What is a pickup truck? Pickup artist tricks: how to recognize them and not get caught?

There are men who meet women not spontaneously and naturally. They use a specific technique to help achieve a specific goal. Communication templates are used - the so-called “openers” (openers). They force the girl to look carefully at the man and continue communicating with him. The goal of such a guy is to seduce a girl, “divorce” her into sex without obligation. Often a girl does not suspect that she has encountered a pick-up artist - and when she realizes that she was simply used, “conned” like a fool - disappointment and tears are inevitable.

Who is a pick-up artist and how to recognize him at the beginning of communication?

What is a pickup truck and who are pickup artists?

Pickup is a seduction technique. Thanks to the most arrogant and obsessive representatives of the pick-up artist tribe, a stereotype has already developed that a pick-up artist is a narcissistic male who collects random relationships and is immensely proud of the number of seduced women. But this, like any stereotypical opinion, is not entirely true. Often, pick-up artists are not cold-blooded scoundrels who dream of manipulating girls and invariably getting what they want, and not narcissistic peacocks trying to impress their company.

Among those who study and practice pickup techniques, there are adequate individuals who do not know how to communicate with the opposite sex in the usual ways. Pick-up artistry helps them overcome embarrassment and fears.

Do you think the purpose of pickup is intimate relationships?

Hardly. Who would sleep with a man who exhibits such stupid behavior?

33.33%

I don’t think so, but some are literally led by the manners and styles of behavior in question.

16.67%

Yes, I think that only people who want intimate intimacy behave in the manner described.

50%

Voted: 6

Dismissive manner of communication

The harsh truth is that neither abusers and tyrants, nor manipulators and pick-up artists will ever be able to gain power over a harmonious, self-confident person. Therefore, one of the techniques of pick-up artists is to belittle a girl, make a caustic remark about her appearance, ridicule her interests and thereby lower her self-esteem. Evoke thoughts like “Who needs me?” Such a person is much easier to manipulate.

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Common myths about pickup artists

It’s a rare pretty girl who wants a serious relationship in this age of network communication and quick online dating who hasn’t encountered pick-up artists and hasn’t been disappointed. Often, because of a couple of meetings, many women develop an erroneous opinion about pick-up artistry, which supports the existence of persistent myths about this phenomenon and the men involved in it.

The most persistent and widespread myths on the topic of what constitutes an average pickup artist:

This is a “mamsik” living with his parents, or a student. The guy doesn’t have enough finances, but he wants sex, so he goes out of his way, charming naive fools for sex for one night.

In reality, there are such examples, but the pick-up artist may not be a young dunce, but a fully established man of 30-40 years old. He just doesn’t want serious connections and obligations—and, accordingly, doesn’t want to spend a lot on them. Or does he ask the “most important” question: is he still able to please girls without money?

The goal of a pick-up artist is only and exclusively sex. Having achieved what he wanted, he loses interest in the victim and abandons her.

Not entirely true. Usually a pick-up artist gets a sea of emotions in the process of meeting and winning a girl. He likes to feel like a master of seduction - to some extent this is a creative process. The pick-up artist invents spectacular tricks, unusual compliments, unique ways (as it seems to him) to keep the girl’s attention.

Pick-up artists are men who are preoccupied with sex. The lack of sex naturally drives them crazy, so they scour in search of new victims; it would be better to go to a sex therapist.

In reality, pick-up artists are really interested in sex - they are convinced that any relationship should start with it. If sex doesn’t work out, what kind of subsequent contacts with this woman can we talk about? The pick-up artist acts as if in “economy” mode: he does not want to waste days and months on unpromising communication with the opposite sex. Or he just wants to have an interesting time, but is simply not ready for a long-term relationship.

The pick-up artist is a complete loser; no one wants to mess with him. This is a man with wounded pride, trying to prove to the whole world (both women and his company) that in reality he is irresistible. So he invents various ways to somehow interest girls and achieve sex: he needs to prove that he is not a loser.

Among the pick-up artists there are really a lot of creatures hung with complexes to their very ears. But often successful, established, attractive men who do not suffer from a lack of education, upbringing and finances also engage in pickup trucks.

Have you ever fallen for pickup tricks?

