Caring as a manifestation of love in men

A man appears in every woman's life at some point. And when you’re not expecting it at all, yeah. And you begin to wonder - what does this even mean... Why now, instead of sitting and chatting with your friends in the evening over a cup of tea, you rush home early from work, cook yourself a light dinner in 2 minutes, take a shower in the same period of time , with the ease of an artist from a city park, you apply makeup, put on a dress that is intended for “special occasions” and rush to meet him...

And he seems so sweet - he shows concern: he will always offer his hand, open the door for you, help you put on a coat, carry bags from the car to the door and many other sweet things that accompany the candy-bouquet period of the relationship of all couples in love.

And in your free time, you wonder... What does it mean to him to care? What is happening to you, to you (yeah, the brain is already starting to play along with the situation and has created a couple, although in fact everything is just beginning). How your life has changed, what came with it, and what now eludes you like water between thin fingers. But the further your relationship goes, the more a man remains in your life, the less the situation lends itself to cold logical analysis and bright colors, the singing of birds of paradise and dreams, dreams, dreams begin to dominate in your head... About a strong family, children, well-being, everyday care husband about you and your children (yes, honey, since you’re thinking about children, it looks like you’re in love), vacations abroad at least twice a year and other little joys of life. This means that everything is going too far and it’s time to think seriously.

Before it’s too late, let’s take a closer look at him and try to understand who this man is, what he really needs and where your relationship will come. Why should he show his feelings? What goal does the man pursue? Does he show serious concern or is he a banal consumer?

What kind of women do men care about?

For a woman, the main requirements for a relationship to feel complete peace of mind are the following: intimacy, security and gratitude. A man can express all three feelings through care.

At the same time, men want to take care of women who need it (or at least pretend to do so). Therefore, if a woman behaves masculine, dominates the relationship, considers herself strong and independent, the man loses all desire to care for such a woman.

To receive signs of attention and care from her man, a woman must sincerely want it. You must remember that the man is in charge, and care is his primary function in your couple.

By caring for a woman, a man wants to see that this is really important to her, that she blossoms and feels more desirable. Therefore, never give up caring, even in the moment of a quarrel. Perhaps it is through caring that a man is trying to show you how much he appreciates and loves you.

Caring in relationships. Women need care.

Women want care, or rather they want love. But love for women is caring. They are waiting for a big and strong man to come and take the small and weak you in his arms. Hands on” is a universal cure for everything: fatigue, depression, melancholy, anger, guilt and more. We always need to be held in our arms: both in sadness and in joy.

