75 examples - what to write to a girl on a dating site

Dating girls on the Internet begins with correspondence. Below are real examples of correspondence with a girl that actually arose during the process of dating on the Internet (on dating sites: mamba.ru, tabor.ru, badoo.com, tinder.com, and In contact with). That's how it was.

Dear reader, please do not be surprised by the simplicity of the phrases contained in the examples offered below, because if you are pursuing the goal of creating a wide circle of women next to you, getting stuck on one is an unreasonable waste of time and effort. Especially when there are a lot of them, there is no point in coming up with fascinating words if complete banality rolls through. I selected the girls, not convinced them or interested them . In addition, all information on the site dedicated to online dating is based on two principles: simplicity and maximum efficiency. Therefore, the simpler the better, which will be discussed in more detail at the end of this article.

Read all parts of the article, starting from the beginning.
What to talk about with a girl on the phone.
What questions can you ask a girl?

You can come up with your own version of the first phrase, as well as subsequent words. And it's even better if you do. Be yourself, not me. But you shouldn’t strain your brain too much, unless, of course, you consciously want to.

At the same time, I would like to draw your attention to the fact that in order to save time and get better results, it is advisable to use one text template for all girls. You don’t write fancy words, trying to become a participant in Shakespearean dialogues, but simply copy and paste the prepared text to a large number of girls (this method is not very suitable for VKontakte ; how to start a VKontakte will be discussed below).

Personally, I do not recommend treating online dating as a way to choose a girl for a serious relationship. Rather, it is the development of quite important male skills of ease of communication with the opposite sex, as well as gaining confidence in one’s abilities. In addition, it is categorically not recommended to become attached to easily accessible girls, it will backfire on you. However, I will add that I am not strongly negative against dating sites, just be wary.

The text of the messages was not subject to correction, so when reading, please do not make any complaints about spelling.

How to create the perfect profile on a dating site

Under no circumstances should you immediately start looking for a beautiful girl after registering on the site. First you need to work with your profile, make it attractive and informative.

The first and most obvious thing to do is register. To do this, you need to look through the top sites and choose the most suitable one. Next, write the most important information about yourself:

tell us why you signed up
who are you looking for
about your hobbies and interests.

But you shouldn’t paint huge canvases: firstly, no one will read them, and secondly, you need to maintain intrigue.

Important! Check your spelling and punctuation, no one wants to meet an uneducated young man.

Be sure to add a photo (avatar). If you're thinking about skipping this point, congratulations, your mission to win the girl has failed. Photo is one of the first factors that the fair sex pays attention to . And you yourself, when you look through profiles, don’t you look at the photographs? It is important that the photo is of high quality; if you don’t have one, it’s time to go to a photo shoot. Or ask a friend to take a high-quality shot. The avatar should show the face and part of the physique.

It is done? Almost. Pay attention to the paid services of the site - this may be the opportunity to give gifts online or you will be added to the TOP of users. Each site has its own characteristics. If you are serious about finding a lady, this may help you. Girls like to see categorically minded guys who go towards their goal, sparing no resources.

Answer the three main questions that interest her

I know what interests you. She is interested in something else: who you are, what you want and why you chose her. An individual presentation will enhance the attractiveness of your profile and reduce the distance between correspondence and meeting. Without a pick-up artist, it is worth making acquaintances if there are good reasons for this - for example, your own business. Come on, don't be modest. Trumps - right away. "Hello. My name is Ivan. You know, everything worked out for me. Business, house, tree. There is no main thing. I saw a photo of you looking somewhere into the distance. And I felt that we were looking in the same direction.” You can write to a girl you like with feeling, sensibly and beautifully, even without business. Just don’t lie, but embellish – there will be room to grow.

First message

Before you start communicating, decide who you will communicate with - study the girls’ profiles. Some people seem inaccessible to you and you think that you will never achieve their attention? Don't panic, add her profile to your favorites, you'll come back to it later when you're already a pickup master. First, get acquainted with pretty, but, at first glance, undemanding ladies. It’s better to pay attention to those who have recently registered and are not yet in great demand among guys.

