbolic outfit.
Femininity is not what you look like, but what you bring to the world and what you can offer your man. If you offer your wardrobe with skirts, then most likely you will remain a one-time woman.
Femininity is not a demonstration of weakness. It is a big misconception that someone actually needs a weak woman. You cannot interest anyone in weakness or need. No one will love you for your defenselessness and immaturity. After all, you are not a child or a fluffy kitten!
So what is femininity? First of all, it is kindness, tenderness, care, and perhaps the ability to yield. This is all that nature has put into a woman along with maternal instinct.
Femininity is the ability to be soft and warm. The ability to create comfort and an atmosphere of complete relaxation, to which a man will be drawn again and again.
What do mature men value in women?
Preferences among adult men change somewhat. In first place among the most valued female qualities is... a woman’s sense of humor. One recent survey among bachelors showed that approximately one in three considers him to be more important in a woman than her appearance. Mikhail Zhvanetsky said the same thing: “I love cheerful, kind, beautiful women.”
And he insisted on precisely this hierarchy of qualities. A sense of humor is one of the manifestations of cheerfulness, which is also highly valued by men. The dejected appearance of a woman may lead Adam to believe that Eve does not believe in his strength, in his ability to resolve a difficult situation. He needs this faith vitally! Further. Unlike “underage” adults, women’s intelligence and intelligence are valued. Probably because they themselves have already become significantly wiser and have even come forward in terms of educational and professional level. Then follow such qualities as sensitivity, gentleness, tenderness, caring.
And only in sixth place is sexual attractiveness. True, a sexual partner always wants to have more than he deserves (men are very, very uncritical of themselves), and often demands almost the impossible from their partner. Their common motto is: “A woman should be a queen on the street, a sexy tigress in bed and an excellent housewife in the kitchen.” Is it easy to combine all this in one person? (You should look at yourself, “sexy handsome breadwinner”!).
The main thing is not to confuse! 
Always a little "in short supply"
A woman who drives you crazy is always slightly in short supply. Both in correspondence and in meetings! And that’s why a man is drawn to her, he wants more and more, because she doesn’t overfeed herself, doesn’t suffocate, doesn’t hang over her. But she doesn’t do this on purpose, she herself doesn’t mind seeing a man - but she’s against imagining him for hours and dreaming about him in vain, because she always has better things to do anyway.
She has her own friends and plans, which, by the way, she will never change from a sudden call. Therefore, men know that with such a woman they need to plan everything in advance, and do not force her to expect specific steps, proposals, calls and meetings.
Remember: unrequited love does not exist for those whose lives are filled with meaning. But unrequited love will always find that person in whose life there is emptiness!
A certain future.
Why does a man value his car? Simply because he cannot imagine his life without a car. It's convenient, it's comfortable, it's reliable. With a car, he knows that he can get in it and go anywhere, anytime.
Why does a man value his work? Because work gives him certainty, he knows what to do tomorrow, he knows that work gives him the right to plan his future.
To increase your value, you need to make a man’s future WITH YOU look in his head as something truly comfortable, exciting, and interesting.
Many women unknowingly do this manipulation. They behave like sweethearts, allowing men everything, letting him do everything, going to football with him. And then they stop doing it. And the man sees that his future is becoming uncertain. And then the value of a woman falls.
Especially when a new employee at his work shows with all her appearance that he can do everything, everything is allowed, that she would be happy to go to football with him...
Don't cling to a man
Probably, self-esteem is even the first thing to start with on the list of qualities. If you look more closely at all the girls who are lucky in love, you will notice that they never cling, never ask for anything, which is why men themselves give them plenty of everything - love, attention or more material things.
Such women are easily able to break away even from their beloved man, as soon as they begin to love them less. They don’t create illusions, don’t cling, just leave!
You look at her and you understand that no one owes her anything, she is lightness itself with no complaints about a man. And this makes him want to lay the moon at her feet! But if you beg and pull everything, a man wants to give less and less. That's the whole difference.
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The release of emotions.
The car brings many different emotions. Speed gives drive and fear. Car breakdown is a regret. Repairs are a problem. I made a car, did tuning - joy.
Work also brings a lot of emotions. Salary, success in the company, colleagues, bonuses give positive emotions. Urgent work, blockage, boss is a brute, stupid gossip, lazy employees - they give negative results.
And the result we get is that all this gets the man hooked on his car; it’s not the best, but it’s his own. The job is far from a dream, but the man still appreciates it.
That's right. Emotions bind a person, bringing him closer to an object or person.
Based on this, we can conclude that in order to be appreciated, you must give emotions of a different nature.
The less emotion you give, the less value you have..
Scandalous personalities would never attract men to themselves if they did not know how to give positive emotions. First a stormy scandal, then stormy love. The result is that a man appreciates. Short. Clear.
Self-sufficient and independent
Develop professionally! Ideally, try to be financially independent, find a business that you love. And by the way, this is one of the factors that will add shine to your eyes.
Never put yourself in a situation where you begin to depend on a man; leave yourself the opportunity to safely slam the door if something bothers you.
Support yourself, from within. You have problems with a man, he left you or something else - it doesn’t matter! If this makes you feel bad, then you need to work on your self-esteem! Your self-esteem should not depend on others. Don’t start urgently changing and reshaping yourself in order to get someone back.
Remember that women who are loved are never guided by the love of other people!
