Useful phrases will help you adequately respond to an insult

Insults differ from constructive criticism and accidentally spoken offensive words in one important quality - hostility.

. The offender wants to hurt his opponent, cause him psychological pain, and humiliate him.

Thinking about how to respond intelligently to insults

, you need to take into account the specifics of the situation, the gender and age of the offender.

How to Smartly Respond to an Insult

A hero must be able to respond to an insult with a joke and thereby turn it into nothing.
Truly strong is he who cannot be hurt. Maria Semenova. Gray wolf

• 1.How to respond to insults funny and sarcastically
• 2.It’s easiest to answer with obscenities
• 3. Without swearing in smart words
• 4.Reply to the man
• 5.Reply to the woman
• 6.Examples of phrases
• 7. When to refuse retaliatory insults

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Calmness is the best response to insult

Every person, at least once, has experienced verbal abuse from a stranger. How to answer him correctly? Psychologists advise: do not react to the behavior of a boor. That is, you need to be calm so as not to give the offender a reason to continue to express his insults.

From personal experience:

A friend of mine is often bullied for no reason. She told the nun at the monastery about this. The nun replied that it should be taken as medicine. This means that the Almighty wants to raise you to a new level of spiritual development. That is, do not perceive it as an insult, but as a spiritual treatment.

This may be useful to some, but to others this answer will not suit them. It's hard to resist when they touch a nerve. Is it possible to learn to respond without rudeness and insults in response?

To make it clear that the insults did not offend you, it is better to remain silent. But I really want to answer in such words that the offender will be “beaten” and discouraged.

Do you always have to answer? Many people, as a result of rudeness towards them, lose their ability to work, feel good, and lower their self-esteem. To prevent this from happening, do not become a victim of boors, learn to respond witty and beautiful.

There are different ways to answer. Try to keep a few smart phrases in your head just in case. You also need to be able to protect yourself smartly.

The following warning will also come in handy: answer so beautifully that the offender is stunned, but does not become enraged and does not start fighting, this also happens. If a person is on edge or drunk, then it is better to remain silent. Stay away from such people.

Remember these phrases:

• I would have offended you, but nature has already mocked you.
• Are you really a socially unadapted Pithecanthropus or is it just me?
• For some people, the head is a decorative addition to one place. Is this yours by any chance?
• I had a doll, and her name was Fublya, she looked so much like you.
• The only thing you can do is turn a cigarette into ash.

Have the perception of a successful person

Change your interpretation and perception of insults and ridicule.

If you get teased or made fun of, that's cool.!

The way I see it is, “Yes, they are talking about me now. Mm...I'm pleased with that. It makes me popular. I'm cool and that's why they're talking about me now. They want to talk about me. They are interested in me. I'm successful. Yes!”:)

That is, I see only positive aspects in this. You're like a famous person!

Stars and popular personalities never pay attention to what is said about them.

Otherwise they would simply go crazy.

Decent responses to rudeness

How to respond to a boor's rudeness so that it gets through to him? The sad thing is that for some reason most people are unable to understand your clever phrases and are almost immune to humor. But if you decide to answer, and even if people are crowded around, then get ready to answer with humor.

If the offender does not appreciate it, the audience will laugh. And this can be worse than verbal insults. But don't stoop to his level, be above it. Answer politely and without swearing, even if his words were full of swearing. This will stun him.

• Your performance impresses the audience! Well, play, play. Otherwise you don't have enough PR.
• I thought that all your stock of stupidity had been exhausted, but you surprised me.

The easiest way to answer is with obscenities

Surely everyone has encountered people who are rude, use foul language or even threaten for no reason.
Such aggressors retreat only if they hear harsh words and threats in response. But it is also possible that the offender will become even more angry and the verbal conflict will transfer to the physical plane. The easiest way is to answer the insulter with obscenities. But before that, you need to objectively assess the environment

:

1. Are there two or three more of his friends nearby with the aggressor?
2. The conflict occurred in a busy place or in a deserted wasteland.
3. What are the physical parameters of the offender (perhaps he is a beefy big guy, and you are a fragile programmer about sixty meters tall).