Women are dissatisfied for two reasons: there is no one to take them in their arms or they eat, but they don’t take them. And as soon as someone takes care of her, it will immediately turn out like in “Prostokvashino” - “why was I angry? Because no one took me in their arms. And now I will immediately become kind! It’s exaggerated, of course, but it’s true. Any woman in line who steps on your feet and is rude, any female troll on the Internet, any gossip who is jealous of you is just a woman who has no one to take care of. Even if it seems that there is someone next to her. She doesn't feel the care she needs. She may simply not feel worthy of anyone caring about her. Maybe she doesn't even know what it's like. Maybe she doesn’t ask for care at all and hopes that she will figure it out on her own. Or maybe she is trying to achieve everything herself and strives for complete independence. Each woman has her own reason why she is left without care. Although there are also those for whom there is simply no one to care. There are much fewer of them, but it happens. A woman left without care and protection becomes more than just vulnerable. It's like she's naked in front of hundreds of people. She has to survive. We have to defend ourselves. You have to be aggressive in some way, create armor for yourself. Her behavior can be defiant, harsh, rude, impudent. Whatever. And the most important goal remains - survival. And then it becomes a habit. Seeing enemies everywhere, not trusting anyone, not asking for anything from anyone, not relaxing, not depending on anyone, being rude, pushing your way through with your elbows. A woman, left without care, turns off her heart, freezes her soul so that they do not interfere with survival. It’s as if he’s giving himself “Mental Anaesthesia.” It seems to be temporary. But some time passes, the anesthesia begins to wear off - and the pain in the heart returns. The pain that tells a woman that she is still alive. But often this pain only frightens - and again the heart receives its dose of pain relief. This is how life goes on. Without heart. According to the survival program. Any conflicts are a woman’s attempt to somehow get care. Most often - in strange and roundabout ways. For example, blackmail, manipulation, trading, one’s own achievements, hysterics, endless shopping, food, reliability. There are many things to list, but the essence is the same. A woman with such behavior, without understanding it herself, shouts in gibberish: “Pick me up in your arms immediately! But since the language is gibberish, it is impossible to understand her request. You can just hear a scream. Our mothers, mothers-in-law, bosses, colleagues - substitute here the woman with whom you have a difficult relationship - and understand that in fact they simply did not care enough. It was not enough and is not enough. It is not out of great happiness that they argue with you. Not from inner fullness. But only from internal pain and tension. Real happy women who receive enough care do not behave like this. They don't need to be rude to anyone to get their way. There is no need to force anyone to do anything. Next to them you want to live differently, behave differently. And the people around them are different - nice grandmothers, nice women. And this, by the way, is a reason to think about yourself - if there are only such “Evil Aunts” around you, then maybe you are not so far away from them? Maybe it’s high time for you to get hands on too? A tree that has not been helped to grow, and even sometimes interfered with, can grow terribly ugly, crooked, and wretched. It may never produce fruit or produce very, very bitter fruit. A woman who does not know how to love, who has not received care and love, can direct all her feminine power into anger against this most cruel world. With its power it can destroy and maim, fight, fight, destroy. But this will not make the world any better. But the power of caring in a woman’s life is much stronger than her past negative experiences. You probably know that an experiment was once carried out with plants. There were three categories of sprouts, and physical care for all was the same. But the relationship was different. To some they constantly whispered words of love, to others they said nothing, and to others they even whispered curses. The first grew faster and better than the second, while the third died. Even plants, let alone people, need care and love. And women need this same care in huge doses. Especially if there is a deficiency (and almost everyone has one. It would be great if “Na Ruchki” was recognized as a medicine for women too, prescriptions would be written for it, which could then be “sold.” That is, come and get it , what you need, without unnecessary conversations and requests. I’m sick, I need it, here’s the recipe. That’s all. It would be great if every unfortunate woman was sent to “Ruchki” without fail - as in correctional labor. To go there they sent all those who poison the lives of others: “woman, don’t you go to the Handles! So that in times of crisis they distribute not only dry rations and coupons, but also “to the Hands” - for women. Because if a woman is in crisis will be able to keep himself alive and happy, everyone else will not notice the crisis. It would be great if we ourselves learned to take care of each other and take each other “in our arms” when it is so necessary. Don’t yell, don’t be rude, but mentally hug and surround with care. And it’s easy to talk like that about strangers, the mythical world all over the world. But how difficult it is when it comes to your loved ones, your family. Especially about those with whom you have the most difficult relationships. So that mothers do not teach how to live, but take their daughters “in their arms,” even if the daughter is already forty. Especially if my daughter is already forty. So that grown daughters sometimes take their mothers into their arms, especially if there is no one else to take care of their mother. They didn’t figure out why it was wrong, they didn’t try to make mom happy, but they simply surrounded her with care. With love and respect. So that the mother-in-law accepts her daughter-in-law with all her heart into the family, without judging or competing. Surround with love the woman who will henceforth give love to your son. The more warmth you give her, the more warmth your beloved and big boy will receive. So that daughters-in-law see in their mothers-in-law women who are simply afraid of losing the love of such an important man for them. And they mentally took into their hands those with whom they constantly fight and who are hated so much. Everyone needs “hands on”. As often as possible. In any circumstances. And we can help each other with this - a women’s circle of sharing love through “on the Hands”. Just try to give at least a drop of warmth to every woman you meet. Give a small portion of care - mentally or tangibly. Take them all in your arms. Measuring your capabilities, a little at a time. Friends, colleagues, neighbors, relatives, all women who fall into your field. Take her “in your Hands” for a couple of seconds, warm her with your warmth and let her go in peace - so that she can pass it on. How quickly all wars and conflicts would disappear! And it would be worth starting with us taking ourselves “into our hands.” As they say: “take care of yourself, don’t trust such an important matter to strangers!” And it is true. If you start taking care of yourself, allowing yourself to accept care from this world, a lot will change in your life. Both externally and internally. A well-groomed woman is one you want to look after. Only if we take care of ourselves, nurture and cherish ourselves, then others also want to take care of us. Law. And if we neglect ourselves, but bill everyone around us - who owes us care in grams and how much - we will only get disappointment. Because first you have to take control of yourself. I take myself in my arms when in the evening, after putting the kids to bed, I sit in silence with my favorite fermented baked milk and make face masks, write articles, read books, do handicrafts or just pray, or when I walk alone in nature. Or do what I love. Or I allow myself to be alone, without anyone and in silence. These are my priceless moments, without which tension begins to accumulate in me. I can wait until my husband makes me happy, but I know that he cannot bear such a burden. No one can make a happy woman out of an unhappy woman. Until she herself decides that she is worthy of being taken into her arms. Only I myself can allow myself to be happy and take care. Then he can increase my inner wealth. Take me in your arms. After all, there is no such thing as too much “hands on”; an overdose is impossible. This is a natural medicine, without preservatives and chemicals, it is not only harmless, but also very useful. Each of us. And instead of an afterword. For men. And I would like to say a few more words to men. After all, the most pleasant thing is when someone you love very much takes you into your arms. Be it a father, brother, husband, son, friend, relative…. 1. don’t know what to do with a woman? Take her in your arms. 2. don’t know how to calm a woman down? Take her in your arms. 3. don’t know how to deal with her bad habits? Take it in your arms. 4. Can’t argue with her anymore? Take her in your arms. 5. Do you want to be heard? Take her in your arms. 6. Do you want to stop the war? Take her in your arms. 7. Do you want to get something from her (for example, a delicious dinner? Take her in your arms. 8. Do you want to become happy at home? Take her in your arms and don’t let go! Handle her with care. Don’t exploit. Take care. Protect. Love. And she will your talisman, amulet, your luck and your inspiration. Harmony at home begins with the woman who sits in your arms. Olga Valyaeva.

