Jealousy is a corrosive feeling of mistrust and doubt in another person. It turns out to be destructive both for the jealous person himself (mental health, low self-esteem, inappropriate actions) and for the object of jealousy (physical health, inappropriate actions up to death). It is exaggerated and exalted in some works of art, among some nationalities. In small quantities it is a cure for relationships, in excessive quantities it is poison. Poisonous orange.
Love is the most unsurpassed feeling of all in the human soul. Here you yourself know everything. Color – 7 colors of the rainbow.
Passion is anti-love. It has a bright beginning, a stormy and memorable continuation, a climax and an end, which is certainly followed by a feeling of disappointment and emptiness. It can manifest itself both to living beings and to inanimate objects (luxury items, antiques, branded cars). Color – the whole range of red.
Hatred is a feeling of deep disgust and rejection of another person. Destructive. Very destructive. Capable of putting a person into a state of passion. It happens to a specific person, a group of people, or society as a whole. Inherent in people who have no idea about love. It is believed that it can even compete with it, as evidenced by the Russian proverb “From love to hate - one step.” It is healed by love, as evidenced by the Georgian song “What was destroyed by enmity will be reborn by love.” Color – cold blue.
Lying is intentional misrepresentation. The weapon of choice on the battlefield for love. Produced through fictitious fabrications, inventions and very often simple female nonsense. Sooner or later, it will definitely become famous. It is not recommended to use this method too often, especially for people with poor memory. Color – marsh.
Envy is a feeling of annoyance caused by some kind of superiority. In both cases, it has a lasting destructive effect on the envier himself. It incinerates, does not allow you to live in peace, drink, eat, gnaws. It is treated by equalizing self-esteem, working hard to achieve results, and fighting laziness. There is an opinion that there are two colors - white (to the delight of people) and black (evil).
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>A table of feelings that will help you understand yourself
Fundamental Emotions
All human emotions can be distinguished by the quality of experience. This aspect of human emotional life is most clearly presented in the theory of differential emotions by the American psychologist K. Izard. He identified ten qualitatively different “fundamental” emotions: interest-excitement, joy, surprise, grief-suffering, anger-rage, disgust-disgust, contempt-disdain, fear-horror, shame-shyness, guilt-remorse. K. Izard classifies the first three emotions as positive, the remaining seven as negative. Each of the fundamental emotions underlies a whole spectrum of conditions that vary in degree of expression. For example, within the framework of such a unimodal emotion as joy, one can distinguish joy-satisfaction, joy-delight, joy-jubilation, joy-ecstasy and others. From the combination of fundamental emotions, all other, more complex, complex emotional states arise. For example, anxiety can combine fear, anger, guilt and interest.
1. Interest is a positive emotional state that promotes the development of skills and knowledge. Interest-excitement is a feeling of capture, curiosity.
2. Joy is a positive emotion associated with the opportunity to sufficiently fully satisfy an actual need, the probability of which was previously small or uncertain. Joy is accompanied by self-satisfaction and satisfaction with the world around us. Obstacles to self-realization are also obstacles to the emergence of joy.
3. Surprise - an emotional reaction to sudden circumstances that does not have a clearly defined positive or negative sign. Surprise inhibits all previous emotions, directing attention to a new object and can turn into interest.
4. Suffering (grief) is the most common negative emotional state associated with receiving reliable (or seeming) information about the impossibility of satisfying the most important needs, the achievement of which previously seemed more or less likely. Suffering has the character of an asthenic emotion and more often occurs in the form of emotional stress. The most severe form of suffering is grief associated with irretrievable loss.
5. Anger is a strong negative emotional state, often occurring in the form of affect; arises in response to an obstacle in achieving passionately desired goals. Anger has the character of a sthenic emotion.
6. Disgust is a negative emotional state caused by objects (objects, people, circumstances), contact with which (physical or communicative) comes into sharp conflict with the aesthetic, moral or ideological principles and attitudes of the subject. Disgust, when combined with anger, can motivate aggressive behavior in interpersonal relationships. Disgust, like anger, can be directed toward oneself, lowering self-esteem and causing self-judgment.
7. Contempt is a negative emotional state that arises in interpersonal relationships and is generated by a mismatch in the life positions, views and behavior of the subject with those of the object of feeling. The latter are presented to the subject as base, not corresponding to accepted moral standards and ethical criteria. A person is hostile to someone he despises.