Stooping to obscene language is the last thing, but in some cases you can’t do without swearing; this is the simplest and only effective method.
How to Insult a Person Smartly

How to disarm a presumptuous person

Sometimes it is enough for the person who offended you to say one word.

• "Thank you"

This one word contains both destruction and politeness, and therefore has a significant impact on a person. He is rude, and you are taller than him, so you answer with a simple word: “thank you.” Most often, the interlocutor immediately gets stuck and begins to think what it was. This short word shows him what an unworthy creature he is.

• “Thank you for the conversation”

A very effective method is to tell your interlocutor:

“You always say the right thing,” and not get into an argument with him, trying to defend your opinion. The person will receive satisfaction from his rudeness, and you turn around and go about your business. Even if you start convincing him that you are right, the presumptuous person will not understand you. Why waste time. Think of it as furniture. You won't be redoing the furniture, will you?

• “Are you being rude or what?”

Sometimes a person does not understand that he is offending you. Then tell him directly that his words sound offensive. Perhaps he will think about his phrases and will not act like this in the future.

• "Let's change the subject"

Many people are born impolite. Don’t get into an argument with them, just avoid the conversation that is unpleasant for you or leave. Do this as soon as your interlocutor starts saying things that are unpleasant for you. You can't change people like that. It is their nature to insult people. If you walk away or strictly stop the conversation, you will maintain your dignity and, perhaps, teach the insolent person a lesson.

• “You never miss an opportunity to be rude to me, right?”

If they start insulting you, then smiling, tell him this phrase. Or say this: “I know you have something unpleasant in store for me, save it for another time.”

How to recognize verbal aggression

A person is not always rude openly. Often they try to cover up rudeness with care, sympathy, concern, or even disguise it as a compliment. Some people do this spontaneously. They do not deliberately try to offend their interlocutor, but simply say what comes to their mind. Lack of tact and poor empathy prevent them from adequately assessing the reaction to their words.

Here are some striking examples:

1. This blouse suits you very well! My grandmother had the same one.
2. Do you understand quantum physics? But you can’t tell by looking at it.
3. For a girl, you're a pretty good driver.

Obviously, all of the above phrases will cause annoyance and irritation in the interlocutor. They are tactless and impolite, so they may well be considered verbal aggression.

Answer boor with humor

When your responses to rudeness sound funny, as if by chance, the interlocutor may not immediately understand what you are talking about. After all, he's cool!

• Do you always look funny or just today?
• Coming from a brat like you, that sounds like a compliment.
• You know, I would listen and listen, you babble so smoothly.
• You talk so interestingly, but at least once say something smart.
• Thank you for the advice, but most likely you need it, not me.

Another great way to discourage your interlocutor is to simply laugh in response.

Example phrases

If you nevertheless decide to get involved in a skirmish, then I offer you ready-made original, killer and even threatening phrases for all occasions. With their help, you will always have something to answer the offender:

1. Don't worry, someday you will definitely say something smart and funny.
2. Do not make me angry! I have nowhere to hide the corpses anymore. Come on, I'm kidding! There's still room!
3. Are you paying so much attention to my life because yours isn't going well?
4. I beg you, at least use bone marrow.
5. If I need advice, I will definitely seek you out.
6. Do you always have such a poor imagination or is it just a bad day?

The best behavior when meeting an insolent person

You can disarm an arrogant person like this: repeat the same phrase several times: “So what?”; "So, what is next?". Such a reaction will infuriate your interlocutor, and will help you maintain calm.

Just don’t get involved in mutual insults, because your opponent is just waiting for you to start getting annoyed. Don't give him pleasure.

If a coworker is constantly trying to get under your skin, be prepared to respond with sarcasm.

Sarcasm works like a cold shower.