How a man shows care

To delight your woman is one of the main desires of a loving man, which is inherent in natural instincts. Therefore, it doesn’t matter at all how a man shows care. He can show you signs of attention, give you gifts, create conditions of comfort for you. You will definitely feel cared for by your man, no matter how he shows it. At the same time, remember that men are creatures of few words. They can express their feelings and care for you without words, through actions.

Concern for her safety

Meeting her after work when it’s already dark outside, walking her home after the meeting, calling a reliable taxi for her, rather than catching a ride - all these are natural manifestations of concern for the safety of a loved one.

These nuances are especially important during first meetings.

Women always pay attention to how a man says goodbye to them: he takes them home or offers to get there somehow, and then doesn’t even ask if everything is okay with her.

It is important not to overdo it with control - concern for safety is easily confused with excessive jealousy, when a girl is not even allowed to go out for a walk with her friends under the pretext that something might happen to her.

Concern for woman's safety

How to accept a man's care

First of all, a man wants to see that his care is pleasant and necessary for you, that it makes you happier, reveals your femininity, and arouses admiration for your loved one. Therefore, never reject the care of your man.

For example, if your chosen one decided to surprise you, but you didn’t like the gift, it’s best not to focus on it. Think about the fact that a man spent effort, energy and money to please you, and he did it voluntarily! It is best to express gratitude, and only then, after a while, delicately hint to your chosen one about what exactly you did not like about his sign of attention. Next time the man will definitely take your wishes into account. If you frown or are offended, then the man will probably want to surprise you again.

What does he do and is interested in?

The man may not be an academician, but if his area of interest lies in the practical plane - for example, in the field of car repair, then this is already good. For a man, it is quite a worthy occupation, and with “straight” hands and a “bright” head, it is quite capable of not only providing a piece of bread for the family, but also those very sought-after two trips a year to popular world resorts.