The most important thing to understand is that girls do not rush at everyone who writes messages to them. They especially do not react to banalities such as “Hi, how are you?”, “What are you doing?” - they have dozens of such messages and they simply go down, skipping new ones ahead, simply because they are not interested.

In order for a girl to answer you, you need to add intrigue and arouse curiosity.

The first thing you need to start with is to play intrigue, write something like this: “Hi, you don’t guess, but I know something about you.” Of course, the lady couldn’t resist and immediately asked. Girls are very curious and such messages will not leave anyone indifferent. But you don’t need to turn every message into a play on words. This is necessary at the initial stage, when you need to get interested. Afterwards you can communicate on distant, everyday topics.

Feelings, emotions and all that

I didn’t dare write to you for a long time, but I really liked you.
I wasn't having a very good day. And then I came across your profile. And my soul became warmer.
I look at your photos and a smile appears on my face.
I liked you. I would like to get to know you better.

You remind me of the heroine of the movie “...”.
When I look at you, the song “…” plays in my head.
Your profile is like a breath of fresh air among the same type of photos and quotes.
Your profile description is very interesting. The idea is controversial, but I absolutely agree. Because … .

Dominate or please

Many gorgeous girls are looking for a strong, domineering man, next to whom they can feel like a weak princess. Therefore, be persistent, be a little arrogant, but polite. Try to immediately go ahead and write “You are a gorgeous girl, write your number, we’ll call you and get to know each other better.” But there is one nuance here - go back to your profile, is the photo showing a confident guy who can conquer the world? No? Urgently look for a good photographer or change your clothing style and hairstyle. A girl may react warily to such a statement and slight impudence, BUT she will definitely answer.

If such tactics are alien to you and you are more romantic by nature, take it with compliments and refined communication. But beware of platitudes, there is no need for “You are beautiful”, “Super photo”. If you want to give a compliment about your appearance, don’t write “You look great,” but try to interest them by asking the question: “How many men have you already conquered with your beauty? I think I'm one of them."

Pay attention to the features of the girl’s profile, give compliments that relate to her, and not to all representatives of beauty. Note her manicure, clothes, hairstyle. Then the girl will see that you are interested in her.

Be interesting

Dull wimps no longer attract anyone. Therefore, in order to become the alpha guy that girls will pay attention to, it is worth developing your personality.

No, you don't need to know everything about everything. It is enough to understand each topic a little, write competently and be able to carry on a conversation. At the age of 15, it was enough to have a pretty appearance, be able to do somersaults and shoot with courtyard humor. When you have turned into an adult, such tackles no longer work.

It should be interesting to communicate with you. Funny themes, original jokes, rich life. This is the only way you will attract attention and stand out from the crowd. You can also approach a girl beautifully. Be persistent, don't ask, just offer.

Pump up the man in you so that there is a real woman next to you.

Common interests

The best point of contact will be common interests, which will automatically create a topic for conversation. But don’t write “Hello. What are you interested in?” Study her photos, maybe a lot of travel shots. Ask if she likes traveling, how often she allows herself to relax on vacation, what is her favorite place. And be sure to tell us about your travel experience, then the conversation will begin and, perhaps, you will spend your next vacation together.

If it is noticeable that the girl loves books, write “I recently read a collection of poetry from the Silver Age, I would like to know your opinion as an expert, how do you like it? Which writer resonated with you the most?” If it turns out that the girl has not yet had time to read this literature, ask what she is reading at the moment, tell her that you will also take up this book. And if the lady is really interesting, spend a useful evening - read the work and then you will have a topic for conversation, and the interlocutor will see your desire.

Brief conclusions

In short, for a successful first message, you need to briefly and succinctly describe the purpose of the appeal. Sometimes you can directly talk about the desire to get to know each other, but it is more effective to use some kind of excuse. Don’t forget to put the page in proper form, double-check your grammar, and get ready to deal with objections.