Yes, it happened. I didn’t know what it was then. Otherwise I wouldn't have gotten caught.

25%

Yes, but purely out of interest. It wasn’t even that she got caught, she just deliberately followed the lead.

50%

No, do I look like I'm crazy?

No, I was just lucky not to meet people using technology.

25%

Voted: 4

What psychological trauma can pick-up cause?

Girls who are hooked by pick-up artists can suffer psychological trauma for many years. On a subconscious level, they will stop trusting guys. Even if a man has sincere intentions and really wants to meet for a long-term relationship, they still won’t believe him.

For some girls, such an experience can serve as a starting point to a measured and hectic life, which was previously prohibited for them. A girl can withdraw into herself and put on a mask of indifference, but inside the whole world will turn upside down and will never be the same.

Signs of a pick-up artist

If you are not satisfied with “one-time” relationships and you do not want to become a victim of manipulation, your goal is to understand in time who the pick-up artist is and to monitor some aspects of your communication:

Male pick-up artists show increased attention to a woman, talk little about themselves, but are extremely “interested” in you, provoking you to be frank.

In a normal dating situation, a man and a woman share information about themselves on a mutual basis. “I work in... What about you?”, “I don’t like rap. What kind of music do you like?” The pick-up artist does not give truthful information about himself - in order to persuade you to have sex, he says what you want to hear.

When communicating with a pick-up artist, it seems to you that he naturally “reads” your desires and thoughts, “perfectly understands” you. This is extremely captivating and you lose your head.

In reality, this is an illusion, he simply portrays it, he doesn’t care about your ideas, desires and dreams.

The pickup artist is trying to psychologically influence you.

Pay attention to the pose (open), gaze (admiring), attempts at physical rapprochement (touching) - the pick-up artist strives for physical contact already at the first meeting, portraying admiration and tenderness.

Meeting a pickup artist is usually non-standard from a verbal point of view (remember about “openers”)? The pick-up artist will not say the banal: “Girl, can I meet you?” He will give out something more unusual: “Girl, do you know how best to spend my salary?”, “Girl, tell me, does my T-shirt match my jacket?”, “You don’t draw? You have the face of a real artist!”
He cares about appearance - clothes, perfume, image in general.
There are no signs of uncertainty or embarrassment in his manners and behavior - “I see the goal, I see no obstacles.”
If he didn’t achieve sex on the first date, then he will appoint the location of the second one himself. Probably some unusual place, but, please note, one where the man will not require significant financial expenses (the defining feature of a pick-up artist is that he does not want to pay for just communication, without sex). He may start convincing you that a date on a rooftop or on a half-sunken barge is extremely romantic. A normal guy will calmly go with a girl to a cafe, restaurant, exhibition, movie, without coming up with any excuses and without making up dates on top of a tower crane.
He is touchy, like a capricious princess. He himself can use caustic jokes, but he freaks out if they “tell him back.” Don’t be surprised: many pick-up artists are truly complex individuals, devoid of self-irony. But why do you need such a FIFA in your pants?

Do you think the signs presented are objective or still subjective?

I think that the signs presented can be “attached” to any person.

25%

I think they are quite objective.

25%

I don't think they are objective. Some of it is fair. But only part.

50%

I consider them to completely and completely describe the essence of the pickup truck and its “associates”.

Voted: 4

Bright future

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The idea that a pickup artist disappears as soon as he gets “his” is actually a myth. Not every pick-up artist abandons his victim after the first night together. Sometimes supporters of this seduction technique can keep a girl with them for months, or even several years, as an easily accessible sexual object or, as psychotherapist Lev Khegai puts it, a war trophy. At the same time, the pick-up artist creates the illusion that he wants to build a future together with his victim. Read about the phenomenon of benching so that if necessary, you will immediately understand that you are being kept on the bench.

How to communicate with a pickup artist?