8. Fear is a negative emotional state that appears when the subject receives information about possible damage to his life well-being, about a real or imaginary danger. In contrast to suffering caused by direct blocking of the most important needs, a person, experiencing the emotion of fear, has only a probabilistic forecast of possible trouble and acts on the basis of this forecast (often insufficiently reliable or exaggerated). The emotion of fear can be both sthenic and asthenic in nature and occur either in the form of stressful conditions, or in the form of a stable mood of depression and anxiety, or in the form of affect (horror).
9. Shame is a negative emotional state, expressed in the awareness of the inconsistency of one’s own thoughts, actions and appearance not only with the expectations of others, but also with one’s own ideas about appropriate behavior and appearance.
10. Guilt is a negative emotional state, expressed in the awareness of the unseemlyness of one’s own actions, thoughts or feelings and expressed in regret and repentance.
Signs of an introvert
Many people assume that an introvert is a reserved person because they usually have few friends. In fact, introverts do not show excessive social activity, but if desired, they can behave openly and friendly.
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There are a number of characteristics that distinguish an introvert from an extrovert:
- Craving for loneliness. Introverts like to be alone with themselves, engage in reflection and soul-searching. But they try to avoid unnecessary conversations and fuss.
- Observation. It is difficult to see an introvert in the thick of things - they would prefer to observe from the sidelines. It seems to others that a person of this type often withdraws into himself and is sad, but in fact, an introvert simply needs silence for complete relaxation.
- Punctuality. Most often, introverts are so punctual that it borders on pedantry. This type of people is distinguished by attention to detail, love of order and a measured lifestyle.
Strong emotions (their own and others’) prevent such people from hearing themselves, so they try to avoid too violent manifestations of their own and others’ feelings.
Table of human feelings and emotions
And I also want to show you a collection of feelings, emotions, states that a person experiences during his life - a generalized table that does not pretend to be scientific, but will help you better understand yourself. The table was taken from the website “Communities of Addicted and Codependent”, author - Mikhail.
All human feelings and emotions can be divided into four types. These are fear, anger, sadness and joy. You can find out what type a particular feeling belongs to from the table.
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And for those who read the article to the end. The purpose of this article is to help you understand your feelings and what they are. Our feelings largely depend on our thoughts. Irrational thinking is often at the root of negative emotions. By correcting these mistakes (working on our thinking), we can be happier and achieve more in life. There is interesting, but persistent and painstaking work to be done on oneself. You are ready?
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Pride is the strongest feeling, expressed in the thirst for self-respect. It can lift you to unattainable heights, it can throw you into the very abyss. With her you can bloom like a flower of paradise, but with her you can wither. In different social circles it evokes different responses: in high circles, in a sports environment, in business - it can generate a feeling of respect for a person; among ordinary people, people of the orthodox persuasion - can cause a range of feelings from pity to open hostility. Currently being actively promoted. Color – red.
Anger is a blinding feeling that drives a person into a frenzy due to obvious injustice towards him, the impossibility of eliminating this injustice. Anger has two shades: the first is destructive (it can cause harm to the person himself, others, even murder); the second is constructive - if in the process of experiencing an emotion a positive result is obtained (here we can give a vivid example of the behavior of a mother during the siege of Leningrad: a mother and a young child are in a village not far from the city, through which a railway track runs. A train is traveling along the railway track at high speed ". To get out of the village to the city for help, you need to get on this train. The train is not going to stop. The mother decides to jump on the rails, blocking the way for the train. The train stops with the grinding of brakes and the driver cursing, the mother and child board the train). The color is fiery.
Laziness is a sore of the soul that determines the entire life of the person who suffers from it. Laziness is comparable to a sticky web, once caught in it, it will take a long and painful time to get out. Laziness gives rise to many minor vices - lying, idleness, irritability, excessive consumption of food. Laziness can be associated with childhood complexes, fear of responsibility, and lack of willpower. It can be treated by force of will, with great desire. Sometimes it is the engine of progress, during which new items are created that simplify life. Color – purple.
Dejection is a depressing feeling of melancholy, accompanied by self-pity and playing the victim. It can be a desired permanent state in lazy people, permanent in people experiencing deep stress. It is treated with medication - from folk valerian to psychotropic drugs; mentally – from undergoing training to contacting specialists; spiritually - by transferring experiences into the realm of mystical experience. Non-standard healing methods with questionable results - alcohol, illegal drugs, numerous relationships with partners with questionable moral principles. Color – pale blue.