Don't put pressure on the girl, stay positive and remember that the purpose of your first message is to meet. Communication simply for the sake of communication in this case does not make sense. And if at first the young lady refused to meet with you, but continued the correspondence, then you should just wait. Give the girl a couple of days to get to know you better.

Don't drag your feet

If you see that the girl is friendly, and communication has become more active and constant, then it’s time to act and get her phone number. Then arrange a personal meeting. Don’t be surprised if the communication was pleasant and you thought she liked you, but in an instant the lady disappeared. This only means that you did not take a step towards a real relationship in time. The girl saw that the communication had reached a dead end, was not moving anywhere, and went to look for a more serious young man.

How to write to a girl correctly? Main themes

Everything is simple here. There is no need to reinvent the wheel.

Of course, you can start fucking around and shooting facts from the life of a chimpanzee. But it's best to write about something everyday. Something happens to a person every day. Write about this. Just don’t say, “I took such a great shit today,” choose interesting moments and write about them easily.
Jokes and jokes from the Internet. You can scroll through your Instagram feed or subscribe to a couple of public pages on Telegram and VK. Nowadays, memes can tell you a lot about yourself. So choose jokes that are relevant and interesting to you first of all.
But I can offer you something more interesting. In my “Viber Wars” course, I give a lot of working templates and teach how to adapt them to any situation. So I’m waiting for you at Akloni Academy.

TOP best phrases for dating

Now in front of you is a treasure trove of phrases that will allow you to win any girl. But remember that everyone is an individual. Choose words that will suit your interlocutor, and do not just copy and paste. Yes, yes, for future happiness you will have to work a little. To get guaranteed success, you need to know how to properly meet a girl.

I usually don’t meet people on the Internet, but I couldn’t resist you.
It's dark outside, smile.
I'm sorry to bother you, but I won't be able to continue living if I don't say that you're gorgeous.
I’ve been trying for half an hour to figure out what to write to you, but all my thoughts are only about your beauty.
Today I could not turn on the computer and then I would not have found out about you. Terrible, isn't it?
I know your name and that you have great hair, let me find out something else about you.
I didn’t believe in love and fate, but when I saw you, something changed in me.
I'm afraid that fate will no longer be favorable to me and will not give me a second chance, so let's get to know each other now?
You have an impeccable figure and I’m sure that a light dessert for dinner today won’t ruin it. Which place do you prefer to meet?
Do you think love at first sight exists? I don’t believe that, so I looked at you twice.
How does it feel to be the most beautiful girl on the site?
What are your plans for tonight? Let me change them.
Do you already have plans for your life? Let me correct them and write me off in them.
You are so beautiful that even gays will doubt their sexuality.
I don’t just want to chat, I have more serious plans for you.
Today it was reported on the news that a beautiful angel descended to Earth, isn't it you?
What is your name? I would like to try your name on with my last name.
Urgently! I need help! You wounded me to the very heart.
How lucky I am that I'm not married. In the name of communicating with you, I would have to divorce my wife.
In your eyes I see answers to many questions. But I don’t see only a phone number in them.
What does a simple guy need to write to a gorgeous girl to get her to pay attention to him?
I have very serious intentions for a shared cup of coffee.
Do you spend a lot of time at the computer? Let's take care of our health and meet in reality.
Let me give you happiness?
What do you dream about? My dream has already come true - I found you.
Hi Babe. How about close communication with a real man?
If I had a choice between a million dollars and an endless life, I would choose a minute of communication with you.
When I saw your photo, I canceled all plans for your sake.
I'm thinking about inviting you to the registry office, but maybe we'll start with the restaurant?
I won't be able to sleep all night if you don't answer me.
I'm afraid to oversleep, could you wake me up tomorrow with your call?
Today I looked in the dictionary of synonyms and next to the word “beauty” was your name.
You're obviously lucky today...
Do you sing in a choir? Me neither. I know we have a lot in common.
I'm not local, tell me how to get to your house.
Hello, I already agree...
Girl, what time is it now? I heard somewhere that (the time the girl will name) is meant for love.
Do you promise to kiss me if I'm wrong? Your name is Praskovya.
I won’t forgive myself if I don’t get to know you.
I dream of being in the 30% of those who have found their soulmate on the Internet, can you help?
Looking at your photograph, I am afraid of losing my memory from the dazzling beauty. What other talents do you have?
When I first saw you, I couldn’t close my eyes all night. Let's chat better?
Is it such a sunny day today or are you smiling?
Your photos are so hot that they will melt the ice of the Arctic.
When I leafed through your photos, the cat purred approvingly. Maybe fate?
Can you tell me how to cook an omelette?
I am a seller of happiness, but I will give it to you for free.
Hello. Don't worry, I'm not writing to you for another acquaintance. I want to invite you to the cinema.
I'm writing a novel about what girls want. Would you mind sharing some secret information?
Hello, what are you a professional at?
I want you to be the owner of my life.
I'll be brief. My name is Alexander and I liked you.
I see you're not going to make the first move? So I'll do it. Let's get acquainted.
Do you have a rope to tie our destinies?
Let me chat with you all night, otherwise I'm afraid of the dark.
When I first saw you, a star fell in the sky. This seems to be a sign.
Hello. The longest kiss in the world lasts 36 hours. Shall we break the record?
What is it like to be the most beautiful girl in the world?
What's it like to be the most wonderful guy in the world? I know, let's get acquainted.
Hello, is it just me or did you star in some TV series?
What are you planning to do after our shared walk?
Haven't we met anywhere before? I think I saw you in my dream.
Do you know what can be faster than light? Thoughts about you.
I have a very interesting life and I would like to spend it with you.
There is too little beauty in the world, add your photos more often.
Is it better for a guy to be handsome or smart? Which one do you want to see next to you?
I decided to buy a suit for a pug. Can you help me choose?
I was invited to a terribly boring corporate event. Let's walk it with you.
Hello. Do you think love is chemistry or something more?
Hello. Was it me who saw you when I was returning from paradise?
You look like an angel. What will you sell your wings for?
Girl, are you tired of annoying suitors yet?
Do you believe in true love?
What did such a sweet girl forget on this site?