Of course, this point is not directly related to caring for you, but it can well be called “related.” Nevertheless, the material side plays, if not a key, but sometimes a very significant role in the life of modern couples. By the way, I remembered a friend of mine who is a specialist in internal combustion engines. A person without higher education, but a Specialist with a capital letter. He is so knowledgeable about foreign cars that people sign up for his appointment in advance. I recently bought an apartment in the very center of a million-plus city and had an expensive designer renovation done. Happy husband and father of the family. Taking care of his wife and children means a lot more to him than his own self.

How to thank a man for caring

There are several ways to express gratitude.

You can tell a man how pleased you are with his care, how much you appreciate his attention. You can also express gratitude non-verbally: with a warm look, a tight hug. Men, like women, feel manifestations of warmth and love.

You can also reciprocate with a sign of attention: cook a delicious breakfast or come to your next date in an irresistible look. After all, a man is very pleased to see his woman in dresses, with beautiful makeup and styled hair. Your well-groomed appearance and incredible appearance are also a gift for a man.

Women need care and attention. 1 Look at how he acts when you're not together

Notice how often he wants to see you. Let him make plans together. Notice how much free time he devotes to you. The more often he strives to spend time with you, the more you mean to him.

Allow for some flexibility if your schedules are jammed or conflicting due to work, school, or family commitments. However, if he is completely single, but wants to meet with you once a week, consider that this may be a sign of a conflicted relationship.

Check how often he contacts you. Notice how often he calls, emails, or texts. If he contacts you regularly, take it as a sign that he wants to be a part of your life. Give him a short break if he's extremely busy, but notice how much effort he puts into staying on your radar even when he's busy.

On the other hand, beware if he calls too often. If he calls knowing you're busy with work, family, or school, and yet expects you to drop everything and talk to him, he's likely caring more about his own needs than yours.

Find out what he does. If you don't see him soon, ask him what he will do. Assess his readiness or desire to answer. If his reaction seems evasive and vague, consider it a sign that he doesn't care enough about you to want him to share every aspect of his life with you. If he is open and talks about his plans for a certain time, take this as a sign of honesty and trust.

Take his word for it when he talks about what he will do. Don't snoop around or spy on him to make sure he's not lying (unless you have a good reason to do so). If he cares about you and he catches you following you, he may perceive it as a lack of trust, which could harm your relationship.

Say that you need time for yourself. Periodically tell him that you need some time away from him (either alone or with your friends). See how well he takes it. If he respects the fact that we all need a little time away from each other every now and then, count that as a plus. However, if he demands to spend every free second with him, consider that he cares more about his happiness than about yours.

Remember: it works both ways. Don't be upset if sometimes he wants to be with other people or alone, especially if you've been together a lot lately.

Why doesn't a man care?

A woman’s wrong behavior towards her man deprives her of many things, including the man’s care.

Perhaps you don't believe in your man enough. After all, it is the feeling that a woman admires the strength and achievements of a man and believes in him that is the best motivator for the entire male half of humanity.

Be feminine, radiate warmth and sincerely rejoice at the slightest signs of attention from a man.

You can often notice the following mistake in the behavior of women. The girl does not feel enough attention and directly speaks about this to the man. The man, in turn, tries to correct the situation and gives the woman a gift, for example. Instead of gratitude, he hears reproaches from the woman that this is the first gift this year. Finally! or a similar phrase is said by a woman.

As a result, the man realizes that his attempt was unsuccessful, he did not receive gratitude, and the woman continues to suffer.

Caring in the relationship between a man and a woman. Fundamental differences

In addition to the obvious physical differences, there is a significant gap in the mental sphere between men and women. Representatives of both sexes think and perceive the world around them differently. It is important for men to cope with difficulties on their own, without asking for help and without showing their feelings about it. A woman needs to discuss the problem with loved ones, openly expressing her emotions, to be listened to and understood.

Men are more pragmatic, rational, and logical than women. This is the result of human evolution and the struggle for survival. From childhood, boys are forbidden to show emotions and weaknesses; they are required to be strong, persistent, and self-confident. A girl, on the contrary, should be modest, gentle, sensitive and, to some extent, dependent on a representative of the stronger sex.