How to drive away a pick-up artist if you have no desire to communicate with him? It's not difficult, there are correct ways:

Ignoring all his attempts and antics, complete lack of emotions. Remember: he is following a script and is convinced that his technique works. If you react to him like furniture, without reacting to the flow of compliments and spectacular antics, he is lost.
A sudden snarky comment helps destroy his confidence. “You’re too pushy—have you never had a girlfriend?” “Are you sure that all girls love dead flowers? I’m actually for nature conservation!”
Ask a bunch of questions - be interested in his biography, work, hobbies, “ex”, mom, dad... They don’t like to talk about themselves!
Offer to go to a pretentious cafe, buy you that branded handbag as a gift, or help pay for the apartment. It will merge - 100%! All the pick-up artist’s actions are aimed at preserving his finances.
Do not respond to calls and messages on social networks, reschedule dates for any fictitious reasons, preferably ridiculous ones: “I promised to help my friend dye her hair,” “Sorry, but at this time I’m walking with my grandmother’s pug,” “I’m allergic to the street architecture of our city.” "...
Avoid tactile contact. Coldness, indifference and even slight aversion to his touch - and it will dawn on him: he made a mistake, choosing the wrong victim.

Excursion into history

The word “Pick-up”, in Russian meaning, acquaintance for the sake of seduction, in other words - to remove, pick up, take advantage of. 27 years ago, American Jeffreys Ross wrote a book - instructions "How to get a woman into bed." The author guarantees that following his detailed instructions, almost any girl will become an easy prey for sex, without additional financial costs and long expectations.

The topic turned out to be in demand and later similar books were published in Russia with an emphasis on the domestic mentality. All of them are based on NLP (neurolinguistic programming), a kind of light hypnosis. The popularity of pickup trainings, clubs, forums, and websites is growing every year. Regular trainings are held, which anyone can sign up for, the average cost for 5 classes is 20 thousand rubles.

The training consists of a theoretical part, plus practice and a detailed analysis of actions. The “exam” is taken in nightclubs, and the student who seduces a sexy beauty receives a pass.

FAQ

What is a pickup artist afraid of?

The answer is simple and comprehensive: any responsibility for your actions. Judge for yourself. Here are the main pick-up artist fears:

Catch PPP disease from another partner. Visiting a veterinary clinic is unpleasant. It is humiliating to realize that you slept with a girl of the “last analysis” and was the 1001st with her.
Partner's pregnancy. Suddenly he starts demanding alimony or stuffs his belly into the registry office!
Rape charges. A pick-up artist with brains will not agree to intimacy with a girl who is in a darkened state of consciousness: drunk, on drugs. Or sleeping. And he does the right thing: sexual contact in all these cases is violence, the girl did not express consent to it. Or she expressed it while not being herself - and then has the right to accuse her partner of rape.
Jealous spouses and boyfriends. A competent pick-up artist, provoking you to be frank, tries in advance to prevent a situation with a scene of jealousy. Especially if he is physically much weaker than your regular partner - or is simply a coward.

Summary:
the pickup artist dreams of having sex, but not having to pay anything for it!

What is fast food in a pickup truck?

The English word "fast" means "quickly". Fast is the fastest possible seduction. If you managed to sleep with a girl immediately after the first date (more precisely, the date ended in sex) - this is fast. If there were several meetings before sexual contact, this is not fast.

What is a women's pickup truck?

The male pickup is aimed at overcoming the embarrassment, complexes and fears of a man that prevent him from making acquaintance with the woman he likes. Women's pickup also does not do without working on complexes, fears and embarrassment - and is aimed at ensuring that a woman can attract the attention of men. And the attention is active: a female pickup artist tries to look and behave in such a way that men will not just stare at her, but also try to get to know her. However, the most liberated pick-up girls themselves take the initiative in dating. It’s just that in our country this has long been considered indecent. And one more thing - male collectors are relatively rare; usually girls still strive to establish long-term relationships.

How to pick up a guy?