Now you have a list of proposals that you can send to the girl. Please note that some of them are humorous, others are serious, and there are also philosophical questions. This set is suitable for any occasion. But remember that you need to select them individually for the lady; some may not understand the humor, while others may find the romance intrusive.

Talking about pizza

Example No. 16

“Have you tried the 4 cheese pizza at La Regina? He won the gold cup in Italy." It doesn't matter if she's never been to this restaurant.

Every foodie loves to talk about their favorite places to eat delicious food.

If she loves pizza, ask her if she's tried pizza at a special or little-known place.

Example No. 17

“Did you know that pizza as we know it originated in Naples in the 1600s? I learned this when an Italian guy yelled at me for questioning his cooking skills.”

The facts themselves are great and all, but you don't want to look like a know-it-all.

A little backstory about why you know a certain fact creates a more pleasant impression of you.

Rules of communication on the Internet

In order for the search for a lady to be successful, you need to know several laws:

be yourself . After all, there is a meeting ahead and it will be ugly if you said one thing about yourself, but in reality it turned out to be something else;
be persistent , but not pushy. If a lady refuses you once, take time and offer again, and do not immediately inundate her with proposals in one day;
don’t be rude and forget about profanity;
don’t ask about former relationships , the time will come for these questions.

What to write to a girl if she answered: we are moving towards the goal

If they answered you, well done. And you are also a “chatterologist” if you don’t get a contact in the first row of correspondence. While her attention is focused on you, take the number and invite her on a date. For example, for a horse ride. Cinema and cafes are popular but disastrous date options. You won’t be able to socialize at the movies, and kissing places aren’t for you yet. The cafe can drain your bank card because you never know what kind of truffles she likes. And by the way, you will never know if, on the laurels of your first success (“answered!”), you begin to surf the expanses of web correspondence. Remember about the “friend zone”, in which there are always vacancies. So that you never end up there, look at the article Top 12 places for a first date so that she will be surprised.