• You say everything correctly, but it’s boring.
• You think you're insulting me, but you're just hiding your insecurities. I guessed?
• How primitively you think, I don’t even want to answer.
• Well, well, talk, talk, maybe something smart will come out.
• And this is all your vocabulary? You don't even have to pretend to be stupid.

If you answer the insolent person competently, he will probably be taken aback and fall silent, because he is ready for a skirmish.

• Should I answer you politely or tell you the truth?
• How primitively do you speak, but you are no longer able to express yourself more intelligently?
• What do you eat? Looks like carcinogens are destroying your brain.
• Are you using your shortcomings to try to hurt my dignity?
• If there is no intelligence, then insults begin.
• To get on the same level as you, I will have to lie on the floor.

Sometimes a person understands only when he is told harshly and rudely.

• Such a stinker can only communicate with flies.
• Have you even washed yourself today?
• You know, it would be better if they planted a tree instead of you!
• You see, your head is big, but you don’t have enough brains in it.
• Haven't you been sterilized yet? It is harmful to reproduce like this.

You can culturally reject the offender.

• Are you trying to offend me? It’s a shame to hear from an intelligent person, but from you it’s funny.
• Wow, how did you learn to speak smartly? Tell me where they teach this.
• It’s a pity that you can’t save the world with your intelligence and beauty.
• How interesting it is to watch you. I haven't been to the circus for so long.
• You do not like me? And so do you.
• Beware that fate will answer you in kind.

General advice from a psychologist

In any controversial situation, try to understand the person. In the matter of insults, this rule also works. Let's look at the psychologist's advice on how to react correctly.

Master your emotions

The main goal of an aggressive person is to hurt you more. Therefore, the first advice: do not show that you are upset, control your emotions. The insult of your acquaintances will end, because the goal has not been achieved, it is not interesting to continue further.

I suggest you take Nicholas Hall's emotional intelligence test. It consists of 30 questions, the completion time is 5 minutes. The results in the second scale of “Managing your emotions” will show your level from 6 to 36.

In order to fully control your emotions, I advise you to upgrade your emotional intelligence.

Ignoring an insult

Increase your distance

If you are insulted by a stranger in order to assert yourself in front of others, do not try to prove that you are right - this will not lead to anything good. Increase your distance with this person.

“Extinguish” with a smile

If it is not possible to increase the distance, try to appear confident, confuse your opponent with your wide smile and the question: “Why are you behaving this way?” Smooth out the caustic phrases and smile.

Such a reaction will earn others respect for you, and they will be able to defend you against the offender. Remember that your peace of mind will protect you. If you “climb into the bottle”, you may not calculate the strengths and capabilities of yourself and the “aggressor”.

How to reply to your friends

Some men can be rude to any woman. There are such! A male offender must definitely fight back. But be careful, if he is drunk, then you should not mess with him. It’s especially offensive when, in a fit of anger, your boyfriend insults you. If you want to put him in his place, then you can answer the guy rudely and offensively. But be prepared to part ways. Not every guy will tolerate an insult to his manhood.

• They say that when dignity is small, they try to cover the gap in this matter with another part of the body. In your case - with a long tongue.
• Your dignity has sunk to the bottom. Pick it up before it's too late.
• Don't you notice that you're falling lower and lower? But others can see it.
• I'm ashamed of my choice.
• You are morally impotent.

A man doesn’t need to be taught how to respond to a woman’s insult, they already know how.

It's harder to respond to a friend when she's trying to humiliate you. If you don’t want to lose your friendship, then just remain silent. If you don’t value friendship, then hurt it with phrases. Example: “You’ve never been very imaginative” or “How bad you look when you get excited!”, “Did you rehearse this or just came up with it”?

The main reasons for rudeness and rudeness

There are six of them.

• Dissatisfaction with your life, your position in society

Even the ancient Greek philosopher Aristotle wrote in his work “Rhetoric” that a person who takes out his anger on others experiences a feeling of superiority over them.