Many girls intuitively know how to do this or learn quickly - such advice will only do harm. But if you really don't know:

Study the object (if you do not strive for completely spontaneous acquaintances and connections). Knowing a person’s name, it’s not difficult to find his social networks and find out at least a minimum of information about him. This will help him talk about what interests him.
Learn to listen. Not only men - you also don’t like it when your interlocutor bursts into an endless monologue about himself and his beloved.
Prepare for your first date. It is not at all necessary to appear overdressed to the point of impossibility of sitting down and eating, but an unkempt appearance, a dirty head, smudged makeup and a sloppy manicure turn off many.
If a situation for dating does not arise, create it yourself: ask a man for help or advice. They love to feel strong—and authoritative. “Listen, there’s really no one else to turn to—can you help me get that little thing off the shelf? You’re so tall, I can’t reach you,” “What to do with a friend - I fell in love with Zuckerberg! Crazy, he's married! And he doesn’t live in Russia! Oh, are you an IT guy too? Tell me, how do they get to know you?”
Did the date take place? Don’t be embarrassed by mistakes and incidents, no one is immune from them. If trouble happens, try to turn it into a joke. One nice girl was sitting with a guy in a cafe and... suddenly she farted quite loudly. The guy stared at her curiously. And she asked: “Why does he hate me?!” The guy was surprised: who? "Pea soup! He’s trying to ruin my best date in my life!” The guy replied that the soup would not work. They have been married for 5 years already.

And be careful with tactile contacts! A girl who constantly reaches out her hands to a man and literally “hangs herself” on him looks like a pitiful creature without self-esteem
. Watch the idiotic show “Let's Get Married” and pay attention to how other “brides” behave, especially the middle-aged ones. That's it - don't!

How to show a man's interest in you?

The advice here is meaningless. If a man is really interested in you, he will show this interest. It is important to capture these points:

He takes the initiative, but at the same time listens to your opinion. If he suggests going to a restaurant, suggest going to the movies. To a melodrama or other clearly “not a man’s” film. He will go and try to watch with interest - you are important to him.
He is sincerely interested in you as a person, even if you excitedly talk about a hobby that is of little interest to men.
He does not hesitate to show signs of attention and care.
He gives gifts - and not formal and banal ones, such as flowers and sweets. He is interested in what gift you dream of.
He is looking for meetings with you, without citing being busy and tired, so as not to go on a date.

But the main sign of a man’s real, genuine interest in you is his prioritization. Does he prefer to drink with friends and have stupid conversations? And not spend time with you? He needs you for status or to wash his socks. But they are not important and not close as a person.

How to attract a guy using gestures?

There are 8 feminine gestures that invariably attract the attention of guys. It starts up when she:

shakes her hair - this movement is mesmerizing, especially if the hair is long and voluminous. However, it also looks impressive with short haircuts - if the hair is not 1 cm long;
shows off his wrists. They are considered - and for many they are - an erogenous zone. Women's wrists are thin, fragile, graceful compared to men's, and showing them is a sure way to draw men's attention to beautiful, well-groomed hands;
spreads his legs wider than usual - no matter standing or sitting. But the defensive pose is crossed, tightly clenched legs; love does not shine with such a lady;
sways his hips while walking or even standing - this is an openly inviting, erotic micro-movement, a non-verbal request “Rate my figure”;
plays with hair - twirls a curl or strand of hair around a finger;
slightly opens his mouth - this, frankly speaking, is a symbolic allusion to the female genital organs and the state of sexual arousal;
strokes an object in the shape of a cylinder - the stem of a glass, a cigarette, a bottle neck. A woman may not even realize that she is making this gesture - this is the work of the subconscious, a veiled signal about the sexual attraction she is experiencing;
looks sideways over his raised shoulder. Psychologists believe that a rounded and slightly raised shoulder is an imitation of a chest.

What do they teach in pickup truck courses?

Pick-up coaches like to claim that they help guys overcome their insecurities, learn how to meet people and make long-term connections. But this is a public lie. In reality, they teach: sexual relations are just a game. But its rules are determined exclusively by the pick-up artist, and not by the victim.

Clear goal

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Sometimes, to understand that this is a pick-up artist, it is enough to understand what goal these men are pursuing. The main goal of a pick-up artist is to seduce a girl, that is, to make her fall in love with him and take advantage of her gullibility to persuade her to have sexual intimacy. At the same time, pick-up artists try to invest as little resources as possible into relationships - both monetary and emotional. Therefore, if you understand that your new acquaintance explains himself in beautiful phrases, swears eternal love a few days after the first meeting and promises mountains of gold, without backing up his words with actions, know that this is a womanizer and a pick-up artist.