How to invite a guy to meet so that he does not refuse VKontakte by correspondence, telephone, SMS. Phrases, examples

You shouldn’t think that the proposal to “date” should come exclusively from the lips of guys. In some situations, it is important and necessary for the girl to take the initiative. Sometimes a guy doesn’t dare to take the first steps, and here it’s worth showing cunning and perseverance like a woman.

If you miss this moment, it is unknown how long the guy will walk around and around and whether he will decide to take such a step. If you really like a man, take a risk, here and now! Let's look at the rules and techniques for asking a guy to date without him refusing.

When is it appropriate?

Before hinting to a guy about dating, a girl needs to:

make sure your feelings are reciprocated;
show that she is free;
watch your companion on a walk together or when visiting a cafe.

Dating proposals are different for different guys. Their appearance will also depend on what kind of young people the girls already have.

Who is the guy	Method
An accomplished man	It is necessary to appear more serious and drag out the intrigue longer. This way, the chosen one will better trust the girl and appreciate her.
Just a young man I know	Moving to direct action after a casual conversation.
Friend	Accurate influence with light flirting and coquetry.

Successful circumstances for asking a guy to meet are:

holidays;
spending time together on vacation or on vacation;
the moment of success of the chosen one;
evening, after a walk together;
after assistance provided;
after the young man stands up for his companion.

But it’s worth remembering that under no circumstances should you ask a guy to date if he:

severely overloaded with worries or work, since everything else will be of secondary importance to him;
has recently suffered family grief or has been widowed, he needs to be given about 2-3 months to recover;
just got divorced or broke off relations with a former flame; during the period while the chosen one moves away from this, he can be supported in every possible way, but no more than a girlfriend;
is in a bad mood, otherwise a decision made in such a state risks changing as circumstances improve.

If a guy likes a girl, then he will constantly look for a reason to meet her. Also, a strong representative of humanity will try to reduce the distance between himself and his chosen passion. He will look for her all the time if they find themselves in the same company, and will also start a conversation with her on any topic at every opportunity.

If all this is not observed in the guy’s behavior, then this means that he sees the girl only as a friend and nothing more. And from such a category to move into the category of a favorite passion is not at all possible. Therefore, it is so important for a girl to know in advance, before the start of meetings, how the guy treats her.

What does "meet" mean?

We are talking about romantic relationships. Couples may have been dating since their school years, but this does not always mean that their relationship necessarily has an intimate background. Young people simply spend time together: they go for walks, to the cinema, theaters, to the skating rink, to amusement parks and other interesting places. Also, such relationships imply caring for each other, signs of attention, and support. At the same time, the company of a guy and a girl, as a rule, is aware that they are a couple.

Mostly the initiative for such relationships comes from a young man or a man, but, of course, exceptions often occur.

What questions should a girl ask herself first?

Before proposing a relationship to a guy, a girl must answer a number of the following questions:

Does he like her and what does she think about it?
Is she interested in being with him?
Does she have common topics of conversation with him?
Does she often quarrel with him or give reasons for this?
Why exactly does she need this guy?
Does the guy do anything nice or nice for her?
If he does do something for her, is it with serious intentions or not?

In order not to make a mistake when choosing a guy for serious meetings, a girl should collect as much information about him as possible:

from mutual acquaintances and friends;
from social networks;
from the young man’s colleagues or fellow students.

Get to know the guy (hobbies, hobbies, interests)

In the first stages of dating, find out what kind of person is in front of you. Questions about the young man’s hobbies, childhood, and interests would be appropriate.

You can keep in touch with the following questions:

What movie have you watched several times?
Have you ever been to a concert of your favorite band?
You can swim?
Did you want to be like your parents as a child?
Do you often go outdoors?

Tell us about the last book you read?
What dish could you cook yourself?
What would you never order in a restaurant?
What is your life motto?
Do you think you could be trusted with a secret?