However, this method of self-exaltation is used only by those who are unsure of their status and doubt their social position. Such a person is dissatisfied with himself and his life. By insulting other people, he tries to raise his self-esteem and importance in his own eyes.

• Hot-tempered, explosive character

There are people who are easily irritated by any little thing and fly into a rage. They cannot control their emotions. Therefore, in a fit of anger they can easily offend a person. However, later, when they calm down, they often feel ashamed of what they did.

• Lack of education and communication culture

If a child has not been taught polite communication since childhood, the norm for him, who has already become an adult, will remain rudeness and disrespect. Street children who grew up on the street in unfavorable conditions become accustomed to treating others with anger and hostility.

• Desire to provoke

The offender may insult another person in front of eyewitnesses so that he loses his temper and reacts inappropriately to the rudeness. Thus, his reputation will be damaged.

• Arrogance and desire to assert oneself

Some people unjustifiably consider themselves better than other people. They, in principle, cannot speak respectfully and friendlyly to those who are lower in status than them. This is their way of self-affirmation.

• Stress and despair

A person can be rude if he has a hard day. Having thus thrown out the entire load of accumulated negative emotions, he may then feel guilty.

If you look at all these reasons, you can draw a general pattern - the offender is most often dissatisfied with himself, deeply unhappy, complex and unsure of himself. One can only feel sorry for such a person.

However, when we unexpectedly encounter obvious rudeness or rudeness, we react in the way we are already accustomed to. And this reaction is not always correct and effective.

How to teach a teenager to defend himself

Teenagers at school often resort to insults. You can, of course, answer boldly and harshly, but why, to hear a continuation? Isn’t it better to answer coolly: “And you turn out to be smart”? If the opponent continues, you should praise again: “Well, you’re showing your intelligence again!”

In general, at school it is difficult to immediately find an answer to rudeness. Simple questions should be asked, for example, “Is that all?”, “So what?” If the boor does not calm down, you can torture him with monosyllabic questions, then proudly leave.

Give him back his own words

And the most common way is to return the person’s insult back .

That is, you give his words back to him.

Here are examples from life with a beautiful response to an insult, where I return the person’s words back:

She: You're old. Me: Yes! I can be your father or grandfather! How do you feel when you talk to an old man? We see in others what is in ourselves. Look at you. It's great for a guy to be older than a girl. The older a man is, the better he is. For a girl this is terrible.

Him: You idiot! Me: How do I know YOU'RE not an asshole?

How to avoid online abuse

On the Internet, people can write anything to their opponent, because they do not see the person. Is it worth responding to rudeness and insults? Indeed, you can ignore such appeal. Better yet, do it in official, “dry” language so that the person understands that he did not offend anyone.

If it continues, you can of course answer impudently, rudely: “Are you a boor”? "I got what you mean"! But try listing to him the rules of politeness that you yourself come up with. If the insults continue, list the rules of politeness again.

By the way, the same technique can be demonstrated at school. List while bending your fingers. This will be a shock!

Dear friends, you have seen how to adequately respond to insults. Your right to choose something for yourself or come up with your own answers to offenders.

How to effectively resist rudeness and rudeness

There are several effective ways to respond to an insult.

Ignore

Quite often, psychologists advise not to pay attention to the offender and his insults. This must be done correctly. You can't show a rude person that you noticed him. Don't sigh, don't make an offended face, don't cry. These are all signals that the offender has achieved his goal - he humiliated you, hurt you. Your silence in this case will mean that you simply have nothing to answer.

For the correct reaction, do not show your emotions, maintain external calm and equanimity. Just imagine that this boorish person does not exist. He is an empty place for you.

But this method is not worth using in all situations. We must not ignore the rudeness that salespeople, conductors, waiters and other people working in the service sector allow themselves to display during working hours. If you remain silent in response to their insults, then such individuals will begin to think that they can do anything. It is best to leave a review in the complaint book or contact management, who should select staff more carefully.