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Cultural code and brain function
It was said above that primitive people tried to be in the company of their own kind in order to survive. Subsequently, each nation developed in its own way. Psychologists say that there are extroverted verbal cultures (for example, the USA, Latin America) and introverted nonverbal ones. This includes Japan, Great Britain, and Scandinavian countries.
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Maria Lekareva-Bozenenkova, who works as a Gestalt therapist, says that patriarchal Russia was also focused on extroversion. This is proven by the Russian proverb “in cramped conditions, but not in offence.” This is observed in Russians even now. Russian people are open and sociable. However, introversion also has its own place in us. One can agree with this, remembering many Soviet and Russian films in which the characters do not demonstrate violent emotions, but play with facial expressions, eye expressions, that is, non-verbally.
Neuroscientists explain the behavior of introverts for physiological reasons. People who love solitude have high levels of electrical activity in the brain. This indicates strong stimulation of the cerebral cortex both at rest and when solving problems. Introverts simply need to protect themselves from a lot of external stimuli. For them, loneliness is salvation. Extroverts seek additional stimulation to keep their brain stimulated at the proper level. Psychologist Laurie Helgow says so.
Do you need to have strong feelings?
The stronger the feelings, the more fully they make you feel life and breathe deeply. But often strong feelings are tension and stress on the body. Experiencing strong feelings enhances the work of organs and systems - the nervous system, endocrine, cardiovascular. The body gets tired faster.
But all feelings in life cannot be absolutely strong. Life consists of the perception of the environment, while everything is perceived quite calmly in the same rhythm and pace, except for specific specific situations and circumstances. Strong feelings are replaced by not strong ones. Strong feelings have their own role and they come in the right situations.
Strong feelings are needed, they make it possible to live life to the fullest, to see all the bright colors. So, strong feelings can be called love and hatred. All these feelings are very important, they determine personal qualities and abilities, and also allow you to act one way or another in each specific situation. Even hatred has its own positive role, because when a person experiences strong hostility, he shuns and avoids the factor that gives discomfort and this saves him from stress.
Everything in life is measured and balanced. If some feelings are stronger, then others are weaker and a person experiences them more often. But without strong feelings there is no full feeling of life to the fullest. You can live your whole life quietly and it will be nothing particularly remarkable; an ordinary monotonous life is not boring, but not fun either. And you can make life bright, stormy, energetic, cheerful, mobilizing all the feelings, and then life is fuller and brighter, more interesting and eventful. Strong emotions in this case bring joy and prolong life. And if strong emotions associated with strong feelings bring disappointment and pain, then it is not advisable to experience such strong feelings and avoid situations when they arise, build your life and relationships differently.
Don't want to or can't?
Often people cannot distinguish introverts from simply shy people. They are similar in that they prefer solitude. However, there are significant differences between them. Shy individuals want to have many friends and be in the thick of things, but they are shy. Their shyness may be caused by their personality, problems with their figure or appearance, lack of experience, lack of fashionable things, or other reasons. Such people suffer greatly from loneliness. This can be seen even in their mood.
Introverts simply do not want to be in noisy companies. At the same time, they can have an attractive appearance, wear expensive clothes, be fashionable and stylish. Loneliness is a blessing for them. They rarely get upset if, for example, they are not invited to coffee.
About the peculiarities of dealing with strong feelings
Look at these pictures that I found on the Internet for the search “strong feelings.” They perfectly illustrate the attitude towards strong feelings and emotions in our society. Strong feelings are perceived as dangerous, as capable of destroying, tearing apart, destroying, harming.
We see in the images: experiencing strong feelings is torment. In the drawings, people’s faces are distorted by a mask of suffering, their bodies are writhing in agony. Strong feelings tear a person apart from the inside. This is true if a person holds back and accumulates feelings for a very long time. As a result, an excess of energy can lead to an explosion and affective reactions. The simplest example is to try closing the kettle tightly, plugging the spout and letting it boil.
In these drawings, splitting in the body is noticeable. Strong feelings split and tear the body into pieces. This illustrates the human way of dealing with feelings. The splitting of modern man is a consequence of our culture and civilization. The animal is whole. Animals act according to their emotions, desires and needs. A person correlates his emotions, desires and needs with the requirements of society. As a result of this correlation, the choice is often made not in favor of the needs of the individual, but in favor of society. This is how splitting is formed. Strong feelings and energy accumulate in the body and lead to suffering, illness, and emotions.