The secret of a successful relationship between a man and a woman is complementary to each other. A man is focused on results, achieving goals, which is why business is a traditionally male field of activity. A woman tends to concentrate on the process: raising children, needlework, caring for flowers and animals, etc. With this distribution of marital roles, conflicts are minimized. If psychological problems are transferred to the partner, the couple is doomed to separation.

Harmony in the relationship between a man and a woman lies in maintaining a delicate balance between logic and emotionality. He strives to distance himself from emotional relationships, maintain independence, and she is ready to dissolve in her partner.

Unfortunately, harmonious relationships between a man and a woman are quite rare today. The reason for this is the change in gender roles: the weaker sex is increasingly becoming the breadwinner, and husbands are staying at home with the children. No matter how different a man and a woman may be, the psychology of relationships is such that crises either strengthen connections and take them to a new level, or contribute to the separation of a couple.

Often a guy and a girl enter into a relationship only to satisfy their needs. But this path is wrong, since each of the partners is fixated on himself, does not see the other and is not ready to overcome the difficulties that arise. Such motives are not at all conducive to establishing strong connections. Sooner or later, such a union breaks up due to dissatisfaction of both partners.

How to interest a girl in order to attract her attention?

In this block we talk about the qualities that need to be improved in order to attract attention and interest. First, understand one simple thing: if you can’t get girls interested now, then you’ll have to change something. These changes may not be easy - the result depends on your persistence and level of self-knowledge. We will provide a complete list, but you are free to choose the appropriate items yourself.

Another important point: remember that women are people too. Accordingly, in order to become more attractive to them, you will need to become, in principle, a more interesting and communicative person. This does not mean that lines of gays will follow you. This means that first of all, universal personal qualities and communication skills are improved, and only then behavioral strategies regarding girls appear.

So, here's what you need to take care of:

Appearance. They always greet you by their clothes - remember? The first opinion about a person is formed in 7 seconds. You may not even have time to speak, and during this time the person is already deciding whether he is interested in at least saying hello to you. Appearance should be neat, well-groomed and attractive. To achieve this, take care of three aspects:

Cloth. It should be clean and ironed, modern and stylish. Being confident in casual wear is often enough, but you are free to experiment with your look if you are confident in your sense of style.
Body type. It is not necessary to have the figure of a seasoned athlete or bodybuilder. But the absence of excess weight, a muscular corset and posture will make absolutely any person more attractive.
Skin and hair. A couple of decades ago you didn’t have to worry about this at all, but now more and more men are trying to take care of themselves. To withstand the competition, get a stylish haircut, tidy up your beard, if you have one, and choose facial products that suit your skin type. This is not as difficult as it might seem, and the requirements for the appearance of men are still much less than for the body of girls. Remember hygiene, take care of your hair, facial skin, hands and feet.

Mind. Intelligence and outlook are important things for communication. Looking good but not joining the growing ranks of smart people won't give you much of a chance to have long, enjoyable interactions. In the era of Google, not studying is at least suspicious. It doesn't matter what exactly you are passionate about. It's important to be passionate about what you do and be curious about current social trends.
Confidence. Another important parameter, without which communication is not impossible, but difficult. You can choose a lively girl who will be touched by shyness. But everyone loves healthy self-confidence.
Communication skills. Active listening, the ability to remain silent at the right time, speak at the right time, flirt masterfully, ask at the right time or tell a story will make you more attractive, even if you missed the first points. But manners and communication skills most often go hand in hand with intelligence. Develop them together: it will be easier and more effective.
Respect. To yourself and the people around you. Without respect for yourself, you will not begin to like yourself - you don’t have to think about girls here for now. To feel your value to others, you must first believe in it yourself. Respect for others protects you from rudeness and meanness, which is also an undoubted and very big plus.
Determination. This is a little more than self-confidence: you not only realize your right to different actions, but also successfully implement it. Not a critical parameter, but determined people usually achieve more.
The desire for self-development. It is not enough to read ten or twenty books and scour the last months of news from scientific sources.
You should always be interested and strive for more. Try it and start with an interesting area. You will like it yourself