If an inappropriate person, who may be under the influence of alcohol or drugs, begins to be rude to you for no reason, then the method of ignoring is best suited. Also ignore the attacks of so-called energy vampires. Such people expect a response from you because they need it to “feed”. If you start answering, your opponent will feel better and better. But you will feel exhausted and overwhelmed.

Reply funny and sarcasm

Answer your opponent with impudent, poisonous and witty phrases, maybe even in rhyme. Perhaps the rude person will not appreciate your subtle humor. But if your skirmish has an audience, then you will amuse the audience with your answers. The boor will feel unpleasant that they are laughing at him, and he will try to end the squabble as quickly as possible.

It’s wonderful if you naturally have a lively and sharp mind, and are able to instantly come up with caustic and caustic phrases. If you haven’t noticed this ability in yourself yet, don’t rush to get upset. I want to offer you a few sayings that you can use in the future in the fight against boor:

1. I'm not at all surprised by your words. It would be strange if you managed to say something really smart.
2. Sorry, of course, but I don’t have time to humor your complexes.
3. Nature really does have a wonderful sense of humor if she created such a specimen as you.
4. Every word you say convinces me more and more that your inner world is as rich in misunderstandings as your outer one.
5. A weak attempt, perhaps rudeness is not your thing after all?

Use psychological aikido techniques

The author of this method is Russian psychologist Mikhail Litvak. He suggests, in response to insults and unfounded criticism, to weaken the opponent’s ardor and deprive him of the initiative. To do this, you just need to agree with everything he tells you, thank you for your time and valuable “advice.” From the outside it will resemble a conversation between a doctor and a clinical idiot. You calmly agree with all his words and nod in response. A doctor cannot be offended by a patient.

For clarity, I will give an example of using this method. The boss calls you into his office and starts yelling angrily: “How can you work like that? Why is the report still not ready?” Instead of making excuses and trying to get out, it is best to answer: “You are absolutely right, the report is not ready yet. And really, how can you work like that?” Surprisingly, such an answer will cool your boss’s anger and calm him down. You admitted your mistake.

The advantage of this method is that you don’t have to come up with an answer. Your opponent has already said everything himself. All that remains is to slightly paraphrase his statement addressed to you. The method is good to use when communicating with dominant people, for example, with management.

But this method is not suitable for those people who cannot maintain iron calm and composure. For many people, emotions completely turn off their minds. They are confused, offended, angry. In order to effectively use psychological aikido, you must learn to regulate your emotions.

Become a bore

This method is often used by service industry workers who cannot be directly rude to an inappropriate client (waiters, consultants, salespeople), as well as administrators of various groups on social networks, chat rooms, websites and blogs on the Internet.

Let's imagine a situation in which a client grossly violated the rules of the establishment, and in response to a fair remark he begins to be rude and even threaten. Then you, as an employee of the establishment, need to patiently, boringly and clearly explain what he is wrong about. Monotonous, emotionless repetition of the same phrases will help avoid conflict.

The method is also effective for users who are accustomed to breaking the rules established when communicating in online communities. The administrator lists in detail, dryly and without unnecessary emotions the points that the user has violated. If the user does not calm down and starts writing nasty things in a personal message to the administrator, then it is better to simply ban him.

Shame

Sometimes people can forget themselves and begin to behave completely tactlessly. If you know for sure that such behavior is not at all typical for this person, then it is better to try to shame him. Most likely, your opponent will understand that he is behaving inappropriately and has crossed the boundaries of what is permitted. Women, for example, can react in a similar way to insults from their ex-husband.

You can act in the same way when communicating with children. At different stages of growing up, children experience crisis and turning points. If you respond to aggression with aggression, the situation can become catastrophic. It is best to try to create a feeling of shame for the words spoken. The child will definitely understand that he behaved unworthily, and he will feel ashamed.

Crush with intellect

Often, a person who decides to be openly rude and rude, especially towards complete strangers, does not have a high IQ. You can drive such a boor into a stupor with clever words, using your intelligence and erudition.