In these drawings the body is partially depicted. This is either the head or half of the body. We can experience, realize or channel our strong feelings only if we have a complete body. The lower body plays a huge role in this process. The abdomen and pelvic area are our most important energy reservoir, the legs are our connection to the earth, which provides “grounding.” If we “stand firmly on our feet,” then the energy of these feelings will go into the ground. The body will act as a lightning rod. If a person has no connection with the earth, his supports are weak, the lower part of the torso (belly - life), pelvic area (sexuality - vital energy, lower chakra) are split off, then the person has absolutely nothing to rely on, there is no channel for strong feelings.
It is this integrity of the body, this conductivity that we restore in psychological work with the body.
I am currently leading a body work group. In the sixth lesson we worked with strong feelings. After the class I was left with warm, trembling feelings and sensations. The participants were attentive to themselves and their body signals, which is very important.
In such work, you can always see how the parts of our body are interconnected, where there are splits in the body. If a person has weak supports, he leans poorly on his legs, feels them poorly, it will be difficult for him to express strong feelings and be in contact with them. A person, like electrical devices, needs “grounding”, otherwise “it will break through to the body.” In such cases, there is a fear of destruction: oneself, another, relationships.
Even our speech reflects this fear when people say: “It’s difficult for me to express, I’m afraid of offending, harming another.” Remember such expressions as “tearing with anger, with resentment”, “resentment gnaws, gnaws”, “feelings are torn from the chest.” Often fear is associated with a lack of support, stability, and poor contact with the body.
At the beginning of the lesson we did a voice warm-up. Participants learned to sound so that they could be heard, so that the voice came out from the center of their body, from the depths, to sound not with the vocal cords, but with the whole body and to feel resonance. This is how we find support inside our body to express strong feelings and establish contact with the body.
I am touched by how gentle, careful and minimal (homeopathic) working with this area can be and how it touches people from the inside out. The participants felt excitement, tears, and deeply hidden feelings (resentment, pain, suffering) arose. Our goal is to get in touch with feelings that are suppressed, which cannot be expressed in ordinary life.
Sometimes we carry very ancient feelings inside that were stopped in childhood. You can’t throw all these feelings out - reactionary reactions, catharsis are not needed here, not useful. Our task is to carefully dismantle the “rubles”, unravel them a little, touch and, little by little, master this energy for our own benefit.
Who are introverts
Psychiatrist Carl Jung in 1921 divided humanity into two types - extroverts and introverts. At the same time, it was based on the method of obtaining vital energy. Extroverts draw energy from social interactions: new acquaintances, noisy parties, long heart-to-heart conversations. Introverts are more focused on their emotions and sensations, as well as their inner world. Such people are tired of large noisy companies or the need for constant communication. They prefer a quiet evening, which can be spent reading an interesting book.
The need to unite in groups is inherent in people on a subconscious level, since in ancient times loners had little chance of survival. It so happens that most people are extroverts. In the new reality, it is much easier for them to achieve their goals, since they know how to insist on their own and declare themselves.
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Positive sides
Despite the obvious difficulties, introverts have a number of advantages over extroverts:
- Ability to reflect. Self-analysis helps you be prepared for troubles and build your life scenario without mistakes.
- The ability to listen and hear. The habit of separating emotions from the essence and understanding the motivation of the interlocutor helps to build the right line of behavior.
- Lack of temper.
- Introverts tend to think several times and only then act. This valuable quality allows you to make informed and correct decisions.
- High level of empathy. This trait makes introverts loyal and understanding friends, as they are capable of deep feelings and experiences.
It's important to remember that it's okay to be an introvert. Do not deny yourself the right to be yourself and live at a comfortable pace.
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How to adjust
There are several ways to help people with introversion live in an aggressive environment:
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- To avoid unnecessary intrusiveness from your work colleagues, you should directly explain that you are an introvert, so you get tired of noisy conversations and corporate events. Such frankness is usually perceived positively.
- You shouldn’t completely immerse yourself in paperwork, shutting yourself off from your colleagues. Sometimes you need to overcome yourself to establish a healthy atmosphere in the team. Set aside some time to socialize. You won't lose anything, and your colleagues will treat you better.
- It is difficult for an introvert to convey his proposals to colleagues and superiors, as this requires public speaking and lively discussions. Putting your ideas down on paper allows you to play to your strengths without putting yourself at a disadvantage.
- Take breaks during the day: have lunch, listen to music, or take a walk alone.
- If you had to be in a large company, then, if possible, conduct conversations while sitting. This will strengthen your position.
- Find something to do: help the hostess set the table or take pictures of guests. This will give you a break from talking.
- Sit to the side of your interlocutor. This will help avoid direct eye contact.