Effective ways to hint to a guy about a relationship

It is necessary to propose a relationship to a girl with your companion when it is established that his intentions have not yet reached their certainty. For example, a guy has not yet matured for them and is in thought. Just at this moment, his companion may hint at starting to date.

If it has already become known that the guy is in love with the girl as much as she is in love with him, then she should:

start taking better care of yourself in order to look more well-groomed and beautiful;
try to make yourself known to him often, to attract his gaze; actions should be confident, but not daring;
as if by chance, finding yourself in the same places as the guy, for example, at parties or at college;
add your companion as a friend on social networks and start actively corresponding with him;
joke often using tactile contact;
make fun of your chosen one;
show feminine weakness;
treat the guy with something after his help;
take more interest in his family, for example, asking about their health;
more often support with advice, but not in an instructive tone, but in a narrative one;
talk with him on topics that interest him;
praise and give him compliments;
talk about his positive qualities all the time;
constantly try to be completely selfless.

Method 3: feign helplessness

To encourage a guy to invite you on a date or meeting, let him know in your correspondence that you need his help, physical or moral. Most people have rescuer syndrome and it definitely triggers them.

41. Hello, it seems to me that only you can help me in this situation.

42. Today the computer stopped responding to any of my requests. Can you tell me what to do with it?

43. I don’t know a more professional car mechanic than you.

44. I’m planning to buy a new car, but I can’t figure out which brand to look at.

45. I wanted to send you a photo, but I couldn’t figure out the functionality of this application. It seems that I need specialist advice.

46. Today I was returning from work and almost became a victim of hooligans.

47. They promise heavy snowfalls, but I still haven’t installed winter tires on my car.

48. I just need to take a break from work, otherwise my head will explode.

49. Today I had to enter into a not very pleasant discussion with a man in a store who behaved incorrectly.

50. I bought a new TV, but I can’t cope with the channel settings.

51. I’m a little busy, I’m planning to nail the shelf myself.

52. I didn’t think that I would have to perform men’s duties around the house.

53. I injured my leg during training, I think I’ll spend the next 2 weeks at home.

54. I can’t move my arm, I’ll probably have to call a doctor at home.

55. Don’t know what to do if I don’t have electricity in my apartment?

56. I caught a little cold, so I didn’t answer you.

57. Household chores have accumulated and there is not enough time for the Internet.

58. My car made strange noises today. I don't know how to describe this phenomenon.

59. If restarting the computer does not help, what should I do?

60. I wanted to fix the closet door and accidentally ruined everything completely. Can you tell me the number of a good master?

How to make a guy figure it out on his own?

A guy interested in his interlocutor willingly welcomes initiative on her part and then happily intercepts this activity and begins to act himself. For this reason, a girl must always be close to her companion in order to always be at his fingertips. So the guy will more often try to please her with something, and also show his need and strength.

When meeting with a girl, you should not forget about the fleeting touches of your sweetheart. If a guy reacts positively to such signs of attention, then he needs to be supported in such a decision and become necessary and indispensable for his chosen one, temporarily falling out of his sight.

But at the same time, you should endure it yourself until the moment when he finally guesses and decides to take the “first” step.

The following are also considered effective hints to encourage action:

frequent but unobtrusive presence next to a guy;
an original and insignificant gift that a guy will definitely like;
natural and attractive appearance;
flirting and inaccessibility going hand in hand, so igniting the hunting instinct in men;
innocent coquetry;
seemingly random touches and glances;
clearly distinguishing your companion from all others;
genuine and extensive interest in his person.

To further shift the boy’s attention to herself, the girl will have to:

try not to be too annoying;
give up comfortable shoes and clothes and switch to dresses and heels;
be more friendly and smile more often;
arrange seemingly random meetings;
come up with topics for interesting conversations;
actively correspond on the Internet and communicate more in real life with your chosen one;
constantly radiate goodwill and confidence.

Any girl who dreams of a serious relationship can propose to a guy. But an offer of a relationship coming from a girl should not be too aggressive.

Why doesn't the guy offer to date?

You can't force a guy to ask you to meet. Encourage the young man to do this. With an imperceptible gesture, persuade your interlocutor to talk about the future. Find out if he wants a relationship. His answer is better than the endless questions in your head.

Why is the guy silent?

Afraid of being rejected

Few people want to hear a refusal of recognition. Perhaps the guy does not see hints of sympathy. Show your feelings by flirting, and the response will soon come.

Shyness and self-consciousness

Men, like girls, are shy and blush. A person may like you a lot, but their lack of courage prevents them from telling you about it. Show ease in communication, push the guy. He will notice your emotions and decide to take action.

Reluctance to take responsibility

Relationships are about responsibility, not just endless dates, fun times and tons of gifts in the room. Not everyone wants to burden themselves. Sit down and talk to your indecisive lover. If he refuses to move to the next stage, think: “Do I need such a person?”

Bitter experience of the past

You have fun together. The number of attentions is off the charts, but after the breakup he is not ready to take risks. Give me time to think. He will understand that the past experience will not be repeated with you. A conversation will help you open up and talk about your feelings about the future. Whatever the past, it cannot influence the future.

Difficult period in life

Due to the difficulties that have piled up, there is no time for amorous affairs. These are problems with work, family, study. Offer your help. He will definitely notice and become more attentive to you. Start a conversation if hints don't help. Do not be shy. You will put together a complete picture and learn about intentions. If a person is not ready for a relationship, you will not waste your time.

Perhaps the guy thinks your heart is taken. You could be seen walking with a friend, brother. Make it clear that you are free. Chat with mutual friends, go to parties, lead an active life in society. You will be constantly in sight of your loved one. If you have mutual friends, let them hint that your sympathy is more than friendly. If a guy has feelings for you, wait. Soon he will begin to actively show interest in you.

The guy may think that you won't make a good match. Perhaps he considers you unworthy of him. This case is more complicated. It's hard to convince guys. And it's not worth trying. If you are considered unworthy, he is not the only one in this world. You will certainly find a companion who will give you love and recognition.

It's good if you both show a willingness to develop a relationship. Push the guy to take serious steps. Alternatively, take the initiative yourself. Before you take action, tune in for the best result, do not doubt yourself.

How to speak openly about your intentions?

If you suddenly come across a very slow-witted or timid guy, then the girl will have to openly declare to him her desires to date.

But for such a serious conversation the following must be suitable:

situation;
the character and mood of the companion;
phrases and words.

A guy needs to voice his intentions very carefully and in a private setting. The proposal should not frighten or alarm you. It’s better to start the conversation from afar, unobtrusively. Both standard phrases and poems can become assistants for him.

Request for help

The most innocent and sophisticated way to make a man think that the initiative for the relationship comes from him. Your request for help should not be trivial, but very significant. For example, ask him to bring a bag of food for your dog from the pet store - 15 kilograms is too heavy for a fragile girl like you. A friend of mine once asked a man she was interested in to help... by donating blood for her sick dog. The man happily agreed - the blood, of course, was not his, but his Labrador. Now my friend is married to this man.

Offer on VKontakte, by correspondence, telephone, SMS

Sometimes even girls can be scared to ask guys directly to date. In this case, they can do this through the social network VKontakte. For example, girls often start a personal conversation in private correspondence with a guy about what type of female he likes or about the presence or absence of a relationship with the fair sex at the moment.

In messages to your chosen one, you can also write about your own interests.

On VKontakte, a girl can also ask a guy if he is ready to date someone. If he answers positively, then ask if he is considering a joint relationship with her. More courageous girls are advised to directly inform the guy about their desire to date. This saves time and eliminates the need for workarounds.

Using an SMS message, a girl can write to a guy about her liking for him and that she doesn’t mind starting dating him. If such a proposal turns out to be unacceptable to her, then she can ask for a date somewhere, at which she will then communicate her intentions, but in person.

Telephone communication regarding offers of meetings with a guy is considered more effective than an SMS notification. After all, the message may not be immediately noticed. The telephone conversation should be positive and calm. Right away you need to communicate with the guy neutrally, gradually bringing the matter to the point. The beginning of a relationship can be considered the interlocutor’s agreement to meet or date.

Girls who are inclined to adventure can calmly notify guys about their intentions by throwing them anonymous notes with such content that it would be nice to get to know each other better at a designated place. Such a message can not be classified, but can be made completely open by sending it by e-mail.

You can also make a beautiful proposal to a guy with a hint of a relationship:

in poetic form, but this is done only if there is firm confidence in the romantic nature of the young man;
in a cafe or at a concert;
at a disco or party;
with a romantic message addressed to your sweetheart.

Hook him with an extraordinary phrase

Once I attended a master class on cognac blending. We were given cognacs of different vintages with different aromas and asked about our associations. The master class was conducted by a man of amazing charisma; he spoke so inspiredly about the art of creating cognac that, after tasting it, I said thoughtfully: “This cognac reminded me of the aroma of wild forest mushrooms, and this one reminded me of a man’s skin after the rain...” The man looked at me intently. Needless to say, this was one of my brightest novels!

Examples of successful phrases

To let a guy know about their attitude towards him, girls can use the following phrases:

“Let me stay near you for a little while, because I feel very calm next to you, that I don’t even want to leave you.” This expression is appropriate when a guy does something. If he still does not drive the girl away, then she will be able to continue her conversation on the given topic.

A walk together is a great reason to ask a guy to date.
If suddenly a young man asks for something, then you can answer him, for example, “Anything for you.”
To demonstrate the special distinction of a companion from other men, the following expressions are suitable: “I don’t care about the opinions of others, I’d rather consult with you” or “I respect honesty and good manners in a man. It’s a pity that not everyone has the same qualities as you.”

You can invite a guy to date only when you are sure that he is really interested in his companion and is confident in her reciprocity. Therefore, before starting a relationship, it is necessary to interest the chosen one in every possible way, as well as attract his attention. A guy who is confident that he will not be rejected by a girl is more willing to agree to serious meetings.

Phrases suitable for inviting a guy to a meeting or date:

“I haven’t gone anywhere with someone for a long time, and I really want to go to the cinema or a cafe, but there is no company. Maybe we can go together?”;
“I really want to take a walk in the evening. Maybe you can join me for company? Otherwise I’m scared alone”;
“Let me ruin your weekend plans? I really want to go out of town, but I can’t go without you.”

At the end of the date, you can say to the guy:

“Thank you for a great evening, I really enjoyed it. I hope he's not the last. Maybe we can repeat it again?”;
“I’ve wanted to meet you alone for a very long time, I’ve been thinking for a long time about how to quickly accomplish this. Promise that next time you will think about it the same way”;
“It would be nice if we met more often and spent our free time together!”;
“When you get home, call me so I don’t worry. Till tomorrow".

For a direct message to a guy about your intentions, phrases such as:

“I’ve been tormented for a long time by the question: do you have a passion? Am I not suitable for you as your girlfriend?”;
“I admit that I really like you. Are you okay with us starting to date?”;
“You suit me a lot. How about we date?”;
“Such a guy without a partner! Let me be your girlfriend before they beat me to it?”;
“I'm so tired of beating around the bush! Are you going to date me or not?”;
“Can I ask you directly, saving my time and nerves - are we going to meet?”

Cases when it makes sense to take the bull by the horns

It is believed that taking initiative is the prerogative of a man. However, in the following cases, the proposal coming from the girl will sound organic and is unlikely to be rejected.

The guy makes it clear that he likes you. He regularly invites you to a cafe, to the cinema, to the park and to exhibitions. Calls to see how you are doing. Gives compliments. It seems that he does not have enough confidence in your interest to decide to have a frank conversation.
The man looks at you like you are a goddess. There is a possibility that he does not take active steps because he does not believe that he can somehow attract such a delightful girl like you.
The guy is completely immersed in study, work or hobbies. You suspect that he simply hasn't had the opportunity or time to see how well you two fit together.
A man has experienced a painful breakup and is now afraid of history repeating itself. What keeps him from romantic recognition is the banal fear of being rejected again.

There are at least two weighty arguments in favor of taking the initiative in the above and other cases. Firstly, by reveling in fantasies while waiting for moves from a man, you can waste a lot of time, which, as you know, is the most valuable resource. Secondly, it is very difficult to treat a woman who acts contrary to the canons with indifference.

Who to recruit as assistants?

A girl who wants to encourage a guy to meet regularly can take as assistants people from her environment who communicate well with him. Such mutual acquaintances will inform the young lady’s chosen one about her desires and intentions, and will also contribute to their rapid rapprochement.

The assistants will provide the girl with information about the character and lifestyle of the guy she has chosen. This information, analyzed subsequently, will increase the chance of receiving a positive response from the prospective life partner to the proposal to date. To get a clearer picture, the girl can also chat with the guy’s friends.

It is necessary for the girl to invite the guy to date if he does not dare to take this step on his part. She must do this delicately and interestingly, using only hints. Questions are asked directly only to very slow-witted and timid guys.

A few words about preparation

A girl in love wants to invite a man to meet so that he does not refuse. But for this you need to feel the situation well. Try not to rush, it is better to wait a little to check your feelings. During this time, the chosen one will also be able to decide. Psychological preparation is necessary in order to prepare mentally. A girl should remember that she is not begging for love, but wants to become a part of the guy’s life, share his sorrows and joys. It is useful to first collect information about the young man and understand what he is striving for. This will allow you to understand whether you will be good together.

How to avoid rejection?

For a positive response from a guy to proposals for romantic meetings, a girl must be able to present herself correctly, for example:

not be easily accessible;
do not hang yourself on the neck of your chosen one at every opportunity;
maintain mystery, but only in moderation;
represent a person engaged in self-development;
speak beautifully and gently in a gentle voice, avoiding filler words and curse words;
wash your hair frequently and style it attractively;
use discreet makeup;
watch your diet to have an impeccable figure;
prefer stylish accessories and beautiful outfits, especially skirts and dresses.

To avoid being rejected by a guy after trying to start a relationship, you need to follow some rules:

maintain sincerity;
do not make predictions about your relationships;
respect the personal space of the chosen one;
Don’t be too pushy so as not to encounter constant resistance.

If suddenly the object of the girl’s desires has another passion, then it is forbidden to even remember her while spending time together with the guy. It is better to overshadow all attempts to remember her with your own person.

If an admirer begins to give recommendations to a guy about his real girlfriend, then she runs the risk of immediately becoming just a friend for him.

At the beginning of communication, a guy should not be immediately frightened by conversations about the wedding, otherwise the chosen one will think that the girl is interested in getting married quickly. He will also be greatly burdened by long conversations about future relationships with him in marriage. Because of this, a partner can even easily run away from his companion without looking back.

In order not to seem vulgar to a guy, a girl should hold back her attraction to him until the relationship is announced. After all, any man wants to see a well-groomed and exemplary woman next to him as a future life partner.

So it’s better to postpone hints about sex to a girl until there is certainty and stability in the relationship.

To completely win a guy’s heart, a girl must learn to listen to him without interrupting. Representatives of the stronger half of humanity simply cannot stand companions who are inattentive to their statements. Their interlocutors must also be patient and submissive.

Asking a guy to date can be risky, as his decision may not be in favor of the girl. But you shouldn’t be afraid of this, because after finding out everything will become clear whether it’s worth continuing to wait for anything.

How not to behave with the guy you want to date

What is undesirable to do so as not to push him away from you:

Don't be his guy. You are a girl first and only a friend second. And not vice versa.
Don't be intrusive. No man can stand this. Moreover, while he is not constrained by any obligations and is not obliged to endure anything. Therefore, act easily, calmly, without frequently flashing before his eyes. Especially at the beginning. Then he will get used to it and will treat it differently, but at first it is important not to go too far.
Pay attention to your own appearance. It makes sense to work in this direction. Perhaps he is still paying little attention to you, because not everything about your appearance suits him. Find out what kind of girls he likes and try to get closer to this “ideal”. But, of course, without fanaticism. You shouldn’t undergo plastic surgery and pump silicone into your butt just to please him. This is just stupidity. Perhaps you need to lose a little weight, change your hair color, work on your style a little - slight changes, but nevertheless effective. Let your clothes emphasize your figure, don’t wear robes or ugly old things - this way he’s unlikely to see you as the princess of his dreams.
Don't glare at him. You don't want him to notice that you're following him. Suddenly he gets scared.
Flirt and flirt, but in moderation and naturally. Don’t pretend to be a doll, a touchy-feely person, or anything else. Try to be just a beautiful girl who is pleasant to be around.

How not to lose face if a guy refuses?

When a guy refuses a relationship, a girl should respond:

with complete calm and a sad smile;
without excessive dramatization and aggression;
with gratitude for your attention and frankness.

After this, the girl also needs:

be ready to continue communicating with the guy, but as a girlfriend, especially if there is an assumption that the chosen one will come to his senses and still decide on further meetings;
try to switch your attention to finding a new candidate for a serious relationship as quickly as possible;
avoid discussing the guy with your friends;
by all means refrain from running after a whimsical chosen one;
quickly distract yourself from unhappy love by intensely engaging in sports or creativity;
maintain a friendly and calm attitude towards the guy who refused her, without trying to convince him.

A modern girl needs to try in every possible way to get closer to a guy who is interested in her. By any available and acceptable means, she should encourage him to more regular meetings. Otherwise, you can very easily lose your chosen companion without offering him the opportunity to have a relationship with you in time.

Refusal is not a reason for despair

There is no need to prepare for rejection in advance. Get ready for a pleasant conversation. Did it not end the way you would have liked? Take it philosophically - at least you are no longer in limbo and can move on without wasting precious time.

In the age of emancipation and feminism, women are very often concerned with the question: is it possible to take a step towards a man first? Or is this bad manners and a woman should fold her hands on her knees and wait until the prince deigns to notice her? Perhaps you are languishing with desire and want to date a handsome man, but modesty does not allow you to say so. Let us tell you how you can hint to him about your sympathy.

My ex suggested dating, should I give him a chance?

There is a saying that “you can’t step into the same river twice,” but many couples who once rekindled their romance are ready to argue with such words. So, is it worth dating a person with whom you already had to break up once?

Arguments against"

You are simply lonely and bored, and have not yet found a more suitable candidate than your ex. The force of habit is also not excluded - you have a common circle of acquaintances, you know all the features of each other.

If you believe that you can come to terms with your ex-boyfriend's shortcomings, then most likely you are deeply mistaken. You may hold back for a while and convince yourself that you are ready to tolerate unreasonable jealousy, detachment, greed, or something like that, but sooner or later your irritation will manifest itself with renewed vigor.

If you previously had serious problems with the young man’s environment (friends or relatives), then they will not disappear anywhere. Yes, these people, at the request of the young man, can pretend for some time that the misunderstanding is a thing of the past, but in the end the true attitude will still make itself felt.

Arguments for"

In this case, there can only be one weighty argument - your feelings for him have not passed. You still love this guy, and you realize that breaking up was a huge mistake.

How to behave with your ex-boyfriend

If you nevertheless decide to give a second chance to your ex-lover, then you have to take into account some nuances.

Don't blame the guy

in what he was doing during the period of your separation. Perhaps during this time he managed to meet other girls, often went out to clubs with friends, and spent a lot of money on some stupid things. Understand that then he was a completely free person, and he had no obligations to you. By reproaching a young man for such things, you will simply lose his trust. Fearing your reaction, he will prefer to hide some details of his life from you.

Don't remember the past.

We are talking specifically about negative aspects. All grievances must remain in those relationships that have already been ended once. Having agreed to date a guy again, you begin to write your love story from scratch, taking into account all previous mistakes.