Here are examples of phrases:

1. You should balance your diet because it contains too many carcinogens that have destroyed almost all your brain cells.
2. Scientists have not yet fully studied the intellectual abilities of primates. Let's leave your contact information, and I'll pass it on to a scientist I know. By the way, would you like to take part in a scientific experiment?

I advise you to watch an interesting video about how best to respond to an insult.

What should I do if I couldn’t respond to humiliation?

It is not always appropriate to respond to humiliation. If you can't find an answer, maybe that's for the best. Often a person does not realize why he insults, he himself feels bad about it, but he does not admit it even to himself. Sometimes silence in response to humiliation “sounds” louder than a microphone.

If you are still tempted to answer, try to do it calmly, without stooping below your dignity and moral principles. When faced with trolling or provocations, the best behavior is to ignore.

I just ask you, don’t make excuses if you’re not guilty. And when you are guilty, you should not make excuses, but apologize. Proving to another person that he is being unfair to you is almost impossible until he himself understands this. Therefore, do not allow yourself to be humiliated by your own excuses.

And also, if there was a conflict with a loved one, you heard insults addressed to you in a state of nervous system excitement and you yourself lost your temper, do not rush to burn bridges. It is much easier to destroy a relationship than to build one again. Try to understand the reason why the conflict situation occurred.

Say hi and I'll tell you where you're from

Greetings
The Russian language, to which we are all so accustomed, is in fact a Central Russian dialect. It has remained for centuries due to the fact that this dialect was spoken by residents of the capital. However, in addition to our literary dialect, there are other forms of the Russian language. That is why, from a conversation, you can easily determine which province a person’s roots are from. For example, say hi and I'll tell you where you're from. More details:

• Without going into complex linguistic features, we can divide the Russian language into northern and southern groups of dialects. This is a very rough gradation. As for the Central Russian dialects, from which our language is derived, it is somewhere “in between”.
• To the north we can include such regions as: Vologda, Arkhangelsk, Kostroma, Lady-Tikhvin, etc.
• As for the south, these are Smolensk, Tula, Ryazan and other provinces.
• Each of these groups has its own phonetic and grammatical features.
• For example, northerners “okayat” , and southerners “yakat” and “yak”.
• Of course, if a native of a province lives in the capital for a long time, he can “reforge”, but not completely. Specific features of the dialect will still appear periodically.

Every language in the world has its own greetings - and by using them you can determine what nationality a person is.

What types of greetings are there?

Greeting
As mentioned above, standard norms of human communication, as a rule, include greeting. In the Russian language, such addresses to a person as “Hello/hello”, “Good afternoon/morning/evening”, “hello”, “great”, etc. What are the types of greetings, and depending on what is this or that wording used? Let's figure it out.

So what types of greetings are there?

• Official

As a rule, they are used in relation to unfamiliar people, strangers, people much older in age or social status, respected people. This is “Hello!”, “Good afternoon/evening/morning!”, depending on the time of day. Alternatives such as “I welcome you” etc.

• Svoyskie

In the case of such greetings, the interlocutor is not called “you”. Various abbreviations and variations are possible. The most common greeting in this category is the word “hello” . of “halou”, “hai”, etc. are also often used. As a rule, such formulations are unacceptable in relation to an adult or much older person who is applying. They are used between people who have known each other for a long time, are close in status, or are peers.

According to the rules of etiquette:

• The inferior greets the superior first.
• The younger one greets the older one first.
• But the one who is older in age gives his hand first.

On the other hand, if a person enters an office or other room where people are already present, then he greets first. And at the same time, it doesn’t matter at all whether those gathered are his colleagues, partners or subordinates.

What is sarcasm

Sarcasm is the highest degree of verbal irony, which ridicules something or someone or expresses contempt. You say the opposite of what you mean (verbal irony), and you do it with a special intonation.

Sarcasm comes from the Greek words “sark,” meaning “flesh,” and “asmos,” which translates to “tear.” So literally the term sounds like “flesh-tearing”—a pretty gory image for the type of speech we use all